I think if I had had some of the situations you guys describe happen, I would be a lot less relaxed about things than I am now.
Almost 1 in 5 women in US have been raped or sexually abused, study finds | GlobalPost
This was just the top Google search I could find. I had previously heard the numbers were 1 and 4. When my mother was a girl she was playing at the neighbor's house and was molested by the girl's father. A similar situation happened with DH's sister. It is much more common than people think. I am perfectly fine with being called paranoid. I would not leave my daughters with an adult man that was not family unless I knew them extremely well.
Aren't there statistics out there that sexual abusers are very often people you know well or are family? I think it's kind of arbitrary to protect kids from one type of sexual assaulter but not the othet
Quote from Wikipedia
Most sexual abuse offenders are acquainted with their victims; approximately 30% are relatives of the child, most often brothers, fathers, uncles or cousins; around 60% are other acquaintances such as 'friends' of the family, babysitters, or neighbors; strangers are the offenders in approximately 10% of child sexual abuse cases.
Ok. So according to that quote 60% of sexual offenders are acquaintances. I would not leave my daughters alone with a male acquaintance. I do not think an acquaintance = someone you know very well.
I wouldn't call friends of the family acquaintances... Nor neighbors in a lot of instances. You are distilling down the statistic