We were going to go this weekend to tell Tom's family in Rhode island about the baby.
We got a call Friday night that the testing his mom was having came back very badly.
She has uterine cancer that has spread extensively and aggressively. They didn't even know she was sick until she fainted 10 days ago. They said at the hospital she would be gone in about two weeks.
They put her in hospice care and that's all they can do.
But even at home things are not going well. She's refusing to eat or drink. She hasn't had anything for three days. She says she's just 'trying to go'. They are saying now, it will be just a few days. It's so insane. And unbelievable.
We are shocked. Tom left first thing Saturday morning, and I'll follow today after work. We are beyond devastated that she won't be able to see Tom's baby, or be around for any of it. She is an amazing person and this is so unfair. We are just so sad.
The one question we have is do we tell her about the baby now? Will it be good or bad news? I just don't know.
-HUGS- To you and your family. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now.
I would tell her, personally. My nanny passed when I was 13 and I still wish I could tell her to this day. That being said I had an extremely close relationship with her.
It's a tough choice to make. -HUGS-
I am so sorry hun. Having lost all my parents, 2 to cancer I know how hard it is. And I would probably tell her.
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"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss
*hugs* I'm so sorry. I hope she passes peacefully when her time comes. I would tell her about the baby in person though, it might brighten her remaining time here.
oh so sorry hon, sending thoughts and prayers your way. I would still tell her, but that is just me.
Please take no offense to this but i find it odd that she is wanting to just go, she has to have some kind of options. i guess am an optimistic kind of person. I am very sorry for you both. I husband has lost many family members to cancer. his mom has lost a kidney to cancer, and her thyroid. hugs.
I'm so sorry for you and for Tom, that is just so awful and so unfair. I think I would also tell her, in person though if you have that chance. When it looked like my dad was going through his last days, he tells me now he had a premonition that we'd have another baby. I think it's an idea he found comforting, even though I wasn't actually pregnant yet. The idea of life continuing, renewing, will be a comfort to a lot of people and help them find peace. A lot of love for you and your family. x
DS - June 2010
My cousin also made the decision to stop treatment when she had terminal cancer. She was very gracious, very determined.
DS - June 2010
I am so sorry, Susan. I'll be thinking of your family.
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TTA, but would welcome a surprise