ya ya its me again lol

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ya ya its me again lol

Im just wondering what everyone elses thoughts are on their upcoming births. I am absolutely terrified of going thru it again! They say that the 2nd one is always easier and faster but thats actually what scares me! My first one I had a placental abruption and no one believed me that I was in as much pain as I was.. which let me tell you its like a hot knife across your stomach! I finally convinced them to admit me (took alot of tears and whining tho!) and a few hours later while I was sleeping in the bath tub (only place I got any relief) my water broke. It was 2:33 am by the time they got me out of the tub and across the room to the bed I was already 6 cm dilated! By the time the got a dr in about 10 minutes later I was fully dilated and ready to push (my then husband almost missed the birth completely cuz they didn't call him until 20 minutes into my labour!). They tried 2 vaccuums but neither worked. She finally came on her own with an episiotomy at 3:22 am. The thing that really scares me about this is the fact that they say labour and delivery is usually cut in half with each following child! So if I gave birth to my daughter in less then an hr... what the :censored: is going to happen with this one?!

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I'm excited for birth, but I'm one of those crazy women that actually enjoy it and you could say i'm addicted to it. lol. I just love the whole experience and am looking forward to another successful natural birth but at home this time. Smile

Your second birth isn't always faster than your first birth. I would make a bet that your first birth wasn't as fast as you think it was because you were probably in labor before that and didn't realize it until you hit transition which is probably what you were in while in the hospital. I've heard of several women who don't realize they are in labor till transition hits. It's more common then you realize. My second labor was about 4 hours long and only 2 of those hours did I actually make progress. 45 minutes of those 2 hours was transition. So I was really only in active labor for hour and 15 minutes before transition. If I didn't have to breath through my contractions for those 4 hours I wouldn't have realized they were real labor contractions because they were completely painless. All of my labor was basically painless.

Sorry if that sounded snobby. Sad I just wanted to let you know that every birth is different and that it's very easily possible that you didn't realize you were in labor before when there is a good possibility you could have been. Which in honesty, I have to say I'm slightly jealous of. Wink It would be nice to basically skip the first part of labor that is the longest part. Smile

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Try a midwife this time!
I too am a birth junkie. My last 2 babies were home births. I HOPE I get to do it again and my blood pressure cooperates.

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Actually I know I wasnt in labour before that. They had me hooked up to monitors every half hr since I was up anyways and whining about the pain, and there were no signs of contractions on any of my scans. I wasnt in labour til my water broke, but then again I was also 2 weeks overdue. What I most fear is that they wont let me go over this time because of my abruption and are going to induce me on my due date and I'll be in labour for hrs upon hrs lol

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I would love to have a midwife but the only midwives around here are a 2 hr drive and 200 a visit! something I cant exactly afford to do. I wanted a natural birth and midwife or doula for both my pregnancies but it isnt an option for small town ppl in saskatchewan Sad

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Wow. Yeah being that over due might have something to do with it. My first I was induced at 41 weeks and probably could have easily went to 42 weeks with him but it's a good thing I was induced as his placenta was calcifying. BUT that being said I WILL NOT be induced again unless it really is necessary. There are things you can do to help prepare your body for labor like Red Raspberry tea and Evening PrimRose oil. I started the EPR oil at 36 weeks with my second to encourage my body to start softening do effacement could happen as that's what takes my body the most time, once that's done I go super fast. I had my second at 39 weeks 2 days. I really suggest making sure you have a natural birth friendly OB because that's what will make or break a birth. I wish mine would have been better, not that she was bad, but she was my best option of the doctors my insurance would accept that wasn't an hour away, in honestly though I loved her, but she has gotten way to busy for my taste. I don't like waiting 2+ hours for a 10 minute appointment. Granted my midwife lives an hour away but my appointments are in a clinic that's 15 minutes away and her assistant is 15 minutes away as well. So I'm not too worried.

Sorry that was totally off subject. I would be surprised if your second birth is faster than your first. I would bet, if anything it will be the same.

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What does the EPR oil do? I was actually drinking the red raspberry tea at 36 weeks... didnt do much for me tho obviously lol. I was told with this one I can actually start drinking the tea at 30 weeks if there is no other sign of starting preterm labour. I havent met with this dr yet for an actual prenatal appt yet, but Im really hoping she is better at that then at regular appts! Shes really cold and abrupt with her reg appts. Hoping shes good at her appts and agrees with my natural birth choice (my last dr tried to force an epidural on me, which thankfully showed up after my daughter! and refused to help me with breast feeding because of my breast reduction). I guess we'll see on the 28th.

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"Evening primrose oil is an excellent source of prostaglandins, which we already determined readies your cervix for labor. It can be taken orally as soon as 34 weeks, and can be applied directly to the cervix at full term (36 weeks). The general recommendation is two 500mg capsules per day until week 38, at which time you increase to 3-4 per day. The entire capsule can be inserted vaginally (inserted just before bed, it will dissolve before the first time you wake to use the bathroom), or you can use the oil on your fingers for your perineal massage, then also rub on your cervix (assuming you can reach it). Applying directly to the cervix is optimal, but the beneficial ingredients are absorbed through the external skin or the stomach also."

I also got a small syringe and at 37+ weeks add extra oil up inside my cervix rather than using the capsules up there. By the time I went into labor at 39+2 I was 85% effaced and 3cm dilated where at my 37 week appointment I was a finger tip and 40% effaced. I think the EPO at least had some to do with that. Smile

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well that def sounds interesting... not too sure how comfortable I am to be sticking things up there.. but we'll see how desperate I get when my due date gets closer lol

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See that's why I liked the oil and using a syringe because the syringe was only up in there for about 30 seconds. I did it right after laying down in bed and I didn't notice the oil up there at all until it drained out with my first potty trip. I would say it's totally worth it. I feel yeast creams more than I ever felt the oil. I hate yeast creams with a passion so I really hate things being up there that isn't DH.

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Adding: Just because the magical monitors didn't pick up your contractions doesn't mean that you weren't having them.

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Hopefully because of your previous experiences they'll monitor you more carefully and take good care of you! Sorry it was so scary Sad

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Goodness gracious, your delivery sounded very difficult! My contractions started and lasted for about 19 hours which at times were very intense. They sent me home saying I wasn't ready, UH YES I WAS!!! They gave me an epidural and Stadol which helped tremendously to relax. Shot from a 4 to a 10 in no time! Hoping this next trip for you will be much better! I never have heard of the raspberry tea and the evening oil stuff. I'll have to remember that.