Telling your boss?

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jesse.red's picture
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Telling your boss?

Hey ladies! I'm wondering if / how / when you plan on telling your employers that you are pregnant.

I just started a new job in March. I am an RN. I work at a pediatric medical daycare. As far as health concerns, it is fairly unlikely I will be exposed to anything cautious for pregnant women. I do a decent amount of lifting kids, but most of them are under 30 pounds. And that's not much different than lifting my almost 40 pound kids at home. So I'm not super concerned about that, but I don't know what's really expected and typical. I love this job, I am so happy here. I don't really have any mean bosses or coworkers, everyone is great. Im just nervous.

I hope I don't sound odd for asking, it seems like easy peasy stuff, but I'm a bit of an awkward person when it comes to formal stuff or confrontations like this. Any advice or experiences would be appreciated!

Lil Momma 1991's picture
Joined: 10/05/09
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I started my job about 3 weeks before we found out. Super nervous lol. I'll tell him after July 4th

Stormy Weather's picture
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I'd like to wait till after 12 weeks but I will have to tell my supervisor at university very soon as they are already sorting out teaching for next year and have asked me to teach a class that starts in February! :rolleyes:

smsturner's picture
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I'm a high school secretary at an alt ed and technical school.
I was hoping to be having a baby nearer to summertime, but I am NOT complaining!! I will have to take some time in March and April, but it's honestly the worst part of the year to need time off. My principal will not be thrilled. But we'll work it out. I can do a ton of the computer stuff from home, but not sure if that will help or not. My job won't be in jeopardy or anything, but no one will be happy with me! lol
Tom teaches Botany at Cornell, so his classes end in early May and that will help a ton.

I can't decide if I should tell my boss sooner so we can work it out earlier, or if I should wait, bcs then if this bean didn't stick, I'd have never stressed her out.

ChristaM's picture
Joined: 01/11/04
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I told my boss right away -- but, we have a great relationship and have worked together for 9 years! Given that, I was ok with telling him. He and his boss were both really supportive when I had the miscarriage in November.

I just told him that I needed to let him know that I was expecting and that I would keep him informed as there was news to share. But, the news is not public to the rest of the office.

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Re OP: I would just wait until you felt comfortable sharing the news with work. Don't feel pressured to disclose unless there is a safety concern in which you would probably need to give reason for accomodation. I told my supervisors around 12 weeks last time (I was working at two hospitals and one was fairly new job - hired in March and found out I was pregnant in May). I'm glad I waited because it meant I was far enough along to feel to safe to share the news and allowed enough time for them to figure out how to accomodate my heavier physical tasks later in later trimesters and mat leave staffing-wise.

I lift adults and equipment which was fine for the first trimester and most of my second. Started needing co-worker assistance to lift some the heavier & max assist patients by third trimester. By end of third tri, even the patient's family members were offering to help me with equipment and reaching for stuff on floor Smile

Plan to wait until around 12 weeks again to share at work though there could be the rare occasion where the news might get leaked sooner say if I find out one of my assigned patients has active shingles and then I would have to ask another therapist to see them for me.

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Joined: 03/02/12
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I plan to wait until about 12 weeks. I teach nursing at a community college, and was there when i got pg with DD, too. They all know we planned to have another child. Most of them know either from me or indirectly of our losses, too.
Since this baby is due the same time as DD was, i plan to ask for the same extended maternity leave again. We teach 12 months a year, so summers are not off. Last time i too took late February-mid August off. This baby is due 2/12, and will be a planned c/s, so i anticipate asking for beginning of February through mid July.
It shouldn't be a big deal, i just wish that i had more laid leave time than the few months i have banked. T's time i will have short term disability though to cover another 7 weeks financially.

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It sounds like several of us work in healthcare and/or education fields Smile

Stormy Weather's picture
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What does everyone teach? I teach creative writing and script writing to first and second year film students.

Joined: 12/01/10
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I don't teach now since I work part-time on weekends only, but when I worked full-time I usually had a university OT student with me for about 12 weeks every year. I miss that because it was fun to watch them become increasingly self-sufficient, but it was a lot of work too. Hmmm...a lot like being a parent when I think about it.

stbernardlover's picture
Joined: 03/02/12
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I teach pediatric and OB nursing. I've never been fond of adult care, but we team teach and i have some colleagues who are extremely knowledgable and great at that content. So, we compliment each others content strengths and weaknesses very nicely.

ChristaM's picture
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I don't teach - I'm in IT Audit; I work for Kellogg's in their internal audit department. But, my degree is in Computer Science, so I concentrate on IT audit work versus the financial side of things.