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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I'd love to know the secret to babysitters on short notice!
    Simple~ extra pay!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Simple~ extra pay!
    I don't know how you find them. I don't know anyone available on short notice. I was hoping to get someone for 2-3 hours tomorrow and I don't even have anyone to ask! We have a regular sitter for after school on weekdays but that's it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Yes, I totally admit to having great difficulty understanding why people would find themselves optionless, with children. I admit to thinking that that is a rather precarious situation, and not ideal for a family. And I do believe that when one undertakes bringing children into the world, being in a precarious situation is not one that I think of as ideal. I guess I never thought as that as elitist. It sortov saddens me that that idea is elitist? Like ~ a generation or two ago I think that that would have been a pretty commonplace mentality I would think? Some financial or community stability as an ideal for a family with young children as the norm rather than something available to the elite? It would probably make an interesting spin off. Either way, I think I'm tapped out.
    Only I am not out of options. YOU just dont like that one of my options is to take my sick kid on a quick trip to the pharmacy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    I guess that is all a matter of perspective, eh?

    I'm trying to imagine explaining this conversation to my Grandmother or her generation of cronies.

    "So I was talking about how I liked to keep my children home when they were sick. How I didn't like to drag them around grocery stores, or send them to school when they weren't feeling well. Or how I would ask a friend or relative for help if a child was sick, so that I didn't have to take them out. And I was called elitist to describe such a crazy, entitled life.".

    My grandmother was the poor immigrant wife of a corner grocer. I was extremely close to her. She did the above all the time. She was the farthest thing from elite that there was.

    I do consider it relatively unstable to not be able to send ones husband out for help, or to be able to hire an hour of help, or to be able to ask a friend for help, or to have family help, or to do any of those, yes. I do consider it unstable to truly have NO food in ones house. Those are situations that we are talking about in this debate. So yes, that may not be unstable to others, but it would make me distinctly unstable to be in that situation, personally. Everyone has their own comfort level, in life, however. I totally recognize that mine is different than other peoples, forged by my own experiences, and unique to me. If people feel totally stable raising a family with zero safety net, and having to take sick children all over because they have zero help, that is up to them. I'm simply debating why I feel like I do. If that earns me the title of elitist, I'm okay with that, but I honestly believe that it says more about society as a whole than it does about me personally.
    And my Grandmother raised 6 kids while following her engineer husband from town to town for work. They often lived in one or two room houses and she would have no support system. Her kids were always out in the community, whether they were sick or not. If they were so sick as to need medicine and her husband wasnt available, they went with her. I dont think this is a modern, breakdown of society thing at all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    Only I am not out of options. YOU just dont like that one of my options is to take my sick kid on a quick trip to the pharmacy.
    Well- no- most moms out w puking or crying kids look unhappy. And the kids certainly look unhappy. And if others get your kids germs we can imagine they are unhappy.

    So even taking ME out of the equation it doesn't sound awesome. Unless you enjoy all that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I don't know how you find them. I don't know anyone available on short notice. I was hoping to get someone for 2-3 hours tomorrow and I don't even have anyone to ask! We have a regular sitter for after school on weekdays but that's it.
    My gym. I'm there now. It's insane and I know I'm very lucky to have the resource. It's a Mecca for families and its 1 mile from house. It's like a kid fantasy- same for moms.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    My gym. I'm there now. It's insane and I know I'm very lucky to have the resource. It's a Mecca for families and its 1 mile from house. It's like a kid fantasy- same for moms.
    Yeah, I don't have anything like that here, I'm not a gym person. I go to the yoga studio. (Actually, they know a lot of sitters...I will ask!)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    I do consider it relatively unstable to not be able to send ones husband out for help, or to be able to hire an hour of help, or to be able to ask a friend for help, or to have family help, or to do any of those, yes. I do consider it unstable to truly have NO food in ones house. Those are situations that we are talking about in this debate.
    I think it really is just a matter of perspective. I really wonder how many people on this thread really mean that they have no help ever and would be left to die if it came to that. I don't think thats what it is. I just think some people don't see having to bring the kid out to the pharmacy as that level of desperation where we need to lean on someone else.

    And i really wonder how many people mean that they would literally starve and have to go without food in their bellies if they didn't take their kid with them to the grocery store to quickly grab food for a proper meal. I think instead people don't see bring the sick kid on a quick trip to the grocery store so you can feed the rest of your family a proper meal instead of 'whatevers around the house' as such an atrocity. I don't think it means that one would literally have to go with an empty stomach, or you would have to take a severely miserable child on a grocery run. Or that the house is ALWAYS with a low amount of food.

    Really all of this is silly...grocery stores are so convenient, kids don't lie on their death bed regularly...a child won't be scarred by a 20 minute trip to the grocery store when they don't feel spectacular if need be. Thats what i mean by this just isn't a level of instability that concerns me whatsoever.

    I will totally concede that if someone is truly living their life alone with no one giving a crap about them and truly can't put food in their stomachs those are some serious problems!

    So yes, that may not be unstable to others, but it would make me distinctly unstable to be in that situation, personally. Everyone has their own comfort level, in life, however. I totally recognize that mine is different than other peoples, forged by my own experiences, and unique to me. If people feel totally stable raising a family with zero safety net, and having to take sick children all over because they have zero help, that is up to them. I'm simply debating why I feel like I do. If that earns me the title of elitist, I'm okay with that, but I honestly believe that it says more about society as a whole than it does about me personally.
    The bold is such an exaggeration, come on, even you have to know that. You know at least a little about my lifestyle, just an example, people with plenty of safety nets can on occasion find themselves in situation where bringing their sick child with them will make more sense then not. Doesn't mean they are on the verge of death and destruction of the fabric of their lives. I'm not even sure anyone said they HAVE to take their sick children all over all the time, we are just recognizing that on occasion you can find yourself in that situation. But it really is a matter of perspective thing i guess because i just can't see the experience leaving me as frazzled as you make it sound like it should
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    Also...and about puking...i really can't think of a scenario where i have ever had to drag a puking child with me. I'm really talking about bad colds, and/or moderate fevers. Perhaps this is just really more about a level of comfort. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all bringing a barfing child anywhere, or one that has the runs. But a kid who's head is filled with cotton, and feels really cruddy and would rather be at home...and WILL be at home the majority of the day being well rested and cared for, they can withstand the 20 minutes it takes to run into the grocery store.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Well- no- most moms out w puking or crying kids look unhappy. And the kids certainly look unhappy. And if others get your kids germs we can imagine they are unhappy.

    So even taking ME out of the equation it doesn't sound awesome. Unless you enjoy all that.
    Also, do you really see a lot of people out with their vomitting children? I can honestly say I have never seen this. I mean, i've seen unexpected vomit, but not someone moseying through the grocery store holding a bucket under their childs mouth so they can do their full weeks shop.
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