Postpartum/ Labor What did you learn....
+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11

Thread: Postpartum/ Labor What did you learn....

  1. #1
    Prolific Poster Chris_85's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    midwest
    Posts
    1,851

    Lightbulb Postpartum/ Labor What did you learn....

    I saw this on another board... I know it was meant for the First time moms... but what are some things you Learned about Labor and Postpartum..... or didn't expect the first time and subsequent births....


    example would be....

    I didn't know i would lose my plug 2 days before labor started it was eww... i freaked out

    You may feel like you have been hit by a semi truck for a week after delivery

    You bleed a lot... for me it was like 10 times worse the my period.

    I am sure i can go on... i hope to hear some good advice too..

    Lets chat about it

    Ps. this came about because one of my Dr. nurses while I love her started getting me really thinkin that February is right around the corner. i think we are all under 100 days now
    Chris




    9/18/12

  2. #2
    Prolific Poster jski88's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    on a speck in WI
    Posts
    1,278

    Default

    I didn't know that I would become insanely thirsty while I breastfed.
    Jenn-28
    d/h-Keith
    d/s-Cash
    d/s-Ollie
    d/d-Gracie


  3. #3
    Prolific Poster
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Posts
    1,023

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by jski88 View Post
    I didn't know that I would become insanely thirsty while I breastfed.
    Yeah, I remember lugging a huge water bottle around the house.

    I was surprised how sore I was down below. I knew vaginal birth was not a walk in the park, but yowza! Ice packs were my friends. I hated to go to the bathroom because it was so tender. I had some postpartum ointment that I kept cold in the fridge that was supposed to help. I remember that even sitting in the rocking chair to nurse was uncomfortable. I had to place several pillows in the seat to make it tolerable. I also spotted for a really long time, beyond normal duration, but put off getting it taken care of because I kept thinking it would finally stop which it would for a day and then start up again. That was just annoying and I will definitely get it taken care of sooner if it happens again. Also telling myself I will be more receptive to getting help if I develop PPD again. I was too embarrassed and overwhelmed to do anything about it and it lasted for about a year last time.

    Curious to see what others share. I'm sure I'll think of more stuff....
    Christina

    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers

    Lilypie First Birthday tickers

  4. #4
    Prolific Poster Chris_85's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    midwest
    Posts
    1,851

    Default

    speaking of nursing .... I wish i didn't know what a plugged duct was or even better a milk bleb/ blister ouch!!!!

    even so I never imagined as a first time mom I would love my nursing relationship soo much. I still hated the way we weaned.

    I do not look forward to being engorged for the first few weeks until milk suppy/ demand stabilizes. I remember waking up in puddles or just pouring in the shower.

    Oh and i was soo excited when my milk came in I was outside the grocery store nursing in the car and sprayed the window.
    Chris




    9/18/12

  5. #5
    Posting Addict smsturner's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    Hamilton, NY
    Posts
    5,855

    Default

    I wish I had known that when babies are born they can look blue and be totally fine. And sometimes they don't cry the second they come. Meg was all blue and didn't cry at first and we were scared to death!

    I wish I had known how badly it hurts to tear naturally with a natural vaginal birth. I think it was the worst thing. And that even if they 'numb' you with the shot, it doesn't really numb the deep tissue and the stitches WILL hurt like hell.

    I wish that I had known that it's ok to choose not to breastfeed, and that I wasn't a fail as a mom for not doing it. We tried and it was horrible for us. I was horribly guilted by anyone and everyone and asked way too many nosy questions that are no one's business.

    I wish I had known what a difference the epidural would make after the birth. With my first when I had it, I felt great afterward besides my episiotomy site. The second, my natural birth, for about a week I felt like I was hit by a truck and every single one of my muscles hurt!
    Susan, dh Tom, dd Megan, ds Marcus, ds #2 coming Feb, 2014

    Lilypie Maternity tickers

    I never knew until that moment how badly it could hurt to lose something you never really had. - Missed Miscarriage at 10 weeks - 3/26

  6. #6
    Supporter stbernardlover's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Posts
    278

    Default

    I had no idea that the bleeding afterwards lasted so long. It was like a super heavy period for weeks and weeks.

    There is still no way to prepare for the exhaustion of being up all the time. I felt like a zombie.

    The amount of responsibility a FTM feels, just because you have never had it before. I remember coming into the living room with DD laying on a blanket in the floor with DD and I just started sobbing. I said to DH, "we really can't mess this up."

    How much I would LOVE breastfeeding and what a special part of my relationship with DD it has been.
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers



    ~Amber
    DH 10/08
    DD 2/21/10 @32 weeks

    9/12, 9 weeks, no HB
    1/13, 5 weeks, CP

  7. #7
    Prolific Poster Chris_85's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    midwest
    Posts
    1,851

    Default

    It really is ok to take 10 or 20 minuets to shower and gather your self up again....

    Ask for help!!!

    And understand that baby will be ok if daddy does things a little different.
    Chris




    9/18/12

  8. #8
    Prolific Poster Chris_85's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    midwest
    Posts
    1,851

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by smsturner View Post
    I wish I had known that when babies are born they can look blue and be totally fine. And sometimes they don't cry the second they come. Meg was all blue and didn't cry at first and we were scared to death!

    I wish I had known how badly it hurts to tear naturally with a natural vaginal birth. I think it was the worst thing. And that even if they 'numb' you with the shot, it doesn't really numb the deep tissue and the stitches WILL hurt like hell.

    I wish that I had known that it's ok to choose not to breastfeed, and that I wasn't a fail as a mom for not doing it. We tried and it was horrible for us. I was horribly guilted by anyone and everyone and asked way too many nosy questions that are no one's business.

    I wish I had known what a difference the epidural would make after the birth. With my first when I had it, I felt great afterward besides my episiotomy site. The second, my natural birth, for about a week I felt like I was hit by a truck and every single one of my muscles hurt!
    I am soo sorry you got do much greif and guilt about Breast feeding.... I realize it is a lot of work for some women and there are sooo many contributing factors to successful nursing... that being said you did what was best for you and your Lo... i got crap for nursing for so long and when ever Lily wanted to

    do you think you didn't have good enough support? just curious will you try again this time?

    I am surprised how many women love there epidural... mine was awful.. I tore as well but don't even remember being stitched up


    Oh and one more

    Make sure you get an extra peri bottle for when you are out.... Peeing Burns soooo bad after for like a week or two.. heck i can't even Remember how long it took before it felt normal.
    Chris




    9/18/12

  9. #9
    Prolific Poster jski88's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    on a speck in WI
    Posts
    1,278

    Default

    I had no idea about after birth pains...after I had my second baby- the pain while breastfeeding and anytime the nurses came to push on my uterus was almost unbearable. It was as bad if not worse than contractions during labor. I was so confused- the baby was out, why was I in so much pain!? After my third, it wasn't nearly as bad, but still uncomfortable. May have had to do with the fact that I was induced with my 2nd? I don't know, but that was a huge surprise to me.
    Jenn-28
    d/h-Keith
    d/s-Cash
    d/s-Ollie
    d/d-Gracie


  10. #10
    Supporter
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    347

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Chris_85 View Post

    And understand that baby will be ok if daddy does things a little different.
    I have to giggle... With my first I had long talks with hubby about if he feels like I'm being overly mommy that he needs to let me know. That I love him and however he wants to "put the hat" on is fine. Part of it was that he was really nervous about babies and I have a lot more experience plus I was/am a SAHM so there was "the usual way" and "daddy's way". The funny part is that I was so sick when baby was born that I didn't get to see him until he was 2 days old and so daddy had been the one visiting in the NICU and changing diapers and stuff. We were both pretty stressed (baby was doing fine but it was pretty. Unexpected)... I went to put his little hat back on and apparently did it differently than daddy had been and he reached over to do "right" and we both stopped looked at each other and burst out laughing!! The nurses thought we were nuts cause we were hysterically laughing for no reason.

+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
v -->

About Us | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Sitemap | Terms & Conditions