WWYD? (NAD and personal)

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WWYD? (NAD and personal)

Last night was Claire's first night at Sparks for the year (she went last year too). We drove to the church and were a bit early so we just stayed warm in the van for a few minutes. Another mom parked beside me and when she opened the back door to get her kid out she let her door hit my door. She kind of grimaced for a second and then proceeded to get the kids out. No biggie, it wasn't a huge hit. So, after leaving Claire at Sparks Ben and I go to the grocery store and then go back to pick up Claire. The same woman parks beside me again and AGAIN she opens the back door right into the side of my van and there's a ding/scratch in the sliding door. I didn't say anything to her because I don't want to cause tension seeing as our daughters are in the same troop, and I didn't even notice the ding until this morning. Should I say something? I mean, I can't say "You are going to pay for the repair in my door" because I didn't confront her about it last night. Should I just say to her next week "Look, you should be more careful. You dinged my door and I don't want any money, just pay better attention." Or, should I just let it go and say nothing? Like really? TWICE in the span of an hour?????

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"ClairesMommy" wrote:

Last night was Claire's first night at Sparks for the year (she went last year too). We drove to the church and were a bit early so we just stayed warm in the van for a few minutes. Another mom parked beside me and when she opened the back door to get her kid out she let her door hit my door. She kind of grimaced for a second and then proceeded to get the kids out. No biggie, it wasn't a huge hit. So, after leaving Claire at Sparks Ben and I go to the grocery store and then go back to pick up Claire. The same woman parks beside me again and AGAIN she opens the back door right into the side of my van and there's a ding/scratch in the sliding door. I didn't say anything to her because I don't want to cause tension seeing as our daughters are in the same troop, and I didn't even notice the ding until this morning. Should I say something? I mean, I can't say "You are going to pay for the repair in my door" because I didn't confront her about it last night. Should I just say to her next week "Look, you should be more careful. You dinged my door and I don't want any money, just pay better attention." Or, should I just let it go and say nothing? Like really? TWICE in the span of an hour?????

Do you think its likely that she will ever hit your car again? If so, then it might be worth saying something. If you think its unlikely and it was just one frustrating day and you really do not want to cause tension between the two of you, then i wouldn't say anything at all.

Really...While i'd be pretty ticked about it and stew over it more than i should, I'd probably not say anything unless it happened a third time. At which point i would immediately take it upon myself to inform her that was the third time she hit your car with her door and the second time she's left a mark.

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You should say something right now, and I would say you absolutely should ask her to pay for the damage. Her actions are going to cost you money, either in repairing it yourself, or in lower value when you sell the car. If she refuses, then let it drop -- unless it happens again, which it sounds like it will sooner or later. And tell her she needs to buy one of those rubber things for her door!

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Is this really bad damage? Maybe I'm not picturing the right thing. I admit over the years, I've never repaired dings in my car from people opening their doors. Maybe this is more severe than I thought.

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Since Lisa said "ding" rather than "scratch" it seemed more on the serious end to me, a bit dented in with paint chipped kind of thing. Or maybe I've just been dinged so badly so I'm jumping to conclusions. :shrug: I got a couple on my old car that, if they'd happened to this car, I'd be really ticked and I'd expect to have the person responsible fix them. Of course they never happened when I was around so I never could do that, so maybe since you know who did it, I'm projecting my anger toward her, LOL! Blum 3

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Since Lisa said "ding" rather than "scratch" it seemed more on the serious end to me, a bit dented in with paint chipped kind of thing. Or maybe I've just been dinged so badly so I'm jumping to conclusions. :shrug: I got a couple on my old car that, if they'd happened to this car, I'd be really ticked and I'd expect to have the person responsible fix them. Of course they never happened when I was around so I never could do that, so maybe since you know who did it, I'm projecting my anger toward her, LOL! Blum 3

I agree that if it's damage I would actually consider worth fixing or significantly changed the value of the car, I would address her. If it's not then I'd just let it go unless I witnessed her being wreckless again.

If it needs to be fixed, I hope this woman is honest because it would be hard to prove at this point she did the damage.

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Yeah, it's a small dent with 2 parallel scratches through the paint. The scratches are maybe 3/4 of an inch long each. I think the scratches were done each time she parked beside me - ya know - the first one the first time and the second one the second time. And I do think there is a good chance of her parking beside me again. It's a small church parking lot. I might have to park as far away from the door as possible, since everyone else tries to park close to the door. I think I will have to say something. I don't want money but she just was acting totally irresponsibly to let it happen twice. If you can't keep your door from swinging fully open then don't park so close to the next vehicle.

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If the scratches are small you might be able to fix them yourself with a blow dryer. Google it. Blum 3 Or you might be able to buy matching touch-up paint at an auto supplies store. And if your inside door panel detaches easily, then you can knock out a small dent from the inside.

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Sorry, I can't forgive someone who hits my car and does damage and non nonchalantly walks away like nothing happened - Talk about RUDE! That's considered a hit and run and I would call the police. Good lesson for her.