But i do think a 2 year old who is brought to mass very regularly has a better idea that its quiet than not, even though they aren't disciplined enough to stay that way the entire time. I remember trying to quiet my 2 year old regularly in church...surely they retain a little bit of that if its every single week.
Anywho...my main point is I don't think Bonita was saying "Athiests don't teach their kids to be quiet" or any other sort of bad thing about athiests one could attempt to construe from the post. I think she was just trying to tell a funny story. Thats all.
Oh, I think so as well. It just speaks to her bias, in the same way as if I told a negative story about my niece or friend and described her as my "conservative christian xyz" I'm sure somebody would give me push back. Dontcha think? I'll slip in in some day down the road and we can check
I was just reading a post on GOMI about a blogger who took a photo of people littering. They were overweight. She shamed them for being "Fat litterbugs" and people jumped all over her. Not for littershaming them, but for throwing in the fat part. This reminds me of that. The story was funny. Being an atheist was an unrelated issue, as was the fat part in the littering post.
I would think that leaving the Atheist part out of the story could have still been a funny story. I know a lot of Christians who don't go to church. Nobody would have questioned why her brother or brother in law (I can't remember who it was) why he doesn't go to church. It didn't add to any humor in the story. I believe that Bonita was not purposefully being malicious but I do believe it was a subconscious closed minded thing to say. We all do it at times.
My son is a "bad word" police officer as well. I called something (not someONE) "stupid" the other day, and he reminded me that "stupid" is a "bad word." I took my lumps because it seemed kind of lame to try and explain "It's okay to call the computer stupid..."
I try not to cuss in front of the kids, but it does come out on occassion. T has dropped an F bomb before, and when I told him "We don't say that word" he replied "Daddy does." True. LOL
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I really don't like that they've made "stupid" into a "bad word". It's not a bad word. It's not a curse. It's not offensive on its own. The f-word offends people by its very mention, THAT to me is a "bad word". But stupid? Don't call a person stupid, because it's mean, but the word itself should not have a stigma attached to it. It's a perfectly useful, usable word.
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I can't stand the word stupid. It sounds nasty and derogatory. Maybe it's not a profane word in the strictest sense, but it isn't a word I even use. I don't know why I feel that way about it. It's right up there with 'ugly' and 'fat'. I don't even like it used for describing inanimate objects like pencils or ladders or cars or whatever. I just can't stand that word.
We use the word stupid to mostly describe inanimate objects. "Thats a really stupid commercial" Or if some policy doens't make sense and seems absurd....or something isn't working right ("Stupid can opener")But I'm pretty sure I've used it to say something like "i've done something stupid"...or "that was stupid of me". Not that i can recall anything specific, just doesn't sound out of the realm of possibility.
And while i would not want my kids going around calling people stupid, i'm pretty sure they ahve heard me use that word, or worse to describe someone else on the road. Bad habit, that i shouldn't do.
But really...in most situations where i would use it, if i were to try not to, i would probably sound foolishly like i'm trying to find other words to use when stupid really has the right definition and fits perfectly.