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Valentines Day - fluffy

Love it, hate it, or don't care?

I personally couldn't care less about it. IMO, there's 364 other days in the year for romance. DH doesn't really care either. We'll maybe exchange cards, but likely not. DD was totally into giving valentines at school today, so I got into the whole thing with her and I remember I totally LOVED getting and giving valentines at school too. I guess I just grew out of it as I got older. I'm not about getting all nuts on DH for not bringing home an overpriced bouquet of flowers.

What about you guys?

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We don't make a big deal out of it. Generally cook up a nicer than usual dinner or something. MOSTLY because my DH's birthday is Jan 31, our anniversary Feb 9th, my sons birthday was yesterday.....so by today we are just partied out. We always exchange cards, however. Some year he can surprise me with some bangin diamonds.....but in general its just another day. I did have fun making valentines with the kids this year.

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My DH surprisingly asked if I wanted anything this year, so I just blurted out "oh, I'd like that love rope diamond necklace" and he started laughing. I asked what he wanted and he said "I want command start for my truck". Funny. One good thing is that I got quite good at cutting out hearts from pink construction paper. At first they were all fat and funny looking, but after like a dozen or so they took on a more heart-like shape.

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I love Valentines Day. It is just fun to be spoiled for the day and have roses delivered and have one day that we are reminded to do special things for each other. I do feel bad for the people that are alone on the holiday's though.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I love Valentines Day. It is just fun to be spoiled for the day and have roses delivered and have one day that we are reminded to do special things for each other. I do feel bad for the people that are alone on the holiday's though.

Maybe that's part of the reason I'm not a big fan. I guess I see the big production about Valentines Day as kind of rubbing salt in the wounds of all those people who don't have a SO. Makes me feel bad too. Another part of why I don't really go nuts about it is that there's this expectation of romance, maybe a little sumpin' sumpin' Wink and often I'm just too freaking tired. I prefer more spontaneity in the romance department.

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Don't care & don't understand why anyone over the age of about 11 gets excited about it. Our together anniversary is Feb 8th (27 years!) and that's a hell of a lot more important than a Hallmark Holiday. I'd much rather my DH bring me flowers or chocolate just because than because it's Valentines Day; IMHO those random acts of love are far more meaningful.

And I'm actually kind of ticked about Valentines Day this year because we're going to a concert tonight out of town & I forgot that our usual selection of restaurants in that area are going to be fuller and/or more expensive than we'd normally expect on a Tuesday night. :roll:

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"Spacers" wrote:

I'd much rather my DH bring me flowers or chocolate just because than because it's Valentines Day; IMHO those random acts of love are far more meaningful.

My DH is wonderful, but gift giving is not his strong point. Valentines Day is the only day of the year that he gets me flowers. Valentines Day is the one holiday that he does well.

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I prefer to buy stuff after Valentines Day when I can get the same thing for 75% off. Kind of wierd the candy tastes better to me if I didn't pay an inflated price for it.

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Don't care, leaning more towards hate it.

We have a lot of birthdays at the end of Dec through March so Valentines day gets overlooked. My birthday is only a week before valentine's day. Seamus and I went out for a nice dinner that day. We usually don't do anything...maybe get each other a funny card and flowers if we feel like it.

The reason i hate it is the school aspect of it. I hate the fuss they make over valentines day at school and at daycare. 80 bajillion valentines to make, and the kids get loaded up with sugar and crap...and the schools take time to throw parties for what amounts to a hallmark holiday.

Call me a valentine's day grinch...but i think its more trouble than its worth.

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"Spacers" wrote:

Don't care & don't understand why anyone over the age of about 11 gets excited about it. Our together anniversary is Feb 8th (27 years!) and that's a hell of a lot more important than a Hallmark Holiday. I'd much rather my DH bring me flowers or chocolate just because than because it's Valentines Day; IMHO those random acts of love are far more meaningful.

And I'm actually kind of ticked about Valentines Day this year because we're going to a concert tonight out of town & I forgot that our usual selection of restaurants in that area are going to be fuller and/or more expensive than we'd normally expect on a Tuesday night. :roll:

This! Wanna get to my heart? Run me a bath with candles and a glass of wine. Tell me I look nice. Tell me I look HOT. Paint my toenails. I could go on, but you get the gist.
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Eh-- we don't do much for it. A card for each other....maybe something small. But I'm with the camp that we are busy showing each other how we feel the other 364 days of the year. Each morning my dh makes me breakfast and brings me my hot tea....and today was no different.

I abhor the school aspect of it. I have a child with a red dye #40 sensitivity and this day sucks for her (she can't eat 99% of what classmates hand out....) And when did it become normal for every kid to give everyone else CANDY? Gah. We just do cards and for everyone but my 4 year old (who gets some fine motor skill practice in)-- I think it is a complete waste of time and money.

I'm with Kim on being the V-day grinch!

(though I did wear red today :wink:)

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Well, my birthday was Sunday, so we usually do a special at home (take out) dinner that day with the kids, and then go on a date night sometime around the next week or so. We were supposed to go this weekend, but I got invited to a concert with some girlfriends for the same day, so the next week it is. Other than that, we just wish each other a happy valentines day Smile

I am making heart shaped pizza for dinner tonight! But that is more for the kids. My DD gets really in to all the holidays, loves doing the cards etc. So I know she will get a kick out of it.

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We use it as an excuse to go out to a nice restaurant without kids, but other than that... meh. I did get a card and a Reese peanut butter heart for him but whether or not he'll even get me a card, who knows. Part of me wishes he'd be thoughtful and get me flowers (since he never does the other 364 days of the year) or something like that but the other part of me would totally cringe at the overinflated price of the flowers LOL

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"boilermaker" wrote:

I abhor the school aspect of it. I have a child with a red dye #40 sensitivity and this day sucks for her (she can't eat 99% of what classmates hand out....) And when did it become normal for every kid to give everyone else CANDY? Gah.

Our school has a no junk food policy. The kids were specifically told to NOT bring treats, although there's always a couple who think the rule doesn't apply to them & bring something anyway. :roll: Tiven's class is taking handmade valentines to the folks at the senior center this afternoon, followed by a small party with make-your-own yogurt parfaits.

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Valentine's Day in itself isn't a big deal for us so much either. I don't like the commercialism of the holiday. But I do enjoy crafts and making cards with the kids to give to loved ones. It also happens to be the anniversary of when DH moved to the US, which is much more important to us than the holiday.

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Just have to add, that my interaction with my husband today added up to a kiss and a 'happy Valentines day' this morning on the way out the door, and now he just came home 5 hours late, to grab something, I got another kiss, and a run out the door back to work. Smile Good thing I wasn't anticipating chocolates and romance Smile

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I think it's nice. We hide a card in our kids backpack and they get candy and hand out something nice to each person in class.

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I had a present show up at my door (some running thing I wanted) so it turned my grumpy day around. Its silly but as much as I don't care much about the holiday having him 3000 miles away on that day was hard!

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I had a grumpy day at work (including dh borrowing my car with barely a hello before running off) but he took it to get detailed and was teaching. A class so only had an hour. It did turn my day around. It was also cute to watch my son eat most of his chocolate puppy before we noticed. Usually he has a few bites of sweets and is done.

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Frik. DD comes home from school yesterday and you'd think it was Halloween. Every valentine she got had a lollipop attached to it. One kid even gave out these little treat bags filled with jellybeans and Hershey's Kisses all wrapped up with ribbon and covered with hearts. I guess Valentine's Day decorum has changed a bit since I was a kid!

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Our tradition is Chinese food, whether its take out or a restaurant (which are NEVER busy on Valentines Day). We keep it simple

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"Claire'sMommy" wrote:

Frik. DD comes home from school yesterday and you'd think it was Halloween. Every valentine she got had a lollipop attached to it. One kid even gave out these little treat bags filled with jellybeans and Hershey's Kisses all wrapped up with ribbon and covered with hearts. I guess Valentine's Day decorum has changed a bit since I was a kid!

I know!!! Same here and we are just at daycare. I don't remember there being candy with each valentine either.

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We have a tradition to go out to dinner each year at the same place, but we don't exchange gifts usually only cards. This year, DH surprised me with a one-hour massage because he knows I'm worn out from all my work travels and the pregnancy. I thought it was super sweet!

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I don't care all that much. I get my kids cards and some sort of sweet, and I also get DH a card. If we can afford to go out to dinner together we do, but if not it's no big deal... same thing with any exchange of gifts. This year we just exchanged cards (he did buy me flowers though... from Walmart as I think spending over $15 on something that's going to die in three days is ridiculous... and they're just as pretty as the ones from FTD!) and I cooked him chicken and potatoes and made his favorite no bake cookies for dessert. We had a great time together as a family.

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I can take it or leave it. Hubby used to be great at all holidays and birthdays going all out, but now he isn't so great. He was also a non conformist bringing me a flowering plant for my desk at work vs 12 red roses because then it lasts longer and I like flowers. He did surprise me by saying we are going out for tea tonight because his head chef had somethign on the menu last night hubby thought I would love so arranged for us to go out tonight and asked for at least 2 of these items to be available, which is sweet.