Work and Daycare

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Work and Daycare

So, I need some advice. I work in a law firm where my boss is pretty laid back. Now we have discussed a few times that I will likely need a raise in order to come back to work after the baby gets here. So I am wondering if any of you have any advice about how to bring this up with him and get a definitive answer from him. I would LOVE to come back to work. I am not a very 'Stay at home' mom type. But in reality I make XX amount and daycare is XX amount and I'll only bring home about 100 a week. (This is with us moving daycares to a cheaper facility already)

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I wish I had more experience with this to guide you, but I have never had to ask for a raise before. How I would approach it: arrange a time to meet with him (so it seems more formal versus discussing something on the fly when other things might be on his mind). It would be good to include in the discussion how you enjoy working there, what you contribute as a team member, and how you want to return after your maternity leave. Then say something along the lines of how you have been researching cost-effective daycare for two kids in your area and are concerned that you may not be able to continue working with your current salary because of the increased care cost. Hopefully, if he seemed receptive in previous conversations, you will be able work out something in that moment or soon after regarding a raise upon your return. I would make sure to get something written out because you don't to return from maternity leave only to have him "not remember" the agreed upon raise. Good luck!

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I am definitely not made to be a stay at home mom either. Even if I only got 100 bucks a week past daycare, i would keep coming!

It's good that you have discussed it already. I would just wait until things are slower and relaxed and he's in a good mood, and just sit in his office and tell him that you need to discuss it. Make sure you mention how much you want to come back, I'm sure he'll love hearing that! Good luck!

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"smsturner" wrote:

I am definitely not made to be a stay at home mom either. Even if I only got 100 bucks a week past daycare, i would keep coming!

It's good that you have discussed it already. I would just wait until things are slower and relaxed and he's in a good mood, and just sit in his office and tell him that you need to discuss it. Make sure you mention how much you want to come back, I'm sure he'll love hearing that! Good luck!

We have talked about me still working with what I am paid now. I spend about 50 in gas a week and normally 10 or so in lunch. So it just really boils down to if it's worth it to me. Dh says he doesn't care either way. I just have a hard time justifying still working when I bring home so little.

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I know you say you don't really want to stay home, but is there a way you could do maybe more of a work from home say half the week and then daycare for the other half and make it worth it??

There are many ways to work from home and make a decent amount of money with out losing your professional self, at least until your kiddos are in school and you can go back to the office. or even when daycare becomes less expensive?

Just a thought.

I never really started off my professional career as i searched for a job for the whole year prior and 6 months after i graduated college. then i became a mom, and now i am using my skills mostly on ebay.. but freelance work is good at times too.
i know there are tons of types of jobs you can do from a home office and mostly on your time table.

but make sure if you are going back and asking for a raise to be clear and concise on why you are such an asset to the firm.

Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

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That is a tough call. I think Christina's advice was great. I have not worked away from home since I have had kids. And with 5, daycare would be so much more than I made as a teacher anyways! But I also enjoy staying home and having my small home business to supplement a little.

Good luck speaking with your boss and making these touch decisions!

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What type of home based work do you ladies do? I feel like I've get little to offer :/