Youngest age to attend Prom

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Youngest age to attend Prom

Would you allow your 13 year old to attend a high school Prom?

MissyJ's picture
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Brief background: One of my 7th grade daughter's friend is attending a local high school Prom. This honest was not even on my radar for this group yet. Is this something that you would consider? (FTR -- this is not a 'friends' date.)

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NOPE! Prom is for juniors & seniors in high school, that's 11th & 12th grades. There's no way in hell any 7th grader of mine would be attending anyone's prom. We are going to encourage group dates for as long as possible, as there is no reason at all for kids to pair off in high school or junior high. (In fact, I would argue that the exact opposite, that this is the age where you should be observing how different people treat you, and also watch how they treat others. Many a supposed dream boat is a sad little dinghy when you really pay attention!) And we will actively discourage any relationships where there is more than a year difference in ages; there's just too many poor statistics, too much room for abuse -- sexually, emotionally, physically. Couples under the age of 21 (or is it 25?) are far more stable when there's less than a year's difference between the two in either direction.

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I knew people at 13 who were dating guys in grade 11 or 12. Not a relationship I want my 13 year old in. Even when the guy was nice, a relationship involving an 18 year old is a different dynamic than 2 13 year olds.

I think 15 would be my cut off. Both my girls will be almost 16 at that time of year and I think I'd be ok with it but it would also depend on them and the boy involved.

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I honestly could not care less about prom anything, but a high school prom is for high schoolers, period.

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I did go to prom in 8th grade because I was dating a junior at the time. In hind sight, I would not wish or allow my daughter's to make those same choices.

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No I don't think a 13 year old belongs at a prom and I would not allow my daughter to date someone that is a junior or senior in hs in the 7th or 8th grade.

I went to my first prom as a sophomore so I don't think that one has to be a junior or senior to go but definitely not middle school age.

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Oh hell no. No way, not happening.

Prom is for high schoolers (or those that have recently graduated if they are still dating a high schooler)

We have not set a "rule" about dating with our kids but we are really discouraging relationships at this time.

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Thinking more about this, what would a high school boy see in a 13 year old? my oldest is 14 and pretty mature for her age (both physically and mentally) and I cannot imagine, other then sex, what she would have in common with a boy that is almost ready to start his life? We have some good friends that have a 17 year old that we have always joked is going to marry our DD. On easter they were talking and it was very obvious they are such different places. He is getting ready to go away to college and talking about his major and minor, she is just excited we are letting her fly by herself this summer.

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My oldest son was a junior when he was 17 and dated a freshman girl that was 14 for about 6 months. They were on the cross country team together and got to know each other that way, so I don't think you can really say that those ages would have nothing in common. I do think it would be different if she had been still in junior high though. They broke up before prom so it didn't come up, so I'm not sure if her parents would have let her go if he had asked. My son definitely wasn't the type that was worrying about college his junior year so I think all kids are different.