I could really use some opinions from other moms today.
Here is the story: DSD has a BFF. This girl treats her alternately like gold and dirt. She pumps DSD up with all of the ?I love you!? ?You?re my best friend? ?You are the only person who I have who really loves me? stuff. And then tells tales about all sorts of other stuff: ?My mom wants to deport me (they are immigrants with citizenship)? ?I am going to kill myself by never eating again? ?I had a heart transplant last week, but they sent me home already, and there is no scar, but I have amnesia and have forgotten you (but only DSD).? ?I collapsed and almost died (but when her dad is contacted she is fine)?. It is a whole mess. And DSD is taking it hard. She is depressed, not doing her school work, not sleeping. She is falling apart but is completely unwilling to say goodbye to this ?friend? as she has been convinced that if she does her friend will die. So she tries to get us to support her in supporting her friend, but we are done with this! The heart transplant tale was the last straw of many last straws. So we have told her she is no longer allowed to talk to this girl. Which she has ignored. They are on facebook chatting openly (and the friend is still talking sh1t to DSD!)
So here are my questions:
1. If your teen had a friend like that what would you do?
2. Do you think it is ok for a parent to say that their teen cannot hand out with a certain person?
3. If the teen refused would you force it? (We can take away facebook by changing her password and confiscate her phone.)
4. Or would you let them make their decision and live with the consequences (failed courses, broken heart)?
I am quite stumped. I want to force it. I want to make this girl go away so that she stops hurting DSD. But I don?t know if we should. What do you all think?