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    i am feeling hurt and upset because the doulas i have interviewed are all part of the same association/ group. I was going to pick the first one or possible have two, and by the time my 3 interview came I didn't even get a decency of a cancellation phone call, she emailed me to cancel our interview.

    When i called to ask a few more questions from the first 2 instead of calling me back they both emailed me and said bull**** excuse as to why they weren't available/ not a good mach. I never thought i would be rejected by birth doula 3 times.
    I feel like one must no have liked me or dh, and told the other two.

    I feel sad, let down and hurt, because i felt like both interviews went well.
    its as if they just didn't want me as a client.

    I mean fine if you are that unprofessional then maybe i don't want you as my doula.

    Now i feel like i wasted time, and energy that could have been better spent looking elsewhere.

    I know i need extra support for my birth since dh is disabled and my mom has to watch Lilly.

    so much for the theory of every women deserving a birth doula.
    vent vent vent....

    anyone else have any experience in hiring a doula?
    Chris




    9/18/12

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    *lurk*
    That is terrible, but try not to take it personally. I would just assume that they were uppity Bs before thinking there is a problem with myself (this could be the reason why I don't have very many female friends lol).
    Don't let this turn you off of a doula, because when you find the right one, it will make you see the flaws in the other two.
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    Hugs!!

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    Wow, they sound like rubbish doulas! I wouldn't take it personally either, if that's their attitude you won't want them near you when you're in labour. Are there others nearby that you can try?
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    Thanks ladies, i was jus so surprised by their bad behavior. i mean you are so posed to be helping prego ladies. i hate fake people.
    I guess i just expected more. I feel like i wasted my time tho.

    Back to square one, there are other doulas in the area, i just have to call some more and start my search again.
    Chris




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    Good luck finding a doula in your area that you are comfortable with! Sorry for the poor experience
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    Jeez. I would be happy I don't have to work with those nasty jerks!! You're paying for it and you should get the support and help you need!! I think it would be money wasted on those two. I really hope that you find someone perfect and in plenty of time!!
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