Mixed feelings

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Mixed feelings

Looking at Jen's post, I'm not quite term yet, but close. When DD i delivered early without any notice, so i didnt go through this part of pregnancy. So now, i kind of find myself ambivalent.

I'm excited to see this LO, dont get me wrong. But i will be sad to have nap time with DD come to an end. I really dont know how easy it will be to get both of them to sleep at the same time, all though i hope it can happen. Speaking of sleep, i dread being chronically sleep deprived. I dread being up every few hours. This is my last pg probably, so that kind of sad, too. Its going to be just plain harder with two kids instead of one.

On the flip side, i am sore day to get rid of some swelling and move back into some normal clothes, or at least not have an enormous bump to dress. The bump is so big now, it's not fun anymore. I am looking forward to sleeping more comfortably. I'm looking forward to my skin getting back to normal... The fluid and hormone changes are not flattering. Maternity leave will be nice to spend time with DD and helping DH get a new business up and running.

This is certainly not a comprehensive list..... I just cant sleep.... Again.

Anybody else have mixed feelings about the end of pregnancy?

Joined: 05/22/13
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Me too!!
Can't wait to not be pregnant (sore, swollen, uncomfy...), ready to meet baby, not ready to be juggling 3... House not completely ready but close enough that I'm not stressed.

Joined: 07/21/02
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I feel similar! I'm ready to be done with discomfort--which really has only just begun recently so I can't complain too much. Mainly heartburn and hip pain. But this is my last baby so I'm trying to savor feeling her move and wiggle and just enjoy the pregnancy. But I am also nowhere near ready for baby! I'm not too worried about adding another. Honestly, after 3, it was easier to add babies. Babies are much easier than toddlers Smile And my big kids are a big help too.

Joined: 12/01/10
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Definately have mixed feelings too. I know life as I know it will change, likely for better in end but it is still change! I am really trying to enjoy these last few weeks of alone time with DS. DS being my first baby, I can't help but feel sad that having this new baby come along will make DS a big brother and he will suddenly lose his baby status Sad Not sleeping that great now but at least I'm getting enough to be functional during day, not looking forward to the zombie state from being woken every couple of hours by a newborn. Things I'm looking forward to are cuddling this little guy on the outside. Seeing a relationship develop between him and DS, especially since DS still doesn't realize he has baby brother arriving soon. Reclaiming my body and getting back in shape and into my regular clothes (though my tops may be a little tighter with my nursing boobs ;)). Can't say I'm not looking forward to enjoying a glass of wine again Smile I'm fairly certain this is last pregnancy for me and while I have my little twinges of sadness ("I'll never have the excitement of getting that BFP again or I'll never feel a little person inside of me again"), I'm otherwise looking forward to being done with this chapter of my life Smile

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It's nice to read this. I've been feeling guilty about feeling mixed. This isn't our first. But our other two are preteen and teenagers. And this is our first together. This is going to be so different. I'm a bit worried about how it will change our relationship, how we'll handle it all. And this little tiny dark spot in me is wondering if we'll regret it. Or more like worried that Tom will be sorry we did this. (that seems pretty silly as we tried for four years for this, I think we would've realized it before if we didn't want to, but there it is)

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"smsturner" wrote:

It's nice to read this. I've been feeling guilty about feeling mixed. This isn't our first. But our other two are preteen and teenagers. And this is our first together. This is going to be so different. I'm a bit worried about how it will change our relationship, how we'll handle it all. And this little tiny dark spot in me is wondering if we'll regret it. Or more like worried that Tom will be sorry we did this. (that seems pretty silly as we tried for four years for this, I think we would've realized it before if we didn't want to, but there it is)

This is exactly how I feel. I worry that Bob will regret having a baby once she is here. With all my complications this is likely our last, which is hard for me right now. He wanted a boy so bad, He says that Stetson, who he is adopting, is all he needs. But deep down I can't help but worry he will regret that this is a girl and that he will be mad that she is a she. Sad He tells me I am crazy, and I know that he loves our son, but I worry.

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Joined: 05/11/09
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oh wow, i worry about exactly the same thing in opposite. With my fertility issues, I feel like he basically got a broken wife, who might not give him another. And he wanted a little girl SOOO badly. He's never seemed disappointed, and he is happy for a baby boy, but I know he wants a girl. I know he will love this little boy like crazy, but still not the daughter he wanted. And i know i sound awful. I just worry about how he'll feel.

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Joined: 10/14/08
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I feel like well maybe we get to have another but Dh really only wants 2 and i think it is selfish since he knew i wanted a big family.. but so many other factors and surprises in our lives have made it difficult financially. I want to be a responsible parent. At the same time i do not want to be in my mid to late 30's having kiddos, so if we want a number three I know we would be looking at 12-18 months after this one. dh says he can't or doesn't tink he can handle what we already have. it took 4 years to get Lilly and I Just don't know.

so yeah mixed feelings... I want o enjoy he rest of this pregnancy but i also feel bad since it has been hard for Lilly , I do worry about how well she will adjust. haven't had any more temper tantrums but she is doing awful in other areas Like not eating throwing food, completely ignoring directions or instructions. Driving me batty. I try and remember it must be a phase and we only have so much more mommy and me time. some days i am a proud mama but other days i just want to walk away.