I need some advice!
I have had two recent miscarriages (November 2012 and July 2013). On 8/8 I met with a RE who has decided to do some tests (U/S and blood work). But, he wants me to wait one full cycle post the miscarraige before proceeding (wants to give time for my hormones and uterine lining to "normalize"). BUT, I TURN 41 in December and DH only wants to try for a limit time (he turns 48 in February).
I'm on my first post miscarriage cycle now -- TODAY is my wedding anniversary and CD14. Well, this morning, I got a peak ovulation detection reading on my monitor (don't normally ovulate until day 18-19; but took some supplements/herbs this cycle which likely pushed it up) -- so, do we "try" or wait out this cycle as per advice from the RE?
I have mixed "signs":
On the positive -- I normally don't ovulate until closer to day 18-19 and it's our anniversary.
On the negative, our DD had a bad dream and ended up in bed with us last night. So, a quicky this morning wasn't an option - and even if it had been, DH had a migraine!
What would you do?! TRY OR WAIT THE ONE CYCLE AND PROCEED WITH TESTING NEXT CYCLE?!
Me: Christa, 41
DH: Craig, 47 (Married: 8/19/05)
DD: Kendall Evelyn (10/6/06)
DS: Quentin Vincent (4/14/09)
: November 2012@ 10 weeks (due date: 6/22/13)
: June 2013 @ 7-1/2 weeks (due date: 2/10/14)
: December 2013 @ 4 weeks (due date: 8/9/14)
: April 2014 @ 4 weeks (due date: 1/1/15)
: July 2014 @ 4 weeks - Chemical (due date: 3/5/15 )
I would try, or if you were likely to dtd tonight anyhow, I wouldn't do anything to prevent...
No harm in trying tonight and see what happens. In my book, thats not really trying anyway, its just anniversary BD!
And maybe im just reading in to it all, but subconsciously you didnt sit this cycle out or you wouldn't have even monitored your fertile days this cycle.
Just go for it and see what happens. I was in a similar situation after my second m/c, DH was aggravated at all the planning and trying to coordinate and was getting ready to say "i need a break", we were already starting to argue about it. So, i didnt want to waste a single cycle untilunless i was literally cut off.
Good luck! Keep us posted!
I agree with trying.
And now you are under the care of an RE to check and closely monitor things should anything go wrong.