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    Dad Files $130M Suit, Alleging His Son Was Unknowingly Put Up for Adoption - ABC News

    Should the biological father have to sign off before an adoption? Now that the boy is 3 years old should he be left alone?

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    I firmly believe that in order for a child to be given for adoption, both parents should sign the paperwork. I am not sure why this would or could be either's exclusive choice. In cases of genuinely unknown paternity, then that is different. Both people are responsible for the child. I mean, you can't even get a passport without both being present or going through affidavits/notarized forms giving permission, so why in the world would giving the child up for adoption be ok? Clearly the most compelling reason for both parents' permission is so one parent doesn't skip country with their children. When I worked in social work, we made every effort to locate the father before putting the kids in foster homes - even if that father wasn't an active part of the child'd life. We had to present this to the judge when discussing placement.

    I don't know why this woman thought only her opinion mattered, especially given the role the father had actively been playing. irks me to death.
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    UT is just not going to stop until SCOTUS forces them to stop!

    Seriously ladies, if your son ever fathers a child out of wedlock, tell him to RUN to Utah as fast as he can to file intent to parent his child. There are so many cases like this one where young men are duped out of their parental rights.

    It doesn't really matter if women lie, adoption agencies break the law, and courthouses make "mistakes." Babies in UT don't belong with their biological fathers.

    So, yeah, a biological father should have to knowingly sign away his parental rights. And the 3 YO should be placed with his father.

    In many of the cases involving biological fathers seeking to be reunited with their children, people will mention, "too much time has past; your child has a 'family' they have bonded" etc. We need to call a spade a spade - it is a crime! The baby's mother conspired with the adoption agencies and were very deceitful. Why? Because they knew the father wasn't going to agree to the adoption.

    In the case of Baby Wyatt, the baby was born in VA and the state of VA awarded John Wyatt (father) custody. The baby's mother had sent John a text stating something like "I am considering adoption" that was all it took to start a 30-day window that John had to file paperwork in Utah! The child was born in VA and while she was still in the hospital, John tried to visit her. Denied. He went to the courts in VA and filed paperwork within something like 10 days of the birth. To this day - almost 5 years later - he is still fighting the state of UT. It's a very interesting case if you get a chance to look it up.

    Another problem with the system is that couples in UT are willing to take the risk of adopting even when they are informed the adoption may be contested.

    The state of UT has created a legal system where strangers have greater parental rights to a child than the young man who fathers that child based solely on the lies the mother tells.

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    Quote Originally Posted by myyams View Post
    I firmly believe that in order for a child to be given for adoption, both parents should sign the paperwork. I am not sure why this would or could be either's exclusive choice. In cases of genuinely unknown paternity, then that is different. Both people are responsible for the child. I mean, you can't even get a passport without both being present or going through affidavits/notarized forms giving permission, so why in the world would giving the child up for adoption be ok? Clearly the most compelling reason for both parents' permission is so one parent doesn't skip country with their children. When I worked in social work, we made every effort to locate the father before putting the kids in foster homes - even if that father wasn't an active part of the child'd life. We had to present this to the judge when discussing placement.

    I don't know why this woman thought only her opinion mattered, especially given the role the father had actively been playing. irks me to death.
    Because the entire state of UTAH is telling her only hers matters!

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    DH and I have been looking into and want to adopt. Stories like this really give me doubts. I think the father should have been given the chance to raise his child and that it is terrible that he was not. That said, I can not imagine adopting a child and after 3 years having to give the child back. Hopefully though, the family would have known from the begining that the adoption was contested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    DH and I have been looking into and want to adopt. Stories like this really give me doubts. I think the father should have been given the chance to raise his child and that it is terrible that he was not. That said, I can not imagine adopting a child and after 3 years having to give the child back. Hopefully though, the family would have known from the begining that the adoption was contested.
    They did know from the beginning. He filed for paternity one week after the birth. They purposely drag it out so they can say well now we are the only parents the child has known. It's not the father's fault that they wouldn't let him see the baby.
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