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    Default Soccer team switcharoo -- WWYD? update in post #9

    In our area, there are two levels of youth soccer: rec and prep. Rec is just for fun; if you want to play, you'll be on a team. There are no playoffs, no standings are kept, practices are once a week, and most coaches are parent volunteers. Prep is competitive; you have to try out for teams, there are playoffs & standings, practices are twice a week and you can be dropped from your team for missing too many, and paid professional coaches are the norm. Tiven has played rec for many years and has expressed an interest in moving up, partly because she was getting frustrated with losing games because her teammates didn't show up for practice, and partly because she loves the game & wants to keep getting better at it. In January, she tried out for a few prep teams, and was accepted on one of them. We paid a "club fee" of $250 in addition to league registration and waited for news about the season. Something seemed odd last week when we were told that practice would be on Wednesdays; when I questioned why there weren't two practices, I was told that there was a glitch with the parks department and we'd find out soon when our second practice would be. Today I found out, by poking around on the league website, that this team is NOT prep, but rec. It's not playing at the competitive level, it's playing at the just-for-fun level. What would you do? Trying to find a different team at this late point might be difficult, and especially since I've turned down recent offers from other prep teams because we thought Tiven was on one! If we leave her on this team, do we tell her that it's rec? This team is going to play against other teams she's played before at the rec level, including her school team, so the truth is likely to come out.
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    If it is something you want and can do as a family (commitment wise) then call and try try try.. Always be honest with the child.. that is my go to thing though. I tell them what I think (age appropriate, of course), and I think it would be good for her to know if she doesn't get on the Prep team, and that next year you will try earlier/harder etc. It will be a good learning experience for her to understand that adults make mistakes, and we can't always get what we want.. unfortunately.. and if she gets upset.. tell her you are upset too, console her and help her to move on, and do her best this year.. learning and gaining new skills to be even better next year.

    Price and commitment has kept us from participating in sports this year.. I can't drive the kids due to migraines, and my youngest had to come to terms not playing baseball.. but I was upfront with him.. and him with me saying all he really wants is to play catch sometimes.. I said.. That I can do
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    Confused, did she not make the prep team? If not did you get your money back?

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    We *thought* she made the prep team because that's what she tried out for and she was given a place on a team. It turns out that this team is NOT playing at the prep level. To me, it seems like a bait & switch because the club had posted the tryouts as being for their prep teams, not for rec teams. To DH, it seems like a mis-understanding because the club never outright said they were putting her on a prep team; we assumed it. But to me it's not an assumption; she tried out for their prep team & was placed on their team, so why would it *not* be prep? I mean, who would pay $330 to play rec soccer when you can play for $70 on another team? We have not asked for our money back, not yet, because we're still trying to figure out what to do.

    So the options seem to be:
    1. play on this team anyway, it's probably a better group of more dedicated girls & parent just due to the money involved, and better than risking not playing at all.
    2. try to get on a prep team, which will cost a lot more money and possibly require more time commitment due to tournament play. We turned down a prep team last season which was $250 a month, two practices a week, Saturday games every week, and Sunday tournaments all over northern California with Sunday off per month.
    3. try to get on a different rec team, which will cost about $20 to change her registration.
    4. not play soccer this season, which might also lock her out for spring since you're locked into the team for the full year.
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    Sounds like you want her to play soccer so I would do one or two.. regardless talk to her about it.. she might actually help you decide.. my children have made it easy for me to make decisions when things are hard. Are you willing to pay the more money and more time? Seems like you were when she first tried out?

    I don't see the point for 3, and obviously you wanted her to play so not #4 either.
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    I would go back to them and ask what happened, and push for the prep team. I think if she really wants to get better at soccer and pursue it, then prep is the way to go.
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    If you can't get her on a prep team, like you paid for, then get your money back. That's frikkin unacceptable, IMO.
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    Thanks for the advice, and also to those who wrote to me privately! I took a look at the roster for the prep team and there is one empty spot, and moving her would still leave the current team with enough players, so what we decided to do was ask them to put Tiven on that team. If they do that, then all is well. If they refuse, then we're going to talk with Tiven about what she wants and will definitely be asking for money back!
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    Update: the club refused to move Tiven to their Prep team. They said the team selections are based on age groups and Tiven has been assigned to the rec team. Period. No explanation of why they required tryouts if team selections are based on age groups, no explanation of why they want an extra $250 for rec-level coaching, and no explanation of why, since there *is* a space available on the Prep team, it will *not* be offered to Tiven.

    They did offer to facilitate a transfer to another Prep team. Thankfully, one of the clubs Tiven tried out for in January has a Prep team that still has space so Tiven is going to practice with that team tomorrow and we'll see how we all feel about it. This new club had offered Tiven a position on a different Prep team, which we declined because it was above her level and we didn't want her "playing up" in addition to moving to Prep. So fingers crossed that this new team likes her and that she does well at practice tomorrow. She's a bit bummed about not playing for the original club (after all, we did things with that club over the summer so she could meet some of the kids!) but she seems to understand that they weren't honest with us and that we're only considering a last-minute move because they didn't tell us it was a rec team. She wants to play at the Prep level but mostly she doesn't want to miss the season, possibly the year, so if this doesn't work out, then I think we're going to suck it up & stick with the original team. Either way, if we don't get our $250 back, we're filing a small claims suit, a couple of lawyer friends tell us this certainly sounds like fraud to them.
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