Today was my BIG day out. I had my mother take me (only because I can't drive again yet) to the local major shopping centre so I could visit Medicare (& don't get me started on that fun trip!) and MBF as well as target and K-mart.
So after a long winded trip to Medicare (turns out Thomas is not on my Pension card yet ) I needed to feed Thomas. So it is school holidays, lunch time and I needed to feed my fussy baby and my Mother was waiting on me. So I visit parents room A, my mum was there already and just about finished feeding my nephew (she baby sat this morning), in there were a few mums and a dad, the conversation was good and intresting even though I was pretty much in the conrer and keeping to myself. I was getting rushed though from my mum. (Just dirty looks every time the door to the room opened as Thomas is NOT a fast feeder.) At the end the weird woman sitting near me asked if I knew what to take that dried up breast milk!
So later I was in Target when Thomas woke again and needed feeding (it had been less than 2 hrs since his lunch feed). So I got out of Target as fast as I could, and went to parents room B. I had heard good things about this one as it was not as busy as parents room A. So I am sitting on a two seater chair (the only one left) when I woman with 3 children walked in to use the parents toilet and to put a nappy on her youngest (about 3 years old). When she walks up to me, and starts to give me breast feeding advice. Now I am a new mum with a less than 2 week old baby, So I was not about to say P!ss off to when she opens with can I give you some advice, when I have a screaming fussing over tired and hungry baby who won't latch becuase he is too worked up. But honestly it was really crappy useless advice. To top it off, her three year old was climbing over the spare seat beside me which was empty and just has my spit up cloth, breast pad and dummy sitting on. So this strange gruby child was touching all of this!I was less than impressed. To top it off, my mother rushed me out of there!!! I had him on for all of five minuets when she is like well finish it off at my place! GRRRRR He screamed the whole way to her place (A 20min car trip). Than was passed around before he could finish his feed. I sense another long night!
Lesson, if you do big trips, do them on your own or break it up over two or three days!
My fussing breastfeeder only got worse on Friday. By early hours saurday morning he was on having breast milk via the bottle exculsively. Today he has been back on the breast but is still fussing. He has refused to settle this afternoon and has been on the breast several times, only to fall asleep and then wake up fussing (when lifted away from me) and wanting more, but refusing to take the breast. GRRRRR>
Today my sister took me into the baby clinic and he feed like a dream child, but they still want me to come into the breast feeding clinic tomorrow morning for the assesment. Darn I have to be ready to leave by 8:30am again.... I was not even close this morning! See if I can even be in the shower by 7am this time so I have fighting chance to get out the door.
I have to say today has been a great day and we were bearly at home for it!
After spending yesterday (or most of) at home today was a full on day and we survived very well with no formula! So here is how it went:
1am woke up with baby in my arms and still in yesterday's clothes. Moved Thomas into basinett and got into pj's went back to sleep... Thomas was last feed at 8pm and we settled down for the night by laying in bed together. John did not think to wake me when he came to bed.
3:30am.. Woke up and Thomas was still out to it, breathing check done.. LOL.. Milk leaked all over the sheets!
4am John and I get xcited when Thomas finally wakes up... Nappy change and breast feed done.. Even though I was VERY full he latches perfectly and feeds happily! BLISS!!!
6am tried to get in the shower, but Thomas wanted another feed. (we decided to stay awake..
7:30am yet another feed as we try and get ready for the day.
9am Thomas dressed happy and we are out the door for our professional pic taken.
9:30am, Thomas not impressed about being stripped down to his nappy for his pics. Feed him whilst walking around the stuido (it was a group sitting for my niece and nephew as well.)
We go to morning tea and shopping afterwards, Thomas makes very little fuss until just before
12... Head to parents room (the quiet one!) He feeds perfectly dispite the noise. Master using the parents bathroom (opening door and taking the pram in.. ect)
1:50pm fussed over to the Dr's... Feed Thomas at the Dr's office. Went into the "side" (spare) Dr's room, got him attached placed a muslin wrap over us and went and joined John in the waiting room. Old man tried to make polite conversation about the baby and his wife kept telling him to shut up! Like I could not talk and feed my baby at the same time. (probably one who thinks feeding should be done in the toilets!!) He once again latched nicely and took both sides. (went back to side room to change sides.)
2:30 in our "napro" appointment, John napped Thoams fussed insead of the other way around... NOT IMPRESSED!!
4pm... Thomas feed yet again!! Than we went for a nap..
5:30pm... Thomas woke hungry... Feed and took the breast perfectly.... Stayed for an hour or more (lost track of time a little)
7:45pm Thomas had last short feed and went to sleep on the boob.... Still asleep!!
So you can tell three HUGE things from my day:
1. Thomas slept through the night, much to our shock!
2. He is three weeks old and did the typical cluster feeding all day and now I really feel like the jersey cow!
3. I breastfeed in public all day!! (ok I used the parents room once, but still big achievements)
and the best part...
NO BREAST REFUSAL!! Which means no expressing, no formula, not bottles equalling one happy baby and and very happy mummy!!!
I am laughing now, but last friday I spoke too soon, 10:30pm he became a night mare!! But the photo's turned out really well. So much so that we ordered nearly $500 more! We are looking forward to surprising the family's with these around christmas and next month.
Ok on to being a parent, things are not always roses here. I have to say half the time he is a good baby, but other times he is very fussy and cries a lot. He has been on medication for reflux for a couple of weeks but is not doing too much. He also apparently has colic. He has days where he just screams and screams. Other afternoons he is great.
Parent hood is such a learning curve, and not just about the baby either, but about each other as well.
He is still a fussy eater, he majourity is great, some times he is terrible and ends up getting a bottle of formula. But he is now offered the breast first. The lastest suggestion for his breast refusal is my let down being very fast, and I have to agree as I have watched it whilst pumping.
For me, I am still bleeding 4 weeks LATER!! man I thought two weeks tops... Nope still going four weeks later. Grrrrrrr Will I ever get to make love before this child is six months of age!!