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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    This may make me a terrible parent, but I don't have time to get to know everyone else's parents in such a deep way. My kids don't do sleepovers yet -- Juliet's too young and Nathaniel, although he's 9, doesn't want to -- but I am not a stay at home mom so my time is really limited. I know many of the parents on sight or for quick chit chat but there are only a handful I actually know "well". I would still let Nathaniel stay at someone's house if the parents didn't fall into that category.
    Me too Laurie.

    Aodhan was just invited to a sleepover birthday part for a friend at school. I know his parents. I see them around a lot and his father is wicked nice. He assistant coaches and always says hi and asks how Aodhan's doing. Stuff like that. I don't know the mother near as well. I see the actual friend often because he played basketball with Aodhan and also plays little league. He seems like a good kid.

    Thats about all I know. I plan on letting him go if he wants to.

    ETA: I never answered the original question. Single dad would not bother me.

    I really don't go about life assuming the worst case (and more unlikely) scenarios.
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    Well I didn't mean I had to have intimate dinners or anything with the parents but I would like to have had even a small conversation to get an idea on who they are.

    I'm not going to send my littler children over to someone's house without even a face to face conversation prior.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica80 View Post
    Well I didn't mean I had to have intimate dinners or anything with the parents but I would like to have had even a small conversation to get an idea on who they are.

    I'm not going to send my littler children over to someone's house without even a face to face conversation prior.
    I get that, but if you're worried about child molesters, a face-to-face chat won't be of any help in that regard. It will only screen out the obvious raving lunatics.
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    IMO, a sleepover party, with multiple kids, is different than just a sleepover at a friends house, and I would be more likely to allow my child to go to the party (in a few years), than just a one on one sleepover. I feel like that way if something makes them uncomfortable they have 'back up' in the other children, even if that just means staying within the group.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    IMO, a sleepover party, with multiple kids, is different than just a sleepover at a friends house, and I would be more likely to allow my child to go to the party (in a few years), than just a one on one sleepover. I feel like that way if something makes them uncomfortable they have 'back up' in the other children, even if that just means staying within the group.
    I agree that there are safety in numbers. I was trying to think about if i would have let him sleep over at the kids house if it was just going to be him. I'm not sure what i would do because in reality thats kind of very awkward and no parent has ever done that. This kid and Aodhan have never hung out outside of school or sports together and i've never had any parent go immediately from "My kid likes hanging out with your kid at school" to "lets have a sleepover"

    After like two play dates or something though? Sure, I probably would.

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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I get that, but if you're worried about child molesters, a face-to-face chat won't be of any help in that regard. It will only screen out the obvious raving lunatics.
    I didn't say I was...unless you aren't directing that to me. I specifically said my worry with a single dad is equal to a married dad and that worry is actually pretty low. There are other things that concern me more.

    I do feel it's my duty, with younger kids especially, to know where they are going and who is there. As they get older that may change. I may not need to feel like I have to have a convo. with the parents.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica80 View Post
    I didn't say I was...unless you aren't directing that to me. I specifically said my worry with a single dad is equal to a married dad and that worry is actually pretty low. There are other things that concern me more.

    I do feel it's my duty, with younger kids especially, to know where they are going and who is there. As they get older that may change. I may not need to feel like I have to have a convo. with the parents.
    What kind of conversation are we talking about? I'm just trying to figure out what is actually being determined by the conversation. Admittedly, i'm skeptical that people can find much of substance from a conversation or two. I suppose unless you have some very basic rules like not sending your child to a house with guns or a house with dogs or something. Aside from that...i'm skeptical how much else can be gleaned from a conversation with the parents.

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    double post.

    I think i'm going to start typing random things when i get a double post...just because I'm sick of saying "Double Post"

    I think I'll start picking a theme. Like barnyard animals or something...or characters from the smurfs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica80 View Post
    I didn't say I was...unless you aren't directing that to me. I specifically said my worry with a single dad is equal to a married dad and that worry is actually pretty low. There are other things that concern me more.

    I do feel it's my duty, with younger kids especially, to know where they are going and who is there. As they get older that may change. I may not need to feel like I have to have a convo. with the parents.
    I just think there's not that much you can really know from a casual conversation.

    I think it's great to know your kids' friends' parents and to be involved. It's just not something I can actually do, given the time constraints.
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