My boys are 9 and 10 they already know a lot, we had the "sex talk" also last year. I am going to do more regarding their bodies this year, in Public school they learn it all in 5th grade here. For us it has always just been a part of life that we discuss as we go along, and one day they were asking lots of questions about sex, and I gave them short answers, and they kept asking more, so I just answered in a loving truthful open, yet in a way that also brought in our Religious beliefs, it worked well. It was a bit awkward about the actual act of sex, but then my youngest said, so you and Dad had sex.. I said Yes at least twice we have two kids.. LOL
DH-Aug 30th 1997 Josiah - 6/3/02 Isaac 7/31/03
lol....DD, the ripe age of 5, already knows about periods. She never leaves me alone in the bathroom and has asked if I'm hurt because she sees blood. At this age I've simply reassured her that mom isn't hurt and that it's just my period. She asks what that is and I tell her that once a month mommy's tummy gets ready to grow a baby but because we're not having anymore babies the nest for the baby egg to grow comes out and looks like blood. Now she just asks me when she sees the Tampax out "Do you have your period, mommy?"
I realize the conversation will be a bit different in a few years' time.
My boys knew what periods where when they were little bitty because of the same reason. They know a bit about erections and BO and hair that will grow. I did tell them if they ever wake up with a wet bed it is ok just to tell me so we can clean it up, and that sometimes it happens even when they are Teens, this year I tell them why... Holy Moley . They know girls get breasts and periods and BO also as we have talked about that and they see me .. they used to call my pads "Mommy's diapers" LOL.
DH-Aug 30th 1997 Josiah - 6/3/02 Isaac 7/31/03
I just kind of talk to him as things come up. I honestly don't remember why, but T already knows that when he's a teenager his body will grow hair and his feet will stink. Whenever we see teenagers, he always asks me "Do their feet stink?" Thus far it's just kind of been through the normal flow of conversation, and will continue to be, as has questions about sex and babies. I don't give him more information than he asks for or then I think he "needs" and will understand at this point, but I do try to answer his questions about bodies, genitals, babies, et cetera, honestly and without making it a big deal about it. When he is older, I will probably have some more formal conversations about deoderant and shaving (although the shaving stuff will also hopefully fall to DH...) as well as about sex and birth control and whatnot, but I anticipate those starting in late elementary school when puberty is starting to kick in. For the time being, I am happy with an informal "as needed" basis.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Its been an ongoing conversation with us, with age appropriate answers, when asked by the kids.
At Emma's last appointment (her 11 year check up), i was asked if we wanted to do the Gardasil shot and i was told i need to have the birds and bees conversation.
There are probably things in more detail that Emma needs to know at this point, but she already knows a lot. I need to go over the nitty gritty so she knows specifically what to do/stays relatively calm the first time she gets here period.
Cecilia Marie 1/10/10
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Honestly, i tihnk she's forgotten a lot of what was told to her because we don't talk about it routinely. Hasnt' seemed like a big deal really.
My oldest is 7 1/2. She is very shy about asking questions. I will notices her looking at me and I can see the steam coming from her thinking, but she never asks anything. My 5 yo however is asking me everything. "Why do I wear deodorant? Why do I have big boobies? "Why is there something bloody in the trash?". I am sure my oldest has just as many questions, but is less willing to ask. I bought a book "The Care and Keeping of You". I am hoping if we read it together, it will spur conversation, but I am just not sure what age to read it. The book says puberty starts between ages 8-13, and she will be 8 in a few month but I just don't know.
There are so many times when my first reaction is to say "Go ask your mother" and then realize, I am there mother! It is also at those times I wish for 3 boys instead of 3 girls so DH would get to deal with it.
We've talked about everything with our kids, and not made a big deal of it. They know about periods, babies, penises, etc. They were curious, and we just answered in age appropriate terms.
They didn't think it was such a big deal. Just shocked that we did *that* five times.....lol. We have not had the conversation about choosing to have sex for pleasure and not baby-making. Yet.
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12