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Hey all. I'm Angela. I actually use to post here last year. I started gardening as an outlet, but as with anything else, DH took over and isn't actually teaching me anything. I think he liked the idea of the outlet too. LOL

Anyway, I feel like we are WAY behind this year. We have been getting some projects done around the house and planting lots of stuff hasn't happened yet. I know we have some strawberries, lettuce, spinach, 1 red bell pepper, and 1 other type of pepper plant and 3 types of tomatoes (1 plant of each type). I actually was just commenting to DH about being late and he said he didn't think we were. He thought it had just been too wet to really get it going. Last year we did pots, but this year we did raised beds. Anyway, I really have more of a black thumb. DH is the one with the green thumb. I want to help DH, but he seems to have a system that I don't completely understand and he's not communicating with me what I can do.

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Welcome! Maybe see if you can plant a couple plants in a pot that are just yours to take care of? Or as DH if he would explain his system to you?

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YAY!!! Welcome!!!!

It sounds like your DH needs to stop being selfish and LET YOU GARDEN!! LOL!! For reals though, maybe if you just asked him what his methods were you could lend a hand?

I like the idea of your own pots too!! They are a lot easier to handle when small and confined!!!

No worries on the black thumb... as you can see from my other posts? I am already on a second try this season! ROFL

Gardening is just one of the great learning curves!

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I like the idea of having my own pots too. Or asking him to help me be responsible for one area of our raised beds since getting dirt would be an issue. If could get dirt it might be better with the pots. But that is mostly the problem. DH gets the dirt and does the composting, etc. and then never communicates what to do. He's not frustrated he just does it rather than say "let's go tend to the garden" or anything. I ask questions and he doesn't help me understand what to do. I actually think I get more frustrated than he does.

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Angela, I think you need to meet my pets. Smile One day I will post a picture, but here's the scoop:

They live in a black plastic box under the eaves.
I'd estimate the "colony" has increased to 100,000 or more.
I toss my shredded newspaper in for litter.
We add veggie scraps every now and then as food (economical little dudes)
Every couple weeks I scoot all the nice castings to one side and add new bedding to the other.
Two or three days later they get fed only within the new bedding.
When I get around to it, I remove the absolutely wonderfully marvelous worm castings/compost/super soil.
Add more scraps and more shredded (and soaked overnight and wrung out) paper.
Repeat on a relatively irregular schedule.

The wonderful thing about these little critters is that they don't mind my schedule at all and it can be VERY erratic. The gallon of worm castings I get to mix in with my potting soil's just a perk.

Have you thought of making an herb garden in pots, just for you? I find being able to dash out for a handful of mint, chives, basil... really soothing to my spirit. Maybe it's aromatherapy and maybe it's just seeing the miracle of growth one more time that does it.

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I actually potted some basil and parsley and they are doing great (inside). Although the parsley seems quite "stringy". There are leaves, but I don't know what a parsley plant is suppose to look like. I'm thinking I might need to plant some more in that. That might help. I'd like to do chives and some others as well.

You're funny about the "pets". We actually compost nearly everything. It's quite funny because although I don't see myself as particularly "green", I apparently am. I just can't make things grow. I do have great visions. I'll post a pick of my "vision" that DH helped put together.

I just know last year we had salad ALL the time and we don't have anything yet.

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It has taken me 10 years to get to the point of having a producing garden. It is a learning process. Each year you learn from the previous years mistakes. You will get there. Just keep trying.

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Knowing that helps a great deal. And because I am doing this as an outlet, I think it's easier for me stick with it. I think the other thing that would help me and it might seem silly to DH, but it would help if he did those rows so I could tell where the plants are vs weeds.

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"wishing4agirl" wrote:

Knowing that helps a great deal. And because I am doing this as an outlet, I think it's easier for me stick with it. I think the other thing that would help me and it might seem silly to DH, but it would help if he did those rows so I could tell where the plants are vs weeds.

Gardening is more of a hobby for me as well. I am sure I will never save as much money as I put into my garden. It is just very rewarding to eat something that you planted.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

Gardening is more of a hobby for me as well. I am sure I will never save as much money as I put into my garden. It is just very rewarding to eat something that you planted.

THANK you for posting this. I was talking to my DH last night, and I was like BABE! even if all my seeders live this time, I won't get back half as much as I (he) put in. He smiles and says he already knew that Blum 3 BUT still.. good to know that while it might not alleviate all the pressure of veggie shopping, the hobby part makes up for it Smile

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

It is just very rewarding to eat something that you planted.

Most definitely. Thankfully we actually haven't put hardly anything into it. We bought a few packet of seeds last year and that has been it. We have been able to get everything else for free. I'm all about the cheap.

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Ha. Last year I paid someone by the hour to dig up my garden plot (She was raising money for a missions trip), that was $50. Then $20 at least in lumber and $50 in bags of dirt in manure that was just last year. This year I built the frame. That was at least $30. Plus plants, plant food, pesticide, seeds, and what not. It will be a LONG time before I get my return out of it. But look at it this way, if I was going golfing I would not only need the golf clubs, but I would need to pay to golf without getting anything at all lasting out of it. If I was painting, crocheting, knitting or any other hobby I would need supplies to work with. At least with gardening I am getting sunshine, exercise, and food to eat. I think anything I get out of my garden is a plus. Not to mention I am learning about many things and teaching my children how things grow.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

But look at it this way, if I was going golfing I would not only need the golf clubs, but I would need to pay to golf without getting anything at all lasting out of it. If I was painting, crocheting, knitting or any other hobby I would need supplies to work with. At least with gardening I am getting sunshine, exercise, and food to eat. I think anything I get out of my garden is a plus. Not to mention I am learning about many things and teaching my children how things grow.

EXACTLY! I LOVE the idea of getting the kids involved. My 7yo isn't interested, but my little guy Eli seems to LOVE the plants and such. He's always asking what things are and loves to go out and watch DH do stuff. Since he needs calmer activities we want him to get involved. One of our square planters on our back patio DH is designating for the kids. So they already have some flowers to plant there (sunflowers and marigolds). Plus they seem to be more interested in try new foods if we grow it. We couldn't get them to try spinach for nothing. We grew it last year and they LOVED it.

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"wishing4agirl" wrote:

EXACTLY! I LOVE the idea of getting the kids involved. My 7yo isn't interested, but my little guy Eli seems to LOVE the plants and such. He's always asking what things are and loves to go out and watch DH do stuff. Since he needs calmer activities we want him to get involved. One of our square planters on our back patio DH is designating for the kids. So they already have some flowers to plant there (sunflowers and marigolds). Plus they seem to be more interested in try new foods if we grow it. We couldn't get them to try spinach for nothing. We grew it last year and they LOVED it.

Ha. I am a little bit of a control freak about having my girls IN my garden, but I let them look at it and I let them have their own little ones that they can call theirs. This year the planted pumpkins which were eaten today by something. I don't think they have noticed yet.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

Ha. I am a little bit of a control freak about having my girls IN my garden, but I let them look at it and I let them have their own little ones that they can call theirs. This year the planted pumpkins which were eaten today by something. I don't think they have noticed yet.

LOL I actually understand that. He's more the helper. He loves to help water things and dig the holes for planting etc. He'll pick a weed or two, but that's about it. That is too bad about the pumpkins. I feel a LOT better because we got our stuff planted today. And the kids got theirs planted as well. DH even told them they have to keep it weeded. LOL I'll go out and "remind" them every once in a while. Haha

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Aww, How fun. That is neat that you can do it together as a family.