"What's Your Excuse?" Offensive...or inspiring?

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"What's Your Excuse?" Offensive...or inspiring?

‘What’s your excuse?’ Mom accused of fat-shaming after posting baby-weight loss photo - National | Globalnews.ca Do you consider this fat shaming of mothers? Offensive, motivational, inspiring? Discuss.

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I'm not offended or inspired. I think it has a negative tone to it. Like, "I did it and everyone else should be able to as well"

But it's not always that easy. I've struggled with weight for years and while I thought I had a thyroid issue I'm just getting a diagnosis now...but I could have told you that I had this issue 10 years ago.

I also don't always make exercise my priority every day and I should. That's on me..but her picture isn't going to change that for me. Maybe if she could come put my ASD kiddo to sleep and make her sleep a full night without coming into my room...I wouldn't be so tired! lol.

There are plenty of ways to inspire people to eat better and motivate them to exercise without a comment like "what's your excuse?"

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I think she's awesome and I find fitness stories inspiring but there is something about the catch phrase that is prickly. I suppose it is meant to be. It's maybe not the best way to teach but, sheesh there is a lot of that tone out there! I work a little with fitness and sustainable weightloss after pregnancy and while I am amazed at some of the real-life-transformations that people go through, I think there is a ton of guilt-pressure that gets applied.

At the end of the day, people are motivated by their own personal cocktail of triggers. I am motivated by information, results and a physical sense of well being that has very little to do with comparing myself to others. But that wasn't always the case and for me, that is the biggest benefit that I have received from practicing a regular fitness regimen.

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Honestly, I want to print out this picture and tape it to the wall! I feel like I always have an excuse, and I am trying really hard to not let my 'excuses' get the best of me. I find this picture really inspiring.

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It doesn't offend me at all.

The first thing that came to mind was 'Oh, I have plenty!' - of excuses that is haha. I think kudos to her for being able to get fit, I WISH I had her motivation and determination.

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It doesn't offend me nor does it inspire me. I think she's a bit annoying with the whole "what's your excuse" bit. I like to look to be inspired not have it thrown in my face. She does look great, I will give her that but it's not like she's the first woman on earth with kids to exercise.

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I find that many people have that attitude. "Well I am skinny so you should be too" or there is no excuses to be overweight. I do not see this as any different.

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I will be honest: when I see someone with 3 kids that age in that kind of shape showing it off, I start to wonder if she ever reads a book. It's my own snobbery, but that is the body of someone who is obsessed with working out and fitness to a level that I am not actually interested in, because it excludes other activities that feed the mind and the spirit.

I think exercise and fitness are great, I think eating well is terrific, I think being so focused on it that all of your self-esteem is tied up in it is not even remotely appealing to me.

And yeah, the "what's your excuse" puts me off. I don't need an excuse, and I actually do other things in my life besides work out.

That said, one of the things I'm doing with my time off is going to yoga every single day, and walking a lot more. It feels great. I went to two yoga classes yesterday alone!

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make it so

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I agree that the tagline is a little 'in your face' rude. I mean if someone ever came up to me and said that in real life? I'd probably want to punch them.

I get wanting to be motivational...and i do believe a lot of people do make excuses, but i don't know....can't help but feel negatively about someone who would actually make those points in that manner I guess.

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I agree Laurie. My first response was basically "I don't really need an excuse; that level of fitness just isn't a priority for me." I'm not even going to qualify that with an apologetic "it probably should be...." Nah. Good for her that she's achieving her goals, and I'm not offended, but hours in the day being limited, we all have to prioritize them according to what is important to us. 6 pack abs aren't super important to me, although I agree that my health should be and I'm working on that. Smile

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

I agree Laurie. My first response was basically "I don't really need an excuse; that level of fitness just isn't a priority for me." I'm not even going to qualify that with an apologetic "it probably should be...." Nah. Good for her that she's achieving her goals, and I'm not offended, but hours in the day being limited, we all have to prioritize them according to what is important to us. 6 pack abs aren't super important to me, although I agree that my health should be and I'm working on that. Smile

Exactly. (You said it so much better than I did!)

6 pack abs, not a priority, and alone they do not make someone special or better than anyone else.

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I found it a little rude. I think it is great that she has created a lifestyle that is condusive to working out enough to get that kind of body. I have created a little different lifestyle, and feel no need apologize for what we choose to do. I also think some people have valid excuses for not working out like she does, and her wording makes it appear that she thinks no excuse could be valid.

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What do you think about her latest comment?

Fitness advocate and mother of three, Maria Kang, is an avid blogger and Facebook user, but her most recent post didn't sit well with Facebook, and some people are now calling her a bully.

Kang made headlines recently for posting her "No Excuse" photo on Facebook. In it, Kang is shown posing in a sports bra next to her three boys with the caption, "What's your excuse?"

"I'm just saying the truth. We've become a politically correct society," Kang said.

When Kang saw an article online from the Daily Mail showing plus-size women posing in lingerie, she logged onto her Facebook page and started writing.

"The popular and unrelenting support received to those who are borderline obese (not just 30-40lbs overweight) frustrates me as a fitness advocate who intimately understands how poor health negatively effects a family, a community and a nation," Kang said.

"While I think it's important to love and accept your body, I was a little peeved because I think that we're normalizing obesity in our society," Kang said.

Just three hours after her post went viral, Facebook responded by removing the post and shutting down her account, calling the post "hate speech," according to Kang.

"I was pretty shocked," Kang said. "They said that I wasn't complying to community standards and if I continued posting the way I am that I'm going to be completely removed."

News10 reached out to Facebook and received this response:

"A user reported content on her page, and it was mistakenly removed by Facebook. When we realized the error we corrected it immediately, and restored full access to Ms Kang. We apologize for the inconvenience."

Facebook did reinstate Kang's account after two days, but they did not restore the post.

"I definitely think my freedom of speech was removed," Kang said.

"We all have our own opinions, and that's what Facebook should be," Elk Grove resident Darla Blanton said.

While some people said Facebook went too far, others say it was the right move.

"I feel like that's bullying other people," Elk Grove resident Jayana Hinkle said. "She can celebrate her success story, but when other people are trying to accept themselves, she just totally shoots that down. I don't think that's fair."

Kang said she will continue to advocate for a healthy lifestyle and doesn't plan on holding back in her future posts.

"It's never my intention to say someone should look a certain way." Kang said. "But I am not going to stand here and say being obesity is okay and we should accept that as the norm."

Facebook said Kang is welcome to repost her comments, but Kang said if the comments were not offensive, then Facebook should repost the original post, not her.

'Hot Mom' Maria Kang suspended from Facebook for 'hate speech' | news10.net

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I'd like to see what, exactly, it was that she wrote on Facebook. What is quoted in the article above seems to be her after-the-fact version. I looked at some of her writing back in October when this thread was first started and she does sound like she could be a bully. She spends two hours a day at the gym and doesn't seem to understand that she's very priviliged to be able to do so.

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She didn't impress me. I think she has a nice toned body but that's about it... I wouldn't want to be friends with her because she may walk around like that all the time and keep asking me "what's your excuse??"

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If the bold is actually what she said. I don't see that as bullying. I didn't really see any of the other things she said.

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Here is what she says she wrote:

WARNING VENTING AHEAD:I woke up this morning to news stories about how overweight nearly obese women should be proud of their bodies (as they posed in lingerie). I think we should all accept how any healthy body through good nutrition and exercise manifests but I?m starting to get annoyed and here?s why:1. We have a health issue in America with over 2/3 overweight or obese.2. We have a healthcare crisis. We spend over 3 trillion in healthcare yearly!3. We have a childhood obesity issue, with many children suffering from adult diseases like diabetes.4. We have magazines everywhere praising the celebrity (with all her resources) for being fit after months of giving birth and scorn the ?real every day mom? who is able to be successful.5. We keep blaming the culprit (school lunches, fast food, etc) when the real change starts at home ? ESP those who lead, which are the parents.There are some serious contradictions in our society. I know many people still get riled up with me and my convictions but the truth is I KNOW how it is to work your *** off and not have energy at the end of your day. I know how it feels to be overweight and not drop an ounce after years of disordered eating. I know how difficult it is to raise multiple children ? all born a year apart ? and make my fitness and nutrition a priority. Lastly, I know how it feels like to grow up with an unhealthy mother wondering if she will live to see your wedding day.I know it?s hard. I know it?s not easy to break habits and build new ones. I know your environment challenges you and I know making your health a priority amongst the many priorities to stay afloat in today?s world is difficult. But I will tell you this: IT IS WORTH IT.We need to change this strange mentality we are breeding in the U.S. and start celebrating people who are a result of hard work, dedication and discipline. I?m not bashing those who are proud and overweight, I am empowering those who are proud and healthy to come out and be the real role models in our society. (Vent done)

I am banned from Facebook | Maria Kang

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But some sources are saying that she also said, "Why should overweight women be proud of their bodies?"
http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/11/27/why-should-overweight-women-be-proud-of-their-bodies-mom-blocked-from-facebook-for-hate-speech/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2513919/Why-overweight-women-proud-bodies-Controversial-fitness-mom-lands-trouble-Facebook-hate-speech.html

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I dont' know...i guess i don't see any of it as hate speech. Definitely controversial statements....but i don't see it as hate speech.

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If what she said above is true, then I don't think it is bullying.

Having said that, didn't I read that her job is as a health and fitness blogger? The only part that irritates me is that she says that she knows how hard it is to work and still make time to workout and cook healthy dinners. Well, yeah, if it were my job to work out and make healthy dinners (and then write about it) I'm sure that I would have the time to work out and make healthy dinners too! LOL It's a little unfair to compare herself doing these things professionally to those of us who have to do them on our off hours after going to our non-fitness related jobs too.

But other than that pang of irritation, I still don't care about this lady.