Mom Arrested After Giving Her 11-year-old a Tattoo | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine
Was this a good idea?
Should you be allowed to let your child get a tattoo under the age of 18?
Why IS tattooing a minor different from letting them pierce their ears?
Hate the idea of kids under 18 getting tattoos, cannot think of a valid reason. If they want ink, they can get it at 18.
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No, I wouldn't let my minor get a tattoo.
It is different from getting ears pierced because changing your mind about your ears and letting them grow over is simple, quick, and painless. The same can't be said for going back on a tattoo.
ETA... She did it herself?? Because the child asked? Good grief. Parenting at its finest
Last edited by kris_w; 10-09-2012 at 12:20 AM.
I agree with pp also about ear piercing, it's not the same at all.
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That being said, that tiny hole is pretty unobtrusive. While it may be the same in principle (a permanent body alteration), its not the same in actual consequences.
Makes me wonder if you could compare it to a very minor, small tattoo in an discreet spot though.
Not saying i think its a great idea, just pondering what 'the line' is between crossing and not crossing and exactly what the objection is.
I think this was a bad idea.
I am not sure how I feel about parents being able to give permission or not. 1 part of me feels that as a parent I should be able to allow my child to get one (I wouldn't!) and the other part of me feels like this is similar to when most seat belt laws applied to minors...some parents just need that .
Body modification wise...tattooing to me is just different and I have really no idea why. Probably more to do with what is considered acceptable in society.
Personally, I am not a huge fan of piercing a young child's ears or giving tattoos. We have decided not to allow our children to even wear the fake sticker tattoos, not because I think they are a big deal, but because I do not want there to be confusion on if they are ok or not.
The line is a little blurry on if a parent should have a right to tattoo their own child. Over all, I am for a parents right to raise their child however they see fit with the exception of abuse. I am not sure how much a tattoo hurts.
I'm opposed to all body alterations on children. No piercing, no circumcision, no tattoos. Leave their bodies alone. I don't believe parents have the right to permanently alter their children's bodies. It's not a parenting decision, it's a bodily integrity decision and the only person who can make it is the child. That said, we *did* allow Tiven to get her ears pierced this summer; it was totally her idea and her decision, and we made sure that she really understood what it involved. I showed her where one of my extra holes has never healed up and gets infected on a regular basis. She had to think about it for at least a month and ask again, and then she had to pass a test showing that she was mature enough to take care of them properly, which was drawing dots on her ears every night for a month & washing them off every morning. After all that, we felt that she was making an informed decision, and we let her do it. I wouldn't have let her do it much earlier because her ears were still growing and I wouldn't want her holes to end up lopsided when she's an adult.
My two biggest problems with tattoos is that they are permanent, and they change as your body grows. Tattoos should not be done before you stop growing. That's actually a problem for people who get tattooed later in life, too. I know two people who have covered up old tattoos that don't look good after they gained weight. One got into body-building and the other lost the weight he put on but the tattoos were still misshapen. Neither of them really wanted a new tattoo but they didn't like how the old ones looked anymore and laser treatments won't work because the tattoo is too old or wrong color, not to mention laser treatments are very expensive. One of them said there should be a waiting period for getting a tattoo because he had serious buyer's regret over it. I see young women with beautiful tattoos on their bellies & wonder what those will look like after a baby or two! At least with an ear piercing, the hole is pretty small and innocuous, and it doesn't change over the years.
Last edited by Spacers; 10-09-2012 at 01:02 PM.
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While I wouldn't let my own kid get a tattoo at 11, I really don't think this is a big deal. A tiny heart on her shoulder? Whatever. Not worth our time to have her in court and eating up taxpayer money over an 11 year old who wanted the tattoo and a mother who did it safely and with her consent.
People want parents to have the right to spank their kids, indoctrinate them to their personal beliefs, and want government to stay out personal lives-- but go nuts on something like this? Silly.
I'm not sure where the "line" is, but this seems much ado about nothing IMO.
I'm much more concerned about the parents who let their kids dress like tramps, wear provocative sayings on t-shirts and are absentee parents than one who inks a tiny tattoo on her pre-teen....
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