When I snapped that picture and showed it to my husband and we laughed, we were not bullying anybody.
I think it would be bad if they were obsessed with criticizing an individual non stop in private. A)because that is just unhealthy B)That means its really about the individual and not about any one particular thing they did and C)It might make them feel justified in doing something worse some day.
But a simple "Did you see that shirt so and so was wearing?" between two friends on a day where someone was wearing a pretty awful shirt?
Not even in the same camp as bullying IMO, not even close.
And you know I think you can tell when someone just simply has a nasty attitude towards another individual and is just harsh on them for no good reason and truly having that jaw dropping, wide eyed shock when someone does something extreme.
Those are two entirely different things.
Bonita I think that you are truly confused about what bullying is. No, two teenage girls talking about another girl at home is not bullying. Gossiping, maybe, but not bullying.
Yes, I do think that things like the people of walmart site are mean and probably uploading photos of people when you take them and post them of people without their knowledge to public domain cites would be considered cyber bullying. I find those cites disgusting and have never looked at them. They are mocking an entire demographic and are ugly.
I remember having a conversation about Kim Kardashian when she was pregnant with some girlfriends. We were talking about a particular photo of her feet. (Super highbrow conversation) she was wearing really high heels in a plastic clear material, her ankles and feet were very swollen and were hanging out all over her shoes. Of course it looked terrible as well as terrible uncomfortable. The press was all over her. We were talking about how we felt badly for her for being so nitpicked in the press for her weight during pregnancy, while simultaneously acknowledging that she was bringing this on herself ~ talking about how easily she could be dressing SENSIBLY and probably looking 1000% better. The woman has all the money in the world and stylists available to her, there is absolutely no reason at all she could not choose to look absolutely lovely and have no one making fun of her at every turn. We talked about how Kate Middleton was "doing it right"......Were we bullying Kim? I don't know. What do you think? We were talking about her, yes. Was she "bringing it on herself?"
Lady Gaga and her meat dress come to mind also. We actually had a debate about it on here. Did we cyber bully her by posting that debate? Did we victimize her? Or was she asking for attention by wearing a meat dress? See, I'd say that she wanted attention and she wanted to be talked about. I'd say that had she been attacked physically and people said that "she deserved it" THAT would have been "blaming the victim". But talking about her meat dress? She WANTED people to or she would have worn a fabric dress like 99.9 percent of the rest of the world. People who act like its abnormal to talk about outliers are lying to themselves and denying human nature.
Am I the only one who thinks that "bullying" is thrown around way too much? I'm not denying that bullying happens, but not every negative that happens to a person is because someone is bullying them.
Sorry if I'm not making much sense...didn't sleep well, and was up early to get kids off to school .
Carolyn - 37
Wife to Chad - 39
Mom to Tom - 15
Nathan - 10
Right. I'm not going to make fun of someone just because he or she is wearing shoes I don't like. But when I see some woman walking through the streets of Manhattan with super high super pointy stilettos and she's wobbling and can't walk properly, I will certainly make fun of her in my head and if I'm with someone, to them too. (Not to her, just to my friend.)
When someone goes out of their way to make a ridiculous and attention-getting choice, I reserve the right to notice and mock them, to myself and my companions, out of that person's earshot.