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    Default Single dad and a girls' sleepover party

    I saw this Dear Prudie question & answer on Monday & didn't think anything of it, but it was the subject of discussion on the radio this morning & I figured it might be an interesting debate question. Would you let your daughter attend a sleepover party if the chaperone was a single dad? Why or why not? Would your answer be different if it were a single mom and a party of boys?
    Q. Single Dads and Sleepovers: I'm a single dad raising four girls. My oldest is turning 12, and she wants to have a sleepover party at our home. My concern is would other parents think it's inappropriate for a single dad to supervise all the kids? I haven't had the opportunity to know other parents very well, but most know I'm a single dad. Should I have a female friend stay the night and help me supervise to put other parents at ease? I just want my daughter to have a great birthday, and I'm worried her friends' parents will say no because they feel uncomfortable about a man looking after the kids by himself.

    A: Unfortunately, I have heard from people who refuse to let their daughters stay the night at the home of a child being raised by a father, not because the father makes them uncomfortable in any way, but solely because he's a man. This is ugly and pernicious, and I'm hoping the other parents in your circle are not like that. I don't think you should mention your single status at all nor should you bring in a surrogate "wife" to ease the concerns of the other parents. If a single dad explained to me that he was doing this, that information itself would actually make me uneasy. Just come up with a guest list and send the invites, and with a houseful of 12-year-olds, in addition to your other three excited daughters, expect to get very little sleep, Dad.
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    ITA with Prudie's answer. If he's raising the kind of girls that I want my daughter to be friends with, then he's going to be a fine chaperone. I'm not sure I'd want to be the sole chaperone for a gang of 12-year-old girls, but if he's up for it, more power to him.
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    DH's daughter was 13 when we met and he would not let her friends stay overnight because he didn't think it was appropriate since he was a single man. She wasn't allowed to have friends stay over until we were married and I was going to be home.
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    I don't see a single dad as being a bigger threat than a married dad.

    I wouldn't let my kids sleep over anywhere where I hadn't met the parents so if I knew him and thought he was a decent guy they could go over.
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    Totally depends on the dad.
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    No body jump on me....but the thought of any sleepovers makes me nervous. Yes, I know they are a part of growing up, and I have great memories of them when I was a child, but man its going to be hard to let my kids go to them.

    So, my knee jerk reaction to this is no, I wouldnt let my daughter go, BUT at this point that is my knee jerk to any sleepover questions. I am sure I will get over it one day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    No body jump on me....but the thought of any sleepovers makes me nervous. Yes, I know they are a part of growing up, and I have great memories of them when I was a child, but man its going to be hard to let my kids go to them.

    So, my knee jerk reaction to this is no, I wouldnt let my daughter go, BUT at this point that is my knee jerk to any sleepover questions. I am sure I will get over it one day.
    I think this will get easier as your oldest gets a little older. We are still pretty selective about who we let our kids stay the night at, but they do get to have sleepovers.
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    I wouldn't have an issue with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    No body jump on me....but the thought of any sleepovers makes me nervous. Yes, I know they are a part of growing up, and I have great memories of them when I was a child, but man its going to be hard to let my kids go to them.

    So, my knee jerk reaction to this is no, I wouldnt let my daughter go, BUT at this point that is my knee jerk to any sleepover questions. I am sure I will get over it one day.
    I agree as my kids are always with me or grandparents outside of dd1 being at preschool. It makes me nervous to think about dropping them off for a few hours or a sleep over!

    But if I'm going to go through with it...the dad part isn't the issue.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    No body jump on me....but the thought of any sleepovers makes me nervous. Yes, I know they are a part of growing up, and I have great memories of them when I was a child, but man its going to be hard to let my kids go to them.

    So, my knee jerk reaction to this is no, I wouldnt let my daughter go, BUT at this point that is my knee jerk to any sleepover questions. I am sure I will get over it one day.
    I agree as my kids are always with me or grandparents outside of dd1 being at preschool. It makes me nervous to think about dropping them off for a few hours or a sleep over!

    But if I'm going to go through with it...the dad part isn't the issue.
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