I need words of encouragement!! :(

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momojune123's picture
Joined: 06/06/11
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I need words of encouragement!! :(

I just got in a huge fight with my boyfriend. one minute i was mad and the next minute i was crying and upset and now i just in a blah state... he doesn't want a kid right now cause of the money situation, but what he seems to forget is the 9 month wait. we'll have plenty of time to save up money and prepare. my family is very supportive in no matter what i do. they might be upset at first, but it's family. I live about 3 hours from them and i never get to see them and i miss them so much. I don't know if I am pregnant yet, but i don't want to be stressed just in case and my boyfriend isn't helping me at all. i just need works of encouragement. I think i want a baby so much is because i lost one last year and i got my hopes up and i was so excited for my little baby and everything was taken away from me. I'm sorry if i sound whinny but i just need someone to talk to. please:(

Lizbet22's picture
Joined: 04/01/09
Posts: 2859

Sorry you had a row.
Have you been using contraception?
9 months isn't a long time to save up for a baby...not only do you have to get all the baby things you have to survive on one wage and pay bills and the baby is an ongoing expense.
Granted you can always find a way when you have a baby, but I think you should talk properly to your bf about it...if hes not on board it could cause problems.
If you are already pregnant then comgrats and hopefully he'll be excited about it...
How old are you guys?
Why would your family be upset?
xxx

aphart0's picture
Joined: 11/21/08
Posts: 681

I hope that you get what you want. If I baby is what you want right now then I wish that for you. But it is super important to have both parents on board. Babies are completely life changing (mostly for the good), but they are so much work. With your family so far away you definitely want to make sure you have to full support of your boyfriend. Just take a step back from the situation so you both can calm down and then talk about the whole baby thing. If you are feeling stressed just go take a walk, it will help you calm down and give you time to clear your head. Good luck with everything!!

RonanTheBarbarian's picture
Joined: 05/10/10
Posts: 1084

Sounds stressful Sad Sorry you aren't agreeing- and hopefully if you are pregnant he'll come around quickly!

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Joined: 04/01/10
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"aphart0" wrote:

I hope that you get what you want. If I baby is what you want right now then I wish that for you. But it is super important to have both parents on board. Babies are completely life changing (mostly for the good), but they are so much work. With your family so far away you definitely want to make sure you have to full support of your boyfriend. Just take a step back from the situation so you both can calm down and then talk about the whole baby thing. If you are feeling stressed just go take a walk, it will help you calm down and give you time to clear your head. Good luck with everything!!

Ditto exactly! I hope it works out for the best for you either way!