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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Yes- in full disclosure I once took a picture of this woman at our gym who is blatantly having an affair with a trainer. She had gigantic fake boobs, Botox xo badly her face is frozen- just a real piece of work. She was wearing this metallic gold hot pants thing with a matching sports bra and running on the treadmill- everything- and I mean EVERYTHING was on full display. I texted it to 6 or 7 of my gym friends as I truly just couldn't believe that someone was wearing that in front of other people. It was like porn. Maybe it was mean. I don't know.
    I definitely see a difference between pointing out someone's weight vs pointing out their ill-fitting fashion crimes.
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    I once took a picture of this guy's feet because he was wearing these sort of samuri socks that split between the toes for his flip flops. Plus, he was wearing socks with flip flops. This was in HI while we were on our honeymoon. But he wasn't overweight or even particularly bad looking or anything, I just thought the socks with flip flops thing was weird and funny, and I didn't share the picture on the internet. I did put the picture of his feet in our honeymoon photo album because it always made us laugh a little bit.

    ETA: Like these: http://www.etsy.com/au/listing/15660...-zori-slippers

    And no, I hope I wasn't being culturally insensitive. He didn't appear to be Japanese, he was a white guy in baggy jeans and an anime t shirt, and then the special socks and rubber flipflops.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    I once took a picture of this guy's feet because he was wearing these sort of samuri socks that split between the toes for his flip flops. Plus, he was wearing socks with flip flops. This was in HI while we were on our honeymoon. But he wasn't overweight or even particularly bad looking or anything, I just thought the socks with flip flops thing was weird and funny, and I didn't share the picture on the internet. I did put the picture of his feet in our honeymoon photo album because it always made us laugh a little bit.

    ETA: Like these: Japanese samurai socks for Zori Slippers / a pair by IrodoriLife

    And no, I hope I wasn't being culturally insensitive. He didn't appear to be Japanese, he was a white guy in baggy jeans and an anime t shirt, and then the special socks and rubber flipflops.
    That's funny. You know I actually have a bunch of these and wear them often. I lived/taught in Japan for 2 years. It's a very popular thing, because it honestly feels good. But I do get looks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bunnyfufu View Post
    That's funny. You know I actually have a bunch of these and wear them often. I lived/taught in Japan for 2 years. It's a very popular thing, because it honestly feels good. But I do get looks.
    Haha, if I ever meet you I am TOTALLY taking a picture of your feet. :P
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    Maybe I am a total prude here (not sure prude is the right word) but I would be so sad if someone took my picture only to make fun of me for something I was doing or wearing, therefore I wouldnt do it to another person. If I caught my kids doing it you can bet they would be in big trouble. My litmus test is always "would I be okay if my teenage child did this" if not, then I dont do it
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    Quote Originally Posted by bunnyfufu View Post
    That's funny. You know I actually have a bunch of these and wear them often. I lived/taught in Japan for 2 years. It's a very popular thing, because it honestly feels good. But I do get looks.
    They're so uncomfortable. Weirdo. Especially for Bon Odori when they make my feet sweat!!!
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    I don't pretend that I never talk about what another person is wearing. I totally do. Sometimes in an "Oh man I love that outfit/haircut etc....sometimes in an "Oh my goodness you can see her see her actual butt" way. I'm okay with that. Humans are incredible curious and social creatures and we learn a lot from looking at one another ~ I'm okay with the fact that my friends and I discuss it, especially when certain humans go out of their way to put themselves on display. I mean, heck, magazines and the like are a bagillion dollar industry for a reason. If others choose not to look at other humans or discuss what one another wears or whatnot thats great! I definately do. I enjoy pinterest too. The difference between the OP and the person in the metallic hot pants and bikini top running in front of everyone is this ~ the woman eating in the food court probably had NO IDEA that her butt was sticking out. She probably would have been mortified. THe woman who was iNTENTIONALLY sticking her butt in all of our faces certainly knew she was doing it. Its hard to say that she wasn't asking for commentary, or at a minimum, notice, of her, uh, apparrel. To give it to her simply seems to be doing what she wants. In the other case it is giving someone attention for something that most empathetic humans could understand would probably mortify her.

    That is (to me) a pretty clear and easy distinction to draw.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    I don't pretend that I never talk about what another person is wearing. I totally do. Sometimes in an "Oh man I love that outfit/haircut etc....sometimes in an "Oh my goodness you can see her see her actual butt" way. I'm okay with that. Humans are incredible curious and social creatures and we learn a lot from looking at one another ~ I'm okay with the fact that my friends and I discuss it, especially when certain humans go out of their way to put themselves on display. I mean, heck, magazines and the like are a bagillion dollar industry for a reason. If others choose not to look at other humans or discuss what one another wears or whatnot thats great! I definately do. I enjoy pinterest too. The difference between the OP and the person in the metallic hot pants and bikini top running in front of everyone is this ~ the woman eating in the food court probably had NO IDEA that her butt was sticking out. She probably would have been mortified. THe woman who was iNTENTIONALLY sticking her butt in all of our faces certainly knew she was doing it. Its hard to say that she wasn't asking for commentary, or at a minimum, notice, of her, uh, apparrel. To give it to her simply seems to be doing what she wants. In the other case it is giving someone attention for something that most empathetic humans could understand would probably mortify her.

    That is (to me) a pretty clear and easy distinction to draw.
    Thanks. I started a bunch of posts trying to explain this difference and kept giving up. But that's it for me too. There's one person just going about her business, and then there's another who is doing everything she can to get attention and get people to look at her and it's ridiculous. It's about inviting it vs. not.

    I notice people's clothes all the time. While we were in DC I kept thinking I wanted to stop women on the street to ask where they shopped, because I saw so many outfits I liked. In NY where people are edgier I see stuff I like and stuff I hate and stuff that makes me laugh my head off because it's SO deliberate and so silly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mom3girls View Post
    Maybe I am a total prude here (not sure prude is the right word) but I would be so sad if someone took my picture only to make fun of me for something I was doing or wearing, therefore I wouldnt do it to another person. If I caught my kids doing it you can bet they would be in big trouble. My litmus test is always "would I be okay if my teenage child did this" if not, then I dont do it
    I admit that taking a picture of that guy's socks wasn't one of my kinder moments, but I also think that laughing privately about somebody's out there fashion choice with my husband isn't one of the worst things I've done in my life. It was a pretty light hearted piece of nonsense; I didn't wish that guy any ill, we'd just never seen anyone wearing socks with flipflops other than illustrations of samuris before. If it makes you feel any better, I've worn some pretty silly footgear in my life. I have a pair of brightly flowered clogs that my MIL gave me that are pretty hideous, but sooooo comfy. If I found out that someone took a picture of those clogs, I would probably laugh with them. They *are* kind of ridiculous.
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    I probably would not have said anything on the thread, but i would found the post to be in poor taste...to put it lightly.

    Add me to the camp of people though who can't say they've never taken part in a photo sharing of an individual without their knowledge. My husband, not that long ago, took a picture of this woman with the most AMAZING permed mullet i had ever seen. It really was amazing because there was an impressive amount of height to the do.

    I honestly can't even say 'she was asking for it'...i have no idea if she was or not, maybe she just likes her hair that way. But it was very noteworthy.

    I don't know....maybe its not a shining moment to take pictures of other people in any circumstance if its to simply marvel at their fashion sense. I think i'd have a hard time justifying it...but sometimes, i don't know, just sometimes its one of those 'you have got to see this' moments and you do it anyway. Although thats the only time we've ever done t.

    And i would never publicly shame someone on facebook! Thats pretty terrible.
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