**Hot Seat 11/7-11/13 Amanda-verdouxkai**

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**Hot Seat 11/7-11/13 Amanda-verdouxkai**

This weeks hot seater is Amanda!

Ask her questions about her life, pregnancy, family ect. Please remember she doesnt have to ask anything she doesn't want to so ask questions with care.

Enjoy getting to know our birth board sister!

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Have you wavered about your name choice at all? Or once you picked it were you set?

How are you feeling??

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Any baby stuff you know or think is silly but you just got to have it?

How and when did your love story with DH begin?

What are you most looking forward to about being a new mommy?!

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"RonanTheBarbarian" wrote:

Have you wavered about your name choice at all? Or once you picked it were you set?

How are you feeling??

You know, once we found out it was a girl for sure, we haven't wavered on the first name - Reagan. We had battles over the middle name, but I think we're good there too now, lol!

I'm feeling pretty good - most of my aches and pains center around my hips being sore first thing in the morning. I'm also eating kinda bad right now, so I think that's why I might be feeling a little lethargic - I need to put the sweets away, lol!

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"xMyLovelyLadyBumpx" wrote:

Any baby stuff you know or think is silly but you just got to have it?

How and when did your love story with DH begin?

What are you most looking forward to about being a new mommy?!

Omg...something that is probably silly but I just really have to have? That would have to be the MamaRoo Infant Seat. The weekend after our first u/s, DH and I finally ventured to a Baby Store (BuyBuy Baby), and these things were set up right front and center when we walked in. We both played with it for like 20 minutes, lol! So, it's been kind of a running gag that we HAVE to have one.

DH and I...oh my goodness. We met back in 1994 when I was probably just 13. I was "dating" (because at 13, can you really call it dating?) a guy and we went to a youth center for his church. I was being a tomboy and took a shoe from the guy, and thought it was funny because he couldn't pull back from me...so he went and got Brad (DH), who was a bigger, stronger guy and asked him to grab the shoe from me. DH walks up and says "I'm supposed to take this shoe from you." I laughed and told him he could try. Well, he grabs the other end of the shoe and yanks so hard it flings me across the room into a coke machine. So...yeah, the first time I met DH he threw me into a coke machine. I think 6 months later the other guy and I had broken up, DH and I had started talking on the phone, and we started going out shortly after ("going out" of course consisted of our parents driving us back and forth to see each other until DH was old enough to drive, lmao!). We got engaged in 1997 when I was a junior in HS, and married on August 6, 1999. We've been best friends and inseparable ever since.

What am I looking forward to most about being a new mommy...Well, to be honest most of the times I think about it I'm scared to death! I've always been the youngest in my family, and never around children much, so I'm feeling a little lost. DH is a born natural with kids. I think I am mostly looking forward to finally meeting this little person, and little slice of me and DH, and seeing who she looks like, who she acts like - just learning her personality and growing as a person.

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aww you guys are jr high school sweet hearts how awesome!

i have horrible preggo brain...where are you from and where do you live now (you can be vague if you'd like Lol
have you read any good baby books?
have you found a pedi?

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"ourfirstblessing" wrote:

aww you guys are jr high school sweet hearts how awesome!

i have horrible preggo brain...where are you from and where do you live now (you can be vague if you'd like Lol
have you read any good baby books?
have you found a pedi?

Lol, no you're fine - my preggo brain apparently makes typing a challenge these days! Wink

I am actually from Fort Worth, Texas, and live there again now! I had a 10 year stint in Abilene before moving back last year. Smile

The best baby book I've read in my opinion is actually the one I won from pg.org! It's the Mommy Docs Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. I enjoyed it because it wasn't just all the technical jargon (which I have read so much of), it was an easy read and I just found it a bit refreshing.

I haven't looked for a Pedi yet...I figured I would wait until DH is back in town so we can look together for a good one. Smile

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Such a love story!!!

How often are you feel the LO?

Any cravings?

Any boo hoo moments?

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"xMyLovelyLadyBumpx" wrote:

Such a love story!!!

How often are you feel the LO?

Any cravings?

Any boo hoo moments?

Hmm, I feel her moving every day - she seems like she's pretty still until right after lunchtime, then she's jumping around in the afternoon. She usually starts moving around (or I notice it more) right when I get home from work. Maybe she's a night person, like me, lol!

I haven't had any like "I need this NOW" type of cravings, but I was craving pinneapple a lot there for a while. Now unfortunately I'm craving bad foods, like Taco Bueno or Chicken Express! Blum 3

Oh my goodness, boo hoo moments are making me crazy! I am not typically an emotional person in public, and with all these hormones now I'm either tearing up at the weirdest things or getting angry really easily. The worst part is how much harder it is to say goodbye to DH on weekends now. I mean, we've been doing the whole living apart thing for well over a year now, and now that it's like a month away from him coming home I'm a blubbering idiot. Yeesh, I sometimes think I've gone a bit bonkers! :rolleyes:

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oh i am such a bonehead! i knew that, hubs will be home soon yay!!!

anymore thoughts on a possible move?
is this the first grandbaby for either sets of gparents?
any big items left to check off the list?

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"ourfirstblessing" wrote:

oh i am such a bonehead! i knew that, hubs will be home soon yay!!!

anymore thoughts on a possible move?
is this the first grandbaby for either sets of gparents?
any big items left to check off the list?

Well, we'll probably be staying with my brother for a while longer after Reagan is born, since DH is going to be looking to start his masters degree, and I really don't want to place Reagan in day care so soon after she's here! So the tentative plan is for me to go back to work after leave an DH be a SAHD and full time student for the first year of his masters program. After that, he'll find a job that lets him count as practice hours (he's going for Psychology). Once we have two steady incomes again we'll look to move and place Reagan in day care. That's the plan anyway!

This is the first grandbaby for my parents, yes! My brother is divorced and she had kids, but they never really bonded with my parents (she was a total b*itch and didn't like to hang out with my family), so this will be their first!

Oh gosh, I feel like there's so MUCH to do, but I'm thinking it's because I'm still kinda lost as to what to even do. I don't have much experience with babies. So I think the next big things are to see what we get from showers, and what we'll still need to buy. Luckily the nursery is mostly done! DH and I will take the childbirth and baby care classes in January when he's back...and we still need to pre-register at the hospital!

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How have you and DH been holding up with not seeing each other everyday from the start of the PG?

Do you and DH have the same parenting style?

Whats your fondest memory?

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"xMyLovelyLadyBumpx" wrote:

How have you and DH been holding up with not seeing each other everyday from the start of the PG?

Do you and DH have the same parenting style?

Whats your fondest memory?

We've been doing OK. Luckily DH was home for about 1.5 months back in July on a break from school, so he was there to help get me through some of the roughest parts. We text and lot and both like to play certain games on xbox, and we love watching Netflix movies together on the xbox - you can sync a party together so that the show plays for both of us at the same time. We try and keep some normalcy that way. But it's been hard on some of my more emotional days for sure.

DH and I pretty much agree on parenting. Since this is our first we'll have to see if we ever get any crossed signals, lol! To tell the truth, he is wonderful with any children he meets, and I'm so nervous about screwing up, I'll probably take lots of my cues from him! He is infinitely more patient than me... :rolleyes:

Wow, a fondest memory...I think it would be on my and DH's 10th anniversary. He was making great money back then, and had signed us up for a cruise. The day before we left, he woke me to take a walk on the beach outside the hotel we were staying. The sun was rising, and he and I were talking about all kinds of things that had happened in the past (that year had been kind of rocky for both of us). Suddenly he stopped, and pulled a ring from his pocket - we had only wore bands until then, because we had no money when we got married. This was a ring that his grandmother had given him that he'd had redesigned into a custom wedding ring for me. It was gorgeous, and just a perfect moment. Smile (great, now I'm tearing up, lol!)

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So happy to hear you are doing well Smile I have a few questions.

1) Are you keeping your current vehicle or will you be purchasing a new one (larger or otherwise)?

2) How did you announce your pregnancy to your friends and family? What about DH?

3) What is your favorite past time with your family...before DH came into your life?

4) Is there anything that your parents did that you would think you'd never do as a parent? (we all have those little things or reactions that our parents had and we assume we will never in a million years say or do once we become parents, lol!)

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um how stinking sweet of your hubs to do for your anniversary! as far as parenting goes my biggest advice is to know that hubs will not do things exactly as you do but as long as baby is happy and healthy don't micromanage :). i know this isn't advice column but i had a hard time for a while when i would leave the boys with dh and he did things differently than i would. i had to come to the conclusion that it was ok b/c we are different (not big stuff like discipline just routine little things)

ok on to questions

is your brother single (if he is has he asked to borrow baby to pick up girls hehehehe)? is he looking forward to be able to see baby so much?

what do you think will be your first trip with baby?

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"ourfirstblessing" wrote:

is your brother single

Sooo thought you were going somewhere else with this LOL

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"xMyLovelyLadyBumpx" wrote:

Sooo thought you were going somewhere else with this LOL

hahahaha, totally reads that way huh LOL!

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"9andcounting" wrote:

So happy to hear you are doing well Smile I have a few questions.

1) Are you keeping your current vehicle or will you be purchasing a new one (larger or otherwise)?

2) How did you announce your pregnancy to your friends and family? What about DH?

3) What is your favorite past time with your family...before DH came into your life?

4) Is there anything that your parents did that you would think you'd never do as a parent? (we all have those little things or reactions that our parents had and we assume we will never in a million years say or do once we become parents, lol!)

Happy Monday, all!

As for vehicles, we're keeping our current ones - if for no other reason than the fact that we couldn't afford anything new if we wanted, lol! I have a Dodge Magnum, so plenty of room for the baby, and DH drives a pickup truck with a backseat, so we're totally good to go there.

With the announcing - first with DH I packed a box that had baby onsies and a Father's Day card. I was so nervous because of our m/c back in 2009, but I had already received my 48 hour beta results and the numbers had more than doubled (in 2009, the numbers were not going well which was our first sign of trouble). I found out on a Tuesday that I was preggo, and somehow managed to not tell DH until I saw him on person that Friday - he was so shocked. We told my brother that night and my parents that weekend - nothing fancy this time around, just because we were all so scared until we saw the little bean! We told his family after we saw that I was indeed pregnant on an u/s (2009 m/c was a blighted ovum). We told them over the phone. I had already told my BFF before DH even (I need SOMEONE to know, lol!). Everyone else found out through good old Facebook after our second u/s, lol!

Hmmm, fav pastime with fam - I always look forward to holidays. My dad used to work long hours when I was living at home, so holidays were always so nice to have everyone around for a few days. Remember that DH and I got married when I was 18, so really there wasn't much that he wasn't already a part of. His family is really dysfunctional, so he was already a staple at our holidays when I was 16!

Hmmm, as far as my parents doing something that I'd not do. There isn't anything really malicious that I can think of...I think the biggest difference that I'd like to make is really taking an active role in my LO's education and keeping up with technology. My parents probably would have done this if they could, but neither one went to college, and technically my dad left high school and started working in like the 10th grade or something. Neither one of them are very computer literate, etc. I think with all the dangers out there that young people can encounter on the internet, texting, etc, that I will definitely be keeping up with all the latest technology!

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"ourfirstblessing" wrote:

um how stinking sweet of your hubs to do for your anniversary! as far as parenting goes my biggest advice is to know that hubs will not do things exactly as you do but as long as baby is happy and healthy don't micromanage . i know this isn't advice column but i had a hard time for a while when i would leave the boys with dh and he did things differently than i would. i had to come to the conclusion that it was ok b/c we are different (not big stuff like discipline just routine little things)

ok on to questions

is your brother single (if he is has he asked to borrow baby to pick up girls hehehehe)? is he looking forward to be able to see baby so much?

what do you think will be your first trip with baby?

Thanks for the advice, I totally see what you mean! DH already drives me a little bonkers when he doesn't do things around the house exactly like me, but I figure hey - there's more than one way to do things! My mom used to get mad when I didn't clean like her until she realized that the end result was just the same, hehe!

My brother is single, he's divorced. He ex-wife (who was a total b*itch!) had three children by other men, and so that's why I'm able to stay with him - he bought a large beautiful house for her and her children, and when she decided that he wasn't enough and wanted other men, he was left with a huge empty house. Plenty of room for us to hang around with him in, and I think he really enjoys the company! He's really excited to spend so much time with his niece, and yes there's already been joking about him taking Reagan out to meet girls, lol! He actually has a steady girlfriend right now, and I'm really happy for him - he needs to find a good person.

My first trip with baby...if you mean actual traveling rather than just taking her to my parents, I would think it would be to either visit DH's family or friends in Abilene - both trips are about 2 hours away by car.