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Siblings?

Many if us already have a child or two in the family. What is her/she like? ERIC they excited? Do they even know they are going to be a big brother or sister?

stbernardlover's picture
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Our DD is Isabelle. She is about 3.5. And boy is 3 years old than 2 years old. She is getting a lot of attitude, really in the last few weeks that is driving me and DH crazy. She is doing the hands on hips, stomping a foot, pouty/angry face when she doesn't get her way. We are fairly strict parents and have never tolerated that stuff, but it seems like an unstoppable train right now. Its a battle every day.
We've tried talking to her, taking away toys, taking away story time at bed, every the occasional pop on the leg..... Nothing works. I guess its just a stage, but its really not much fun.

She seems to know we are having a baby although she doesn't understand that it won't be tomorrow. She is excited about the baby and asks every night if the baby will get her bed. Shes very clingy to me, so i think sharing my attention might be very hard on her. I know I'll have to make some special efforts to give her some mommy time every day.

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Stetson is our only one, he is about 2.5 yrs old. He seems very excited, when he gets reminded. Other then that he is super attached to me and DH at times. So we are unsure of how he will handle the transition to big brother.

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I have two boys, Shane (4) and Kyle (3). They are exactly 14 months apart. Shane was obviously too young to understand when I was pregnant with Kyle. Regardless, he did very well adjusting to a baby. In fact, I think he did better than I did, lol.

We haven't told them about this LO yet, we're waiting until we hear a heartbeat. I would wait until 13 or 14 weeks, but we have a family vacation planned around 10 weeks and we're hoping to tell them then. I know Shane will be excited, he has prayed for a baby sister almost every night for about a year now. Kyle usually follows along with brother, so I think he'll be happy too. However, I imagine Kyle will have some issues adjusting when the baby actually arrives, as he is the difficult one. Shane, on the other hand, is my easy going happy child so I think he'll be fine. He already tells me that he will help if we have a baby for him.

I really can't wait to share this pregnancy with them. It's what I'm most excited about this time around Smile

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Amber, Isabelle sounds like a handful! I bet it's hard to keep a straight face sometimes when you're supposed to correct her but she's stompin around with her hands in her hips Smile I'm afraid to have a baby girl bc I'm sure she would be just like I was when I was little ... I was a smart alec, with quite an attitude, and a knack for talking back.

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She is quite the handful right now. And sometimes it IS very hard not to laugh. I mean, really, how can you NOT laugh when a 3 year old puts our cat in time out.... In the pantry. Or tells our St. Bernard that she is disappointed the she is not being a "good listener".
But when she walks away from me and I'm scolding her, i really want to scream. Even punishments dont phase her sometimes. If i tell her she is going to lose the toy if she doesn't pick it up, shes like, "ok. Are you going to give it to another child?" Shes not upset.
Just not sure how to stop the back talk. We have the talks about kinds words and kind ton of voice and she understands, but when shes frustrated it all goes out the window.

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I have almost 19 month old DS who was a very needy, screamy infant and now is a very strong willed toddler. Love the kid a lot, but man do we have battles now that he is so mobile and wants to get into everything. He has no clue he has a new sibling coming in his future, it's going to rock his little "I'm the center of the universe" world Blum 3 I hope child #2 is more laid back.

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Amber, my 4 year old now asks me, "what will my punishment be if (insert bad behavior here)?" He's actually started reasoning as to whether or not its worth it. So now I make up absurd punishments like, "you have to sleep with the lions at the zoo tonight" or "you can't take a bath until you are 5." I'm not always the best at reprimanding Smile

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Lilly is my first, and she is way too smart for her own good. She is always surprising me with new words and recently imaginative play. Very independent, I swear she is the energizer bunny's child, rarely if ever naps and if she does forget bed time before 9 pm. Before she started talking so well, and even at times now she will get extremely frustrated if Myself or a family member can not understand what she is talking about. Most of the time as long as she is kept busy she is very happy and very well behaved. I know this sounds simple but as long as her needs are anticipated and met she is very content. On the other hand when she is hungry or tired forget it. I have had to deal with very few melt downs as we call them, and i have learned to respond quickly and know what her limits are, as well as mommy's.

She knows about the baby, I couldn't keep it from her as like i said she is so smart, little ears over hear things, she asked where her baby sister is and where is mommy's baby.

We told her it is in mommy's tummy, and she kind of understands and repeats that to me every morning. But she also keeps asking "when can baby Lilly hold mommy's baby?" i tell her when the baby is born, she responds with "Just take it out" or "can't mommy take it out" I tell her that we have to let the baby grow really big and strong, and baby will come when its ready. she usually repeats "can baby Lilly hold mommy's baby?" I always tell her when the baby is born i will let her hold the baby. She usually says something after like "Baby Lilly was born at the Hospital." I tell her yes your right. She still refers to herself as baby, so i am trying to work on calling her a little girl instead.

I only really worry that she will let the cat out of the bag before i am ready to tell certain family members or friends.
But is is amazingly cute.

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My daughter is 13, and my son is 11.

My daughter is a demon teenager attached to her ipad most of the time lol My son loves minecraft and would like to be permenently attached to his pc. They are both super excited. And both insist that this child should be what they are (boy or girl). Megan hasn't picked a name she likes yet, but Marcus says Felix for a boy. lol (last time, he picked apollo for a boy, so it's getting better!)

I'm really hoping things go well when this baby comes along!! It's different to have such a big age between them!! I realized last week that my daughter will be starting college the same year this child starts kindergarten!!

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On a late note to the attitudes on little girls. Yeah you don't get away from that with boys promise. My son will look at me and go 'Scuse you!' or 'Nu-uh you dinni' He is in the 4 yr old class at daycare, he's advanced in his writing and physically ability, or so the teachers say, but I am growing a loathe for the 4 yr old girls he is learning from. This morning I was telling him that eating his eggs was not a negotiable topic in our house hold and he shook his finger in my face and said 'NO-NO-NO' Yup, mommy needs a spa day.

We are relatively strict parents as well, tho it rarely comes to spanking in our house. We will give him the option to start acting right, or go in time out. Depending on the day, he will ask how long in the corner, or he will stop throwing a fit, some days he just throws himself onto the floor in the corner. I am wondering why I really want a girl!

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As having older kids, I will comment that with boys it's gets better by the time they are 7 or 8. With girls it definitely does not. lol Just gets worse and worse!! (at least in my experience)

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Our little boy Ivor just had his third birthday. I definitely wouldn't describe us as strict parents, but we don't let him be deliberately rude to us or to others. He is also very strong willed but has developed quite an early understanding of fair compromise, and he will reason with us most of the time. We try and keep him occupied with the kinds of things he enjoys most, which is outdoor play, messy play and anything to do with drawing or building/constructing. He's physically quite a cautious child and only recently started enjoying being at the playground and going on things like swings and slides. He's a thinker, but also a total yap. Honestly he never ever ever stops talking and/or singing. If no one is in the room he talks to his toys or to himself, and if there is anyone around they are bombarded with questions. It's lovely. It's also downright exhausting!

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"smsturner" wrote:

My daughter is 13, and my son is 11.

My daughter is a demon teenager attached to her ipad most of the time lol My son loves minecraft and would like to be permenently attached to his pc. They are both super excited. And both insist that this child should be what they are (boy or girl). Megan hasn't picked a name she likes yet, but Marcus says Felix for a boy. lol (last time, he picked apollo for a boy, so it's getting better!)

I'm really hoping things go well when this baby comes along!! It's different to have such a big age between them!! I realized last week that my daughter will be starting college the same year this child starts kindergarten!!

Susan- there was about a 12 year gap between myself and my sister when she was born. It was interesting because there were defintely times when I felt more like a second mother to her than a sister but that dynamic slowly changed as we got older and are now both adults. It also made good birth control for me going into my teens Blum 3 No way did I want my own baby after helping feed, diaper, etc my sister.

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Oh, just want to clarify that i dont beat DD or anything.
We usually talk it out, use time out, and take away the toy if its the issue. Today has been a good day and there hasn't been that much back talk. We just have to keep really firm boundaries and, like someone else said, anticipate her needs. Getting hungry or tired spells disaster. Thankfully she still naps about 2 hours a day.
Overall she is a very sweet, good natured little girl. I think its just a stage of really finding her own will and independence.

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"stbernardlover" wrote:

Oh, just want to clarify that i dont beat DD or anything.
We usually talk it out, use time out, and take away the toy if its the issue. Today has been a good day and there hasn't been that much back talk. We just have to keep really firm boundaries and, like someone else said, anticipate her needs. Getting hungry or tired spells disaster. Thankfully she still naps about 2 hours a day.
Overall she is a very sweet, good natured little girl. I think its just a stage of really finding her own will and independence.

Don't worry! Definitely don't think anyone thought that! Smile And she looks cute as anything too. You don't sound strict to me anyway.

We have the exact same problem if DS gets tired or hungry, and it can just suddenly rear its head and he's a different child. I really find it stressful when that happens. I'll never forget once when we badly misjudged a visit to a cafe. He was tired. Anyway, he got stuck in his high chair because he was rigid with anger, just screaming his head off. I had to take the high chair outside into the street with him still sitting in it till he calmed down and I could get him out. Ooups.

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Lurking from March....

We have 4 kids--Joseph is 9, Kaitlyn is almost 8, Weston is almost 5 and Oakley is 18 months. We have not told them yet, and do not plan to until first appointment and heartbeat--at about 12 weeks. I haven't even called the dr yet to make a first appointment. So it won't be until about mid-end of August until we tell them. I'm sure they'll be excited. Weston asked right after I had my BFP when I was going to have another baby in my tummy...Kids have a crazy sixth sense! Baby won't know any difference except that he is no longer all attention Wink I think my dd will want a sister though so that she won't be the only girl--though recently she said she liked being "the only princess in the family" LOL