My sister-in-law (dh's sister) was expecting her first baby 6 weeks after us. They lost their baby yesterday. I am so heartbroken for them--I completely understand how she feels. I have had 4 miscarriages and I think none of the 3 later losses I had were as painful as my first. I had no children at the time--so my thoughts were all over the place. What I did to cause it, if I would even even be able to have children, etc. I don't know all the details yet on how she found out--we are giving them time to process before calling and asking a bunch of questions. I had just got a text from my MIL to tell us the sad news and so I texted my SIL our condolences and said to call anytime she needs--that I understand. She said she thought of me all day. She was little when I had my first loss at about the same gestation--I think she was maybe 12. But she does remember it and the later ones and said she guesses no one ever quite understands until they experience it.
I just hope that they are able to conceive again quickly and know they are expecting a healthy baby before our little girl is born--I think it would make it so much more painful for them if not. But I know it took them about 6 months of trying for this first pregnancy too. So, yeah. So so sad for them. We told our kids last night because they already knew she was having a baby. We tried to explain that sometimes when it the baby is very tiny, things just go wrong and the baby stops growing. My 5 year old prayed before he went to bed that our baby wouldn't die too. It is hard for them too. We tried to reassure them that at this point, our baby is really healthy and past most of the danger of having problems growing.