i am feeling hurt and upset because the doulas i have interviewed are all part of the same association/ group. I was going to pick the first one or possible have two, and by the time my 3 interview came I didn't even get a decency of a cancellation phone call, she emailed me to cancel our interview.
When i called to ask a few more questions from the first 2 instead of calling me back they both emailed me and said bull**** excuse as to why they weren't available/ not a good mach. I never thought i would be rejected by birth doula 3 times.
I feel like one must no have liked me or dh, and told the other two.
I feel sad, let down and hurt, because i felt like both interviews went well.
its as if they just didn't want me as a client.
I mean fine if you are that unprofessional then maybe i don't want you as my doula.
Now i feel like i wasted time, and energy that could have been better spent looking elsewhere.
I know i need extra support for my birth since dh is disabled and my mom has to watch Lilly.
so much for the theory of every women deserving a birth doula.
vent vent vent....
anyone else have any experience in hiring a doula?
That is terrible, but try not to take it personally. I would just assume that they were uppity Bs before thinking there is a problem with myself (this could be the reason why I don't have very many female friends lol).
Don't let this turn you off of a doula, because when you find the right one, it will make you see the flaws in the other two.
Wow, they sound like rubbish doulas! I wouldn't take it personally either, if that's their attitude you won't want them near you when you're in labour. Are there others nearby that you can try?
DS - June 2010
Thanks ladies, i was jus so surprised by their bad behavior. i mean you are so posed to be helping prego ladies. i hate fake people.
I guess i just expected more. I feel like i wasted my time tho.
Back to square one, there are other doulas in the area, i just have to call some more and start my search again.
Jeez. I would be happy I don't have to work with those nasty jerks!! You're paying for it and you should get the support and help you need!! I think it would be money wasted on those two. I really hope that you find someone perfect and in plenty of time!!