Ugh, I am so annoyed/frustrated. I am at 9 weeks and not only have I not yet seen a care provider, I don't have an appointment for another 3 weeks.
It's partly my fault. When I got my BFP, I made an appt with my OB. The soonest they could get me in was June 13 (about 4 weeks). Fine. Then after a bit of research, I decided to go with a midwife instead of an OB. The first appt she could give me was June 20. Fine. So I cancelled my OB appt in anticipation of meeting with the m/w.
Between scheduling the appt with her and actually meeting with her, I started having doubts that things were going to work out with her. She operates on her own, no back up or support staff. Whenever I called her, I only ever got a voicemail to her office, and she'd return my call in a day or two. When I went to the ER last week with cramping/spotting, I called her to ask what I should do - of course I got her voicemail and had to leave a message. She didn't get back to me for 3 days. Final straw was when I showed up for our scheduled appt on June 20 and she wasn't there....no phone call to cancel or anything....she called later on to say she had just gotten back from a birth and needed to go to bed. So I politely told her that there was no need to reschedule, I would find a different care provider.
There is only one other midwife group in the town where I live, so I called them on Monday. They are a much more organized operation - 5 midwives and two support staff in the office. Fantastic. So they just called to let me know that my first appointment is July 12!!!!!! I will be at 12 weeks by then!!!! Apparently the midwife that I've been assigned is off until July 9. Seriously??? I asked if I needed to do a scan US (usually done around 11-13 weeks) and she said that if I wanted one, I could go to my family doctor and order one. If you're just going to send me to my doctor for care, then why the frig am I bothering with a midwife????!!! So now I need to take time off from my busy, demanding job to 1) go see my family doctor, 2) a second appt to go get an u/s to make sure that my kid is ok, then 3) a third appt to meet with the midwife.