Iraq veteran's SpongeBob gravestone removed
Would this bother you if it was in a cemetery where one of your loved ones was burred? What do you thing the cemetery should do?
I have to say it's not in my taste but to each his/her own.
But, this is another example of someone approving something and going back on it. I say once it is approved then too bad. You gave this family the permission to put this up. So sorry that it no longer meets your standards. If it was so traditional, the minute the words "Spongebob" came out of their mouths should have stopped it right then and there.
Mom to Elizabeth (5) and Corinne (3)
I personally don't care about those things at all, that would never bother me. I am not a fan of traditional funeral/burial rituals so anything more personal and out of the norm is fine by me. For me, once someone is gone, what happens with their body is not relevant. I don't care about where people are buried or what else is there.
That headstone made me laugh, though. I imagine it cost quite a bit!
I feel bad for the family involved, but we are talking about a 7 foot stone. The cemetery is at fault for the original approval, but I do not think the stone should be allowed. I would be beyond mad if I was going to visit my dead loved one's grave and they put a huge Spungbob stone right next to us. I would complain and try to have it removed. There has to be limits in my opinion. What if it was a statue of Hitler at a WWII cemetery? A detailed completely nude statue? There are inappropriate stones and in my opinion a 7ft Spongbob is not appropriate. The cemetery absolutely should have to pay for the stone though.
I don't see anything wrong with it and I wouldn't object to it being next to my dead loved one's grave. I think it is great that it is something cheerful that they can memorialize her with. I am not one for graveyards though, I want to be cremated and my ashes tossed in the wind. The thought of my family coming to a cemetery to remember me creeps me out. I just don't want to be remembered that way. We took my Dad's ashes to the top of a mountain and released them into the wind. I think he would have loved that.
Mom to Lee, Jake, Brandon, Rocco
Stepmom to Ryan, Regan, Braden, Baley
Granddaughters Kylie 10/18/2010 & Aleya 4/22/2013
I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson
Maybe it's because most of my family's dead bodies are in an historic cemetery (Nana & Papa are in the "Court of Honor" at another since he was a veteran and those are all identical stones based on the branch of the military you served in) but I'm really surpised that a stone that large was allowed in the first place. At "our" cemetery (my g-g-grandfather helped buy the land for it!) there are size limits on all stones, whether they are raised or flat. I think that's fine and you can be as creative as you like within that acceptable size, which I think is 18 inches length & width, and 4 inches thick if raised and ground level if flat. I'd be fine with a Spongebob stone 18 inches high next to any of my loved ones. I don't think I'd be OK with a 7-foot-tall Spongebob pretty much anywhere.
As for whether the cemetery actually gave approval, the article says that the "design" was approved, not that it was approved to be 7-feet-tall. If the "design" said it would be that big, and the cemetery is now withdrawing its prior approval, then the cemetery should reimburse the family the cost of that stone, and work to find a mutually-agreeable size for a replacement Spongebob stone.
Last edited by Spacers; 10-26-2013 at 01:03 AM.
David Letterman is retiring. Such great memories of watching him over the past thirty-two years!
I can't even imagine complaining about somebody else's gravestone unless it was something truly offensive. This is silly, not offensive. I feel so bad for that family...
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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