In it to win it or to have fun?
My daughter has been playing soccer for 3 years. The first year she was often goalie and did very well. The second year there were no goalies and score wasn't kept. This year the coach won't put her in as goalie.
This year she has moved up to U10. It is very different. The coach is extremely competitive. In fact, on Saturday during the 3rd quarter he said to my 8YO and the other defender, "I don't know why you are even on this team." My daughter replied, "To have fun!" She was very hurt by the comment.
The coach later sent an email saying the girls have slipped from 1st to 3rd and now to 4th or 5th. He definitely wants to win.
I understand that, but my daughter is playing for fun - part of the AYSO mission statement. Yes being part of a winning team has its place. I should mention that she has asthma and allergies so it is a struggle for her. Nonetheless, she really enjoys it and does what she can.
So what's your philosophy for soccer for 8 - 10 YO?
I'm not going to have her quit playing either now or in the future. Just wanted to know what y'all thought and how you are with your children.