Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
And i really wonder how many people mean that they would literally starve and have to go without food in their bellies if they didn't take their kid with them to the grocery store to quickly grab food for a proper meal. I think instead people don't see bring the sick kid on a quick trip to the grocery store so you can feed the rest of your family a proper meal instead of 'whatevers around the house' as such an atrocity. I don't think it means that one would literally have to go with an empty stomach, or you would have to take a severely miserable child on a grocery run. Or that the house is ALWAYS with a low amount of food.
Really all of this is silly...grocery stores are so convenient, kids don't lie on their death bed regularly...a child won't be scarred by a 20 minute trip to the grocery store when they don't feel spectacular if need be. Thats what i mean by this just isn't a level of instability that concerns me whatsoever.
I will totally concede that if someone is truly living their life alone with no one giving a crap about them and truly can't put food in their stomachs those are some serious problems!
The bold is such an exaggeration, come on, even you have to know that. You know at least a little about my lifestyle, just an example, people with plenty of safety nets can on occasion find themselves in situation where bringing their sick child with them will make more sense then not. Doesn't mean they are on the verge of death and destruction of the fabric of their lives. I'm not even sure anyone said they HAVE to take their sick children all over all the time, we are just recognizing that on occasion you can find yourself in that situation. But it really is a matter of perspective thing i guess because i just can't see the experience leaving me as frazzled as you make it sound like it shouldSo yes, that may not be unstable to others, but it would make me distinctly unstable to be in that situation, personally. Everyone has their own comfort level, in life, however. I totally recognize that mine is different than other peoples, forged by my own experiences, and unique to me. If people feel totally stable raising a family with zero safety net, and having to take sick children all over because they have zero help, that is up to them. I'm simply debating why I feel like I do. If that earns me the title of elitist, I'm okay with that, but I honestly believe that it says more about society as a whole than it does about me personally.
Also...and about puking...i really can't think of a scenario where i have ever had to drag a puking child with me. I'm really talking about bad colds, and/or moderate fevers. Perhaps this is just really more about a level of comfort. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all bringing a barfing child anywhere, or one that has the runs. But a kid who's head is filled with cotton, and feels really cruddy and would rather be at home...and WILL be at home the majority of the day being well rested and cared for, they can withstand the 20 minutes it takes to run into the grocery store.