we try not to, and for Robbie who thinks that gum is a great treat it makes it easier. I grew up with food being a reward and I have a lot of issues around eating and do not want to pass that on. So what do we use? Extra computer time, books, trips to the science centre, trips to the dollar store
Yep. We do. Especially when it comes to eating vegetables. Last night J didn't want to eat the chicken and still got the half of a cookie he was promised for eating an adult sized serving of vegetables with a side of pasta mixed with more vegetables. He also gets sweet tea if he's been behaving the whole day with his lunch and other little things.
My sister takes it to the extreme. We usually do a general good day gets a treat, she gives my niece ice cream sandwiches just for taking a nap.
I use them for myself too. If I eat healthy all day, I have a glass of wine or a beer or some treat after dinner, if I flubbed I skip it. There is a lot of crap in my house that has been there for a while.....
I tried to resist the food as reward thing but admittedly i don't.
When i rewarded Cecilia for using the potty properly, it worked better than with any of the other kids, whom i did not reward with sweets. I tried stickers and they just did not care...at..all.
And I do not let the kids eat dessert if they haven't eaten enough of their regular dinner. We don't have dessert every night, but if we do, you better actually eat your dinner if you want some.
Other than those two things, i really don't use sweets as rewards i guess.
Kim - we did the same with potty training. What got me is DH's cousin still gives her kids candy rewards for going to the potty and they are 8 and 10!!!!! We stopped it within a month or so, then Robbie would get a treat (which could be a hot wheels car or something else) after so many days dry.
Robbie tries "how many more bites until I can have dessert"? We tell him to keep eating until he is full and then stop. Dessert is rare in our house unless it is fruit.