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    So I am both very excited and sad that we are going to be starting from scratch as far as any thing baby or maturity. We had a friend who we left use all our baby stuff. Crib, bottles, toys and cloths. And almost all of my may cloths. Well she found out she's pregnant and refuses to give anything back because it was all gifts. Kind of heart broken.
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    I'm starting from scratch too, but excited over it! I haven't done this in more than a decade, so our stuff is long gone lol

    I can't wait to start picking out tiny things and furniture and such. Well...ok... i fess up, i already have a box of little clothes lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Momma 1991 View Post
    We had a friend who we left use all our baby stuff. Crib, bottles, toys and cloths. And almost all of my may cloths. Well she found out she's pregnant and refuses to give anything back because it was all gifts. Kind of heart broken.
    Well, its fun to pick out stuff, but regardless, i think its a shame that this "friend" wont give you your stuff back. "Refuses to give it back" doesn't sound much like a friend to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stbernardlover View Post
    Well, its fun to pick out stuff, but regardless, i think its a shame that this "friend" wont give you your stuff back. "Refuses to give it back" doesn't sound much like a friend to me.
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    I agree -- if you let her "use" it versus "giving" it to her, that is a totally different scenario. And, I would think she would understand and be excited for you and appreciate that you helped her out. I agree, doesn't sound like a "friend" to me.

    However, it may be fun for you to get to pick all new stuff; have fun exploring
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    Some thing tells me that I was more of a friend. Still sad.... border lining pissed actually.
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    Thats a shame, Kendra!! I would be pretty upset too.

    I'm a little worried about asking my SIL for our stuff back. She had her first when our youngest was over a year, and we lent them a bunch of stuff, including my baby bjorn, bumbo, jumperoo, carseat base, activity mat, and some other small stuff. It was all, however, very clearly "on loan until we have more babies". But they are on a super tight budget. And while my family is on a budget as well, both my husband and I have careers and are financially stable. She's 27 weeks along in her second pregnancy, and probably counting on using our things, but I'm going to have to ask her for them back. I feel bad, and I worry about how the rest of our family will react, but its our stuff.

    UGHH, it gets me nervous just thinking about it. I have no idea how I'll ever approach the conversation. Maybe I'll just have my husband do it.
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    Wow, if I were those people I think I would feel a little weird holding onto stuff (even with new baby on the way) knowing that it belonged to someone else and now they need it back for their own baby on the way. You gave it to them because you were not using/needing it at the time but that is not the case now. Maybe a compromise, if they would give half the stuff back (a mix of smaller and bigger expense items) so that neither party has to shell out a huge amount of money to start from scratch, or maybe you could ask for particular items back - play the sentimental value card since you used those items for your own babies.
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    I confronted her about giving it back, even contacted the cops. Nothing the police can do without proof that the items belong to us and the other lady told me that 'if we can't afford to pay for another baby then to stop expecting other people to fix my mistakes.' Yup you think a 25 year old woman wouldn't act like a 10 year old.... I was wrong. I don't plan to let people borrow my baby stuff again.

    Jessica-
    I had to sound harsh and kinda rude but it's your stuff. I would ask for it back. You made it clear that you were going to need it back once you had another baby, that it would need to be returned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Momma 1991 View Post
    I confronted her about giving it back, even contacted the cops. Nothing the police can do without proof that the items belong to us and the other lady told me that 'if we can't afford to pay for another baby then to stop expecting other people to fix my mistakes.' Yup you think a 25 year old woman wouldn't act like a 10 year old.... I was wrong. I don't plan to let people borrow my baby stuff again.
    Wow Makes you feel like you need to make and sign a contract with people when you lend out baby stuff. Well I guess by her choice she is keeping some stuff for another year or so but is losing a friend forever...sad
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