Jace loves to touch his penis when he is watching tv naked and I usually tell him that he should only touch his penis in private. I also tell him that it is going to fall off and I'm going to throw it outside to the wolves. The actual serious talks will probably come in about 2nd grade or so. I'd like to preerve his innocence just a few years longer All though, I caught him playing with my tampons (still in their individual packaging) acting like they were missiles, haha!
We do address the "pleasure" part with our kids by acknowledging that we know it feels good to touch there, and that they are welcome to do so. But that is something that should be done alone in the bathroom or alone in your bedroom (not while sharing a bath with a sibling or while watching tiv or at the park, etc.) And that there is nothing wrong with touching there, just that it should be done alone.
Also, I've not read it, but I've heard good things about this book:
Seems like a good read.
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My oldest is 7 (a boy) and so far we just address issues honestly and simply when they come up. I supposed we'll start getting into a little more detail in the next couple years.
Robbie is 7 and we have answered questions as they have come up. He knows we are trying for another baby and so there are a few questions there. He has quite a few body books that show pictures of both males and females. He has read the book "What to expect when your mom is expecting" (or whatever the full title is) and that briefly describes sex. He does know that daddy's sperm have to mix with mommy's egg. He also knows all the correct names of body parts (something I have insisted on).
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"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss