Nicole, the early gender scan must be so exciting!!
Jina, I know what you mean.....we finally announced to everyone that we were expecting, and I was a little disappointed to do it - I've been loving having it as just to ourselves!
AFM: Well, we were on holidays since last Thursday, and we go on holidays again on Friday to make a weekend run out to my cousin's wedding, so things have been so nice not having to come into work!! Being able to take a nap when the fatigue hits?!? OMG I swear that was the best part of having a few days off!! (well, that and not having to deal with co workers who really work my last nerve!!)
We were so excited to find out that my SIL is due the same week as me.....we live in the same town, so if we time this right, our family will only need to make 1 trip to see us both!
Oh, I had my appt with the nutritionist last week as well. That was honestly both fantastic and at the same time, not very helpful. She said DH and I have great eating habits, we eat very healthy and agreed when I said we eat healthy about 80% of the time (and the other 20% is take out once a month or eating kraft dinner for lunch because that's really the only thing that appeals, etc). So she was SUPER helpful in putting some of my fears aside and assuring me that we really are doing a good job. The not so helpful part was that because we already eat pretty well, and don't do the fast food/junk food thing, she didn't really have many suggestions to help us improve. She looked at what a typical week would be food-wise for us and agreed that it's my past history with eating disorders that's caused my metabolism to slow down so much and make me gain weight so easily, it's not because of something DH and I are doing wrong.
.....She actually was a lot more understanding and lenient when it comes to foods than my OB is, so that made me fell pretty good. We're trying to avoid GD, so I go back and see her in a month for an update.
So now, I just need this heat to die down a bit (and my energy to come back) so I can start enjoying summer!
Hows everyone else doing??
We announced a few weeks back but I didn't want to just yet. We had an issue last pregnancy where we didn't announce until after the 2nd tri started and because I was showing at my son's 3th birthday party we had to announce it then, we were given grief by stepMIL and FIL. I gave them crap the next year though when they brought it up at the same son's 4th birthday party. Well, I didn't so much as give them crap as I loudly explained to MIL that we waited so long to announce because I had miscarried 3 months before the baby was conceived. I know stepMIL and FIL heard me and honestly, I hope they felt like jerks at that point because they're always so rude to us.
So we told them at about 7 weeks because I didn't want to wait any longer for fear of being accused of keeping them out of the loop again. The problem is, Ed didn't want to tell them before I announced on Facebook because he didn't want to deal with their garbage so they found out when I posted a pregnancy announcement. That made them pretty mad but considering that they've always been rude to us, I'm finding it hard to care. With our first child (my second) FIL's response to DH was, "You ruined your life". I'm not kidding. DS2 was planned. We spent 4 months TTC before I got pregnant with him so we were beyond excited and were met with "You ruined your life". Rude. With DS3, we got remarks from stepMIL and FIL like "You (Ed) should get snipped!", "you do know what causes this right?", "you're not done YET?", etc.
This time, they said, "We didn't have to find out on facebook. Were you trying to avoid a lecture?" Uhhhh a "lecture" should not come from anyone when you are told that 2 grown adults, who have been together for 10 years, are expecting a child. It's none of anyone else's business how many children we have! They also asked, again, "don't you know what causes that?".
I suspect that they are rude because they cannot have children. Every time stepMIL has gotten pregnant, the embryo implants in her tube and she loses the pregnancy. I feel very bad for her but we do not deserve her bitterness as it's not our fault she can't have a baby.
MIL has not actually said anything about the news but DH's sister (she's 16) is on cloud 9 and is begging to go to the gender reveal u/s with us. My brother's fiance is pretty excited and was shopping around to buy us cloth diapers (aw!) but then decided that she wants to wait so that she knows if she can buy pink for once (she has 2 boys. This family doesn't make girls!). My parents are kind of indifferent. They know the pregnancy came at a rough time financially but they're not unhappy. They're just kind of where we are wishing that we weren't so broke but that's all changing Monday because DH landed a job that pays twice what he's making now.
As for how I'm doing, the m/s has been much better. It was so bad that I lost 7.5 lbs because I couldn't eat. That was pretty scary because I got so weak and lethargic that I was bedridden for weeks.
I have another u/s on Wednesday but Ed has a new job so I'm pretty sure he's going to miss it so hopefully they give me good pictures for him. He's offered to send his sister with me.
We're hoping for a girl this time but my youngest 2 boys keep changing their minds over whether or not they want a sister lol. Logan (6) says that she'll just yell "MOMMMM!" like Candace from Phineas and Ferb lol and Xander (2.5) can't decide.
We've talked names a bit. If we have another boy, we're leaning toward Rafael in honor of our late friend. His name was Rafael Joseph but our oldest's middle name is Joseph so we're trying to find another J name that fits well with it. I still like all the names that Ed veto'd through previous pregnancies though some of which were Duncan, Connor, and Seamus (Shay-mus to any who aren't familiar with it).
If we have a girl, we really like Ginevra (a form of Guinevere) but our oldest son announced, "That's a stupid name. If you name the baby that, I'm moving out." I also really like Piper Rayne (which would have been DS2's name had he been a girl) but DS1 said, "THAT'S EVEN WORSE!". The choice isn't his but I'd really prefer that he didn't hate his baby sister's name.
That's about where Ed and I cease to agree because I also like Gwen, Illyana, and Elena but he doesn' t like those. He said Gwen makes him think of MJ's replacement on Spiderman (who he doesn't like), Illyana is too hard to spell, and Elena makes him think of Seinfeld. He's strange.
I told him that I'm just going to name the baby Perry (boy or girl) if we can't agree on something. It's his middle name but it's also the platypus on Phineas and Ferb so I told him that I'd call the baby Agent P. I've also threatened him with naming the baby Albus Percival Wulfric Brian.
We do tend to be influenced by strange things. I mean, my oldest, Adam Joseph was a name that randomly popped into my head, I loved it and just stuck with it. I have no idea where it came from as I'm not religious or anything and I don't know anybody with that name. Our second is Logan Riley- Logan is from the X-Men and Riley is from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Adam suggested the name and we loved it. Our third is Xander Ryan. Xander is also from Buffy and Ryan...well it just seemed to flow nicely. In hindsight, I've realized that it "flows nicely" because I have a cousin named Alexander Bryant so I grew up hearing almost the exact same name. Ooops!
So we like unusual names (I also have a love for Irish names) and aren't afraid to pick from favorite shows/movies (we're geeks so our preferred genres are sci-fi, fantasy, and anything written by Joss Whedon) so if anyone wants to throw idea's out at us, that's cool too.
Wow, sorry, that was longer than I intended!
That's why we like Ginevra (Ginny for short of course) because it's nice, it's a "real" name and somewhat "normal". Plus, it also kind of sounds like Jennifer and I have a cousin with that name who is currently battling breast cancer so it's definitely my favorite right now.
We're both HP freaks but we were slow to get going. We refused to get into them at first because they were so popular but when we saw how awesome the trailer for Goblet was, we decided to jump in and fell in love. We prefer the books over the movies though.
DH only doesn't like Seamus because he thinks the spelling will provoke taunting from other kids. I see his point but I still love the name. I offered a different spelling but he is still unsure. I love it.
Xander wasn't named until he was 3 days old because we couldn't agree on anything so that will probably happen again if we have another boy.
When I made the Albus threat, he just rolled his eyes and said, "You know that I'd never be able to spell all of that!".
Jo, so, we just found out that BIL and his wife are actually only 2-7 days behind me with their 3rd! lol I'm not sure how I feel about it right now. I'm both happy and a little sad that my kid has to share a birthday. Sounds like you had a great appointment with the nutritionist. I think as long as you're eating healthy and exercising all should be great! When is your next appointment?
Danielle, Sorry about the ILs....sounds like they are RUDE people. You are right, you don't deserve to be treated badly because she is unhappy with her situation. Yay for your DH's new job! Lol...I love the name Piper. Good luck with the name hunt. We're having a difficult time as well. Our problem is that we don't like a lot of names...lol.
AFM, not much going on here....we're still keeping it a secret. BIL and his wife announced their pregnancy so I think we're going to wait a few more weeks. My gender scan is next Wednesday! So excited!
Jina - I know what you mean. I'm so excited for my brother and his wife, but at the same time, I don't want the kids to have to share birthdays and such. But, growing up my brother and I weren't close with any of our cousins because we lived so far apart, whereas we live in the same city as my Brother and his wife, so we know that our kids will be close growing up.
Danielle - I'm so sorry, your inlaws sound like monsters!! I know they must be so upset by what's going on with them personally, but that's no excuse to say things like that!
Nicole - how did the U/S go??
AFM - well this weekend I spent 16 hours in a car driving. Thrilling.
DH and I went to my cousin's wedding, but it was seriously in the middle of nowhere. An 8 hour drive (plus a ferry) to get there, and yesterday because there was an accident on the highway, it took us 13 hours to get home. I thought I would be OK, we've done drives like that tons of times, but I was amazed at how uncomfortable I was just sitting all day! And my legs swelled up so badly as well.....I was hoping I wouldn't have to deal with that until later in the pregnancy! Luckily we stopped every 2 or 3 hours to walk around.
So now just waiting for 2 appts this week. I have a check up with the dr to see if the baby asprin is OK or if I need something else, and my monthly appt with the OB.
The OB did call me last week when she saw the U/S, and said they're not sure if they're going to bother changing my dates or not - they'll see after the 2nd round of the blood work. And also she clarified that we're not getting an NT scan. Apparently here they only do it if you're over 35, or if you're pregnant with multiples. She said it changes place to place, that in some towns the U/S tec's don't get enough of a chance to practice the NT screening, so they send every pregnant woman to get it done so the U/S tec's can keep their skills up.....but there there's more than enough pregnant women to keep them busy
Is anyone else starting to think about names?
We haven't settled on anything, but for a girl we're thinking Mackenzie, Zoe, Kasey.....and a few others but I can't remember them right now!
For boys we're thinking something like Trystan, Reid, John, Neil, etc.
We don't want to do something so "creative" that the kid will hate their name and be doomed to spelling it out for the rest of their life (they're already stuck with that for their last name!), but we also don't want them to be the 4th 'John' in school or work.
As far as sharing birthdays, my nephew's birthday is real close to DS2's and thankfully SIL always wants to do a separate party and we coordinate things so each boy gets a special day. So, close birthdays can work out.
Jo, Ouch! Sorry about the 16 hour drive. I usually love road trips but I imagine that a long drive while pregnant is pretty uncomfortable. Yay for 2 appointments coming up! Please KUP.
Names....I really like Mackenzie and Trystan! We've thrown a few around but honestly we're having a hard time. I just like girl names so much better than boy names so we're having a hard time. We're not even thinking about girl names just boys. We have 2 names that we like but still unsure. I want to figure it out before birth though!
Danielle and Jo, About shared birthdays....I really am happy that my child will have a cousin his age to play with but I just don't want them to be compared all the time...you know? I don't want to get sucked into the whole competitive bs. My BIL and his wife are constantly talking trash about other peoples kids and how much smarter/cuter/better their kids are. I just rolled my eyes at this before but now that it's my child...I'm already feeling really protective! lol