Learning Moments for a FTM

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Learning Moments for a FTM

As a FTM I'd share what I like to call my "Learning Moments". Smile

1. Don't ever take your baby somewhere without first making sure he's well-fed. I learned this lesson the hard way when I tried to take Sheldon for a long walk. He woke up halfway and started screamig...and he screamed the entire walk home.

2. Watch out for the baby's head -- you will forget it's hanging over your arm and it will hit the doorjam every time.

3. Yes, I DO need a burp cloth at all times. The "maybe this time he won't spit up" mentality is wishful thinking. My worst moment: Sheldon vomiting all over me while I was wearing my nursing tank. The vomit pooled in the little shelf of the nursing tank. Ugh.

4. Unless I cover his little penis when I change his diaper, he will pee on me every time. AND, he will pee after I finish bathing him. Every time! He's all clean and pretty and he pees on himself!

5. All those elaborate outfits are cute and all, but at 3:00 am I just want to unzip the sleeper, change the diaper, and zip him back up. 100 little snap buttons are not cool!

I'm sure I have more, but I'll stop there for now. Please feel free to add your own FTM or BTDT moments. Smile

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These all made me smile! I would have composed the exact same list after DD #1 too...ESPECIALLY the elaborate outfits one. Definitely learned from that experience Smile

One thing to add:

Bring an extra pair of clothes not only for your baby but also for YOU! I was at a Christmas dinner with family with DD #1 and she pooped ALL over my jeans (they can really shoot it!). I had to wear my grandma's bright purple sweatpants the rest of the night. ROFL

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LOL! Love it! I'll add a couple FTM moments to the list:

1. If you don't stick a diaper under her butt RIGHT after you pull the dirty one out, she will either pee or poo all over the changing pad, resulting in yet another load of laundry.

2. Just to spite you, if you put your baby in a cute outfit, they will wear it long enough for you to take a picture, and then spit up all over it/blow out a diaper in it.

3. While I'm on the subject of diapers, I've now learned it is possible for a baby to poop up only the front of a diaper. We have now sacrificed two onesies because the poop won't come out.... And we've learned that Pampers are not the best diapers for our baby!

Oh, and the burp cloth? Especially helpful when your baby has reflux being treated by Mylanta. She manages to store it under her tongue and spits it all out when you put her up to your shoulder.

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"MichelleBell" wrote:

5. All those elaborate outfits are cute and all, but at 3:00 am I just want to unzip the sleeper, change the diaper, and zip him back up. 100 little snap buttons are not cool!

The gowns are really awesome ... you just have to pull them up, change the diaper, and pull them back down!

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"MichelleBell" wrote:

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3. Yes, I DO need a burp cloth at all times. The "maybe this time he won't spit up" mentality is wishful thinking. My worst moment: Sheldon vomiting all over me while I was wearing my nursing tank. The vomit pooled in the little shelf of the nursing tank. Ugh.
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I still have not learned this one...it's like a mental block for me for some reason. :bonkself:

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"LaurenE" wrote:

The gowns are really awesome ... you just have to pull them up, change the diaper, and pull them back down!

The gowns are my favorite for Cailyn. We even managed to find ones that have built in scratch mitts. It's either those or onesies that she sleeps in.

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yes, every baby IS different, and all those things i needed with DD are NOT what i need with DS.

DD needed a burp cloth every time, DS rarely does.

DD needed everyone in a 10 ft radius to have a change of clothing. DS needs a liner for his carseat for when he blows out his diaper. and he will!

T-shirts are pointless before 6 months. when you pick the baby up, the shirt rides up and then baby is half naked. onsies are good.

i second the notion that snaps are evil. All hail the mighty zipper!

Don't buy too many clothes ahead. or diapers. you never know when the kid will have a growth spurt and completely skip an entire size in a week.

onsies and zippered sleepers ARE cute. why bother with all those dress up outfits... you KNOW they are going to get puked or pooped on!

when they say never wake a sleeping baby, THEY MEAN IT. unless there is a health reason to wake the kid, DON'T BOTHER. count your blessings and go back to sleep!

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When I was a FTM, I made the mistake of assuming that because the baby was fed right before we left the house, he couldn't possibly be hungry again at our destination, 10 minutes down the road. Then I realized that by the time we followed it with changing his diaper, packing his bag, loading him in the car seat, etc etc etc... Like an hour and a half had gone by. And I couldn't figure out why he was crying. OOPS. Funny how things like that seem so silly the 2nd time around.

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With DD i had to feed her right before we left the house... like bag is packed in the car, already has a clean diaper... carseat set up and ready to be loaded.... heck, i had to be in my shoes and coat already..... and by the time we got to wal-mart... 10 minutes away, yes, she really wanted to eat again. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

with DS i keep forgetting to feed him. because he doesnt care. strange child.

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Don't think you can make a quick trip anywhere without the diaper bag! I went to the store with him to get milk and he blew out his diaper when I was getting the car seat out of the car (hadn't even bought the milk yet!), so I had to run in and get everything as fast as possible while he was screaming mad. Good times...

And I agree: 100 snaps + dark + tired = evil

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These are all awesome! and I had to learn them all too.

I've learned that we just can't be on time for anything! If we need to be ther at 5, I need to work toward being there by 4:40 so that we might make it.

Just when you start getting used to their schedule whether eating, sleeping, or pooping--- it changes.

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I love these. It's been ten yrs between babies so it's like the first time sort of! The biggest they I learned was all the things I said I was not going to do with this baby, goes out the window when you are sleep deprived! For instance: the baby will not sleep with me ( yeah right), I will not sit and hold her all the time ( yeah right), it will not be as hard to leave her( yeah right, having a panic attack thinking about going to work), I will not go over board girly with her room ( the entire room is pink and purple with sparkly curtains) I will not make her wear pink everyday ( it's not easy to find any other color)

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Agreed on the cute outfits. I just keep her in sleepers almost all the time. And boys sleepers at that Smile

I literally feed her and run out of the house to go to the gym. I allow myself to be gone for an hour and 30 minutes max since we don't give her a bottle. But I leave a little milk just in case.

We now burp her facing the floor away from us cause other wise I ended up with puddles in my bra Smile She projectile vomits sometimes, so a spit up blanket doesn't always cut it. But the floor is easy to clean.

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These are great!

I've also learned to put her in the carseat right before we leave, not before we have put on coats and shoes and packed her bag because otherwise she is going to get mad!

That carrying her in her carseat is more work than I thought it would be!

That a huge gummy smile can make your day no matter how it is going Smile

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We didn't even buy any pretty dress up outfits for the girls till 6M size, it is a waste of money because they are uncomfortable, every time you hold the baby the pretty dress ends up rolled up around her neck and most of the time they spit up all over the pretty outfil as soon as you pick them up after dressing them. All their dressy clothes are gifts and I still feel bad because they seem like a waste of money and are worn only once.

No matter how well you feed them before leaving the house they will get hungry very fast so have a bottle or your boobie handy and if you can't get to them because you are in the car driving then get used to crying. Evelyn screams even if she just ate every time we go in the car so I'm just getting used to ignoring the screams because there is nothing I can do. I can stop the car, nurse her, put her back and start driving again and she starts screaming before I even start the car.

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These are great! Smile So many of them are ones I have BTDT with. Brings back some memories.

One I learned today. Pregnancy brain never stops. It just becomes Newborn Brain, Toddler Brain, etc. See the bigger lesson I learned today was, when buying groceries you need to remember to actually load them in your car BEFORE leave the parking lot! LOL

See I went shopping with all three kids for the first time this morning. Claire started crying half way through our 45 minute shopping trip. She was fighting her nap. This is my first experience ever with a crying baby in a store; then top it off with DS not following directions so well...
Well we paid for our $!50 worth of food and asked for curbside loading instead of taking them out myself like I normally do. So I haul the kids outside, get them buckled in, and then proceed to drive over to the grocery store's own gas station. See they had a special coupon today that if I buy $75 worth of groceries I got a $1 off per gallon of gas. So I was excited/distracted by my coupon. Smile Well I get my gas and then head off to do my other errands around town (by this time C is sound asleep). Luckily I had hauled a gallon of milk out to the car with us because that was the ONLY reason I remember the rest of my $150 worth of groceries that were sitting on the curbside still waiting for me!!! LOL Biggrin

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LOL Brandie!!! That makes me feel better about my lack of focus Smile What a funny story!

And to OP #2 - yes...with DS, that was so hard for me to grasp for some reason. Thankfully his poor little head didn't bang the door frame hard ever, but I had so many near misses it was ridiculous.

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Well, Im not a new mom, but I still do some of these! Including banging his little head on the door jam. Poor little guy. And you would have thought I would have known to pack an extra outfit for him in the diaper bag...nope!

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"LaurenE" wrote:

The gowns are really awesome ... you just have to pull them up, change the diaper, and pull them back down!

The gowns are a MUST. That's about all Ireland wears.