So uh....

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So uh....

Still have yet to DTD after baby...and DH is getting antsy.

Im really nervous, and the last three weeks I have been having nightmares about the night I was sexually attacked. I know my DH would NEVER do *THAT* so Im not sure I cant just push through but I feel horrible about it. I havent told him why either, just because he gets so tense and shuts down when we talk about what happend to me. And I dont want him to do that, so Ive just been saying Im not ready or Im not comfortable with it. This is a serious problem if we want another baby in the future....UGH HELP ME!

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Oh Ashley! I'm sorry youve been through something horrible like that! Maybe you're worried that if DTD is painful in any way it will remind you of that incident and you don't want to connect Shane with that? I'm so sorry Sad Maybe just ease into it little by little- testing the waters, so to speak?

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I think you are right Elin. Its really not something I want to think about when I am with him.
We decided to "try" and see how far we get tonight and go from there. Hopefully I just need to ease into things, if not I will be seeing my therapist who coached me through the whole ordeal to begin with!

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I hope everything improves and that last night was successful!

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Well we had an awesome makeout session lol I couldnt do any more than that. I almost had a panic attack. ): So we are waiting a few days and will try again.

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I'm a rape survivors too. Makes sex kinda complicated sometimes. Now I don't have the urge to dtd because I feel biologically pointless. Dh feels like we have enough kids. He is supposed to be getting a v soon. I'm less than enthused.