PLEASE NOTE - THIS IS NOT TO UPSET OR ANGER ANYONE. AS SOMEONE WHO HAS HAD 4 MISCARRIAGES AND IS PREGNANT AGAIN, I FOUND THIS INTERESTING WHEN TALKING TO MY MOM ABOUT IT....
Here is an interesting debate. My mom and I were talking about her pregnancy's (She has 6 kids) and mine and how they are very different.
Back when she had kids, you weren't pregnant until you missed three periods (so you would be into your 2nd trimester) when you found out. Anything else was just a delayed period. - she says that was the way of thinking back then.
Now, you can find out your pregnant before you have even missed your period. Dr's can intervene early if they think you may lose your baby and give you medication and what not to prevent a pregnancy loss.
After owning farm animals and trying to breed them, you find that the mortality rate and misscarriage rate are HUGE. It's natures way of "weeding out" the ones that won't be strong enough to survive after birth. We don't intervine there. we just let nature take it's course.
With the rise of disabilities and mental issues we are seeing in people, could this be related? Are we "saving" children that nature would otherwise deem "unfit" to survive?
After my last loss, my mom started to research what an early miscarriage was. She said, based on the discriptions she read, she could have easily miscarried 7 or 8 times in the first trimester if not more. (She had one miscarriage in the 2nd trimester) She couldn't imagine going through that mentally or physically. She feels for every woman who has lost a child by miscarriage.
Many of my friends and family who are trying to start families are having "Fertility" probelms. Losses of pregnany before even 6 weeks. Is this a new epidemic? or is this natures way of saying the egg didn't split correctly? something that has been happening for hundreds of years even before technology could trace it.
Here's an example: when hatching chicken eggs, your told to expect up to a 70% mortality rate. Meaning 70% of the eggs you try to hatch (even if they are fertilized) will not become a viable chicken. They will miscarry withen the 21 days of developement. Think about seeds you plant in a garden. Do all of the seeds grow? no they don't. Some don't fertilize or germinate properly and they don't either sprout or they don't make it past seedling stage. It's not a travesty. It's how Nature works. Survival of the fittest, right?
How much stress and guilt does a couple go under every time they find out they have lost another baby? even if they are only 6 weeks along. The self blame and guilt is horrible to go through. Dr's tell you not to blame your self it's normal, but how many actually feel better after hearing that. They don't. I know I didn't.
I would like to hear what others think of that? Are we as a society finding out we are pregnant to early and putting an undue amount of stress on our bodies and minds and in turn our developing babies? Are we unable to accept natures way of "weeding" out the ones that won't survive or will be sickly after birth?
I mean this in no way to belittle or put down or minimize anyones loss. knowing you have lost a child is horrible and it hurts, there's no question about that. I've been there, I know.