The Mendenhall Journal, Introduction to the whole family
Hi, my name is Amanda and I am married to Paul with two wonderful, crazy boys, Thomas and Jonathan. I really need to be doing a journal of their life. It seems like time flies by so fast. I want to keep track of everything and be able to read through and know I have done something. In this journal I plan on having a paragraph on Thomas, Jonathan, Paul, and my daily or weekly doings. It helps to see it written out to know just what is going on. So to start...
Thomas, my oldest son, who is only 22 months. He is walking, talking and saying 3 word sentences. Today he told me "I see you" He also says "I love you" it is so cute. He is using the potty. He is in underwear all day, except nap and night time. So far today (it is 2:20pm) he has only had one accident. I am so proud of him. It is amazing at how well he does for his age. He went yesterday and the day before with no accidents at all. I told him when he is dry 5 days in a row I would get him a special somthing. Don't know what, but I will come up with something. I am thinking maybe a blues clues movie, He loves blue and Dora. Those are his two favorite shows. But latly the tv is not on, unless that is what is on. I feel there is nothing on tv that he can watch that doesn't have violence or curse words. He picks up everything. And as of right now he is pretty mild, and doesn't know how to fight or anything like that. His birthday is Jan. 22, 2002. he weighted in at 5pd and 13oz and 20in. Now he is around 29pd and about 35in. They grow so fast. He has gotten into this thing with getting up at 6 to 6:30 the past week. It is getting old. That is my "mommy time". I hope this past soon, I am ready to have my "mommy time" back.
Little one...Jonathan, who is 8 months old. Big time mommy boy. I thought Thomas was, no way, Thomas is very independent. However, Jonathan is very dependent apond me. To be honest I kinda like it that way. He is still like a baby, like he is not growing up to fast, like Big one did. He got his two top teeth Sun. Now he has 4 teeth. Now if only I can get him to feed himself. Yes that is right he is not feeding himself yet. But Little one is 6 weeks early, and he has not developed alot of his fine moter skills, he is having some issues there. Does ok on gross moter skills, he is sitting up, rolling both ways. Not crawling, pulling up, standing, or crusing. But hey he will get there when he gets there. Just a little hard to deal with sometimes, as Big one was more on the advanced size. Just have to remember I can't compare them. I try not to but sometimes it is hard. They are so night and day from eachother. Maybe next time I write I will do birth stories on the both of them. That would be fun for me. I love writing and telling both of their stories. They are suppose to be taking a nap right now, but they are not. Oh almost forgot we may be getting Thomas a baby gate this weekend so we can change his bed to a toddler bed. Back to Little one, poor thing is sick all the time. Right now he is on anti. for another sinus infection. That is another thing that is hard with him is that he is always sick, he gets every little thing and with RSV season here, it is real hard and I am scared to death he is going to get RSV. I protect him as much as I can.
Now for Paul, my wonderful husband of 5 years. Hard to believe it has been that long. He is a computer tech. He really enjoys it. I have to say though sometimes I get tired of people always wanting something from him. But I love him with all my heart. He is the most wonderful man in the world. He helps around the house and cooks (sometimes, when I am sick) I could not ask for a better man.
I am a stay at home mom. And it is not easy. Try taking care of one sick baby all the time, potty training a toddler, who is going through terriable twos, keeping up with the house, dishes, laundry, cleaning in general. I am telling you, there are days I am pulling my hair out.(as if I am not losing enough already for not being pg.) I want to use this journal also to show what I am doing. Sometimes my dh comes home and asks me what I have done today and honestly I can't come up with any thing. So it is nice to write it down and then go, see this is what I did. So today I did vaccume the dinning room, was going to do the whole house but haven't yet. There is still time. Washed the seat to the feeding table. And did quiet time with God. To be honest that is it, apart from taking care of my children. Our house is in need of help. I am tring to Fly. but so far no good. I have gotten into the habit of making our bed and wiping down our bathroom every morning. And doing my quiet time. So I guess the flylady is helping. Oh and I even exercise now. I needed to. While yes I am down to prepregnancy weight, I still have that horribable buldge in the front. Got to love having children.
Well, speaking of children, they are not taking their nap and I have alot of work to do so I can play tomorrow. Fridays are my play day, IF I get all my work done before Fri.
Boy am I glad I started this journal. Today is not a good day and it is nice to have somewhere to go. The bad thing is it is only 10am. I can't imagine how much worse this can get.
Thomas is not having a good day. It is one of those terrible two days and he is not even two yet. He refuses to uses the potty today...kicking, screaming. Not fun. But I know he can do it and I can't put him back in diapers now. It was just 3 weeks ago he stayed dry for 9 days. What is going on? he don't want to listen to anything I have to say and his mannors (he does say please and thank you most of the time) have gone out the window today. Guess we need to go back to naked time. He seems to do real good with that. Maybe we just need to start over and retrain him. Well, he is throwing another fit and is wet again. So guess this will have to continue later at nap time.
Quick update on Thomas. He is doing better now. I found that a treat from the pumpkin works wonders. Also he likes to put things in the potty, so I gave him cheap cereal to drop in and try and pee on. It worked. He is doing much better And I am feeling better now. He is still being a little stinker. But atleast for the time being he is playing with his brother. Well, it is lunch time so I will be back later to post about the rest of the family.
"don't want this" Thomas says about underwear, he wants to be naked or in pull ups. I will allow the naked but NO pull ups.
Back. My how this comes in handy. It made me stop and think of how I can help Thomas reather then go crazy.
Thomas is doing much better now. No more accendents. he is sleep right now...yea, peace for mommy!! I have to say though, he is so cute!! I just love him to death, even though sometimes he pushes me a little to far. But I guess that is a two year old for you.
Jonathan is doing good today. Not sick!! Woo hoo!! Excited about that one. He is sick all the time and it is nice to have a day where atleast one is happy. He did one full motion of crawling then fell. Poor thing, but atleast he is tring!! I think he would reather stand though. If I stand him up then sit him down, he throws a major fit. Today is the first time I seen him play with his feet, it is like he just discovered them. He was starring at them and watching them, then touched them, then tried to stick them in his mouth. I never seen him so intent about his feet. Guess I could write that down on the calendar for his baby book.
Paul is doing well today. He says he is bored though. He is coming home at 3:30 today!! Only 2 more hours. Tonight we have some friends house we are going to. (Ben and Rachelle) Don't spend a lot of time with them so I am really looking forward to it.
Got to have my quiet time this morning. Then I fell asleep on the couch. Woke up at 8 when the kids wanted up. I really enjoy my quiet times in the morning. I used to HATE getting up but now, I don't think I couldn't get up. It is so nice to be dressed and ready before the boys are up. And nice that they don't wake me up any more. My time with God has grown and grown and it has helped so much in many areas of my life. Now if I can just learn more patience with Big one. This is very rare that he acts this way. I hope it doesn't become an every day thing. Well, think that is it for today. Maybe I will write tomorrow. But if I know me my weekend is pack full of family I don't like to get on. So I may not write again till Mon.
Changed my mind. I forgot I said I would write out their birth stories. So I will start with Big one.
I took three test. I just couldn't believe I was pg. Pregnancy went ok, beside a ton of bh (irritable uterus) and GD. I had to be put on insulin shots due to the fact that the oral med. weren't working and the diet alone was not good enough. Had weekly US to make sure he wasn't getting too big. I am only 5 foot even and before he was concieved 98pd. (don't think I will ever see that again) so I had a huge fear of the big GD babies. From my 4th month on I had swelling that I alone was concerned about. My BP was always fine and only spilled a little protien every now and then. 38 week appt. my BP was through the roof and I was spilling 3+ protien. Sent over to hospital for evaluation. no luck getting bp down and my protien rose to 4+, put on mag. YUCK!! That was Mon. Then they induced on Tue. I didn't feel any contractions or anything till 10:30am when my water broke on its own. So that is when I concider my laber to start. And boy did it start. Water was clear and everything looked good. Had to put on an interal monitor on his head due to a little heart drops. Asked for EPI, no luck only a 3...they wanted be to be atleast a 4 to 5 before giving one. Given stadol instead. It worked for a little. Then I asked for the EPI. Another dose of stadol while waiting for them to arrive. Got my EPI at around 2ish. and I was a 5 at the time the did the EPI. Didn't take on one side and had to try and move around to help get it to kick in. (yea right, you try moving around with IVs, blood pressure cup, and someother monitor thing hooked to you, and on mag. not very do able) I started yelling I needed to push, atleast I thought I needed to push. And they said they just checked and I was only a 5. After a little argueing they finally agreed that they would check (think it was more just to shut me up) Guess what. I was a ten!! And it was only 2:30pm. It took 30min. to from a 5 to a 10. Most people, inclueding myself, consider me very lucky. I pushed for an hour and at 3:38pm Thomas Michael Mendenhall was born, weighing in at 5pd and 13oz and 20in. Mind you they told me at the US prior to delievery that he was between 8 and 9pd. I was so scared to have him. But he ended up small. I don't remember to much after that due to the fact that the PE turned into HELLP. and I was in the PICU for 4 days after he was born. I know they brought him to me (I have pics) but I don't remember holding him till Fri. I felt bad about this and feel due to that is why he never took to breatfeeding. We tried but I couldn't handle it and he really liked the bottle by that time. It was to much work to nurse.
Guess that is it. I will do Jonathans later. Maybe today, maybe Mon. guess it depends on how I feel, my head is hurting so I think I will go lay down while I have a chance.
Well, it is Monday, and I am feeling it. Yesterday was ok, not feeling well. and Paul is not feeling well. Not good when the adults are sick and the children are wild and healthy. Nice for a change though, I just hope they don't get sick. Can't make this long. Got things that need done and a son who is into everything today. Come to think of it, maybe I would be better off to do this later today. I have many things to write about, Thomas and his toddler bed and potty training, Jonathan and his rocking, Paul and his work and me not doing well. I am still not doing well today, have massive headache. Ok, he is in trouble again so I better go or he will wake up his brother. I will wright later.
well, didn't have time to come on yesterday. Paul was able to come home at around 12. So we spent the afternoon together then I had Bible study last night. This one is going to have to be short to as Thomas is getting into everything and destroying the office.
Thomas is doing well. Very active. He is using the potty great. He started telling me yesterday when he had to go. He started yelling "poppy, poppy" and running to the bathroom. It was pretty cute. Just glad he is doing so well. Tring to get him to take his plate to the kitchen when he is done eating. I have to help him right now so he don't spill it. He still won't drink from a cup unless it has a lid or straw. Oh well. I was hoping to get him off the sippy. I guess he is in the fact the cups I use are not sippies. Just cups with lids. We are also working on saying "may I please get down" when he is finished eating. He has to repeat word after word. But some day he will get it. It is so cute when we pray. He holds hands and say "amen" when we are done. I have to say he is way to cute. He does wear underwear all day long. I am hoping by the time we run out of pullups he will just need them for night. Right now he uses them for nap, night, and when we are out. Everyone says this is confussing him and I should keep him in underwear when we go out and only use the pullups for night time. I have tried but I have found that he fears potties out side the home. To be honest I don't blame him, I do to. But I am still so proud of him. We did put him in his toddler bed Sat. lets just say naps are impossible and night is bearable. Paul said he went right down last night. So maybe he will do better with time. I do make him stay in his room for nap time though. I don't let him run around the home. That is my time to get things done that I need to do. Like today the kitchen needs cleaned big time, towels need washed, I should start that now. And the house just needs a quick pick up, it is not that bad, just my kitchen. Speaking of. I need to go. It is quiet and that normally means trouble. Plus I just remembered, my poor dog is probably hungry. I will write soon, hope today to talk about Jonathan, Paul and other things.
Back. The kids are down for now. Sorta. Little one is in the playpen and Big one is in his room. Ever since he got the toddler bed it is next to impossible for him to stay in bed. Even if I stand out side the room and tell him over and over again to go to bed it don't work. He goes and lay down but the second I turn my back he is up. I don't mind if he don't want to take a nap but he will stay in his room. He needs rest, even if he don't think he does. Trust me, he is not fun to deal with if he doesn't.
Little one crawled today!!! YEAH!!! I am soooo proud of him. He did drag his head on the floor but hey, atleast he is crawling, sorta. Didn't get very far before he went down but still...I am very proud of him. He has been pretty whinney, it is getting old. He has also learned that he can scream at the top of his lungs and it makes a great sound that makes everyone go running. My how they change so fast. I imagine he is nearing the 18 1/2pd and the 29 to 30 in. Some where in there. Maybe not but I think he is getting huge. He is still doing well, not sick...now that is nice. Oh and how can I forget, yesterday he used his pincher grasp!! that is the one thing they felt like he was way behind in. GO LITTLE ONE!!!
Paul is doing ok, very tired. I can understand why. He worked from 6:30pm to 12pm the next day. Came home and got a little rest and then had to watch the boys while I went to Bible study. I offered to take little one but he said that he could handle them, little one goes to bed at round 7 and big one at around 8. Bible study started at 6:30. So he didn't have to have them for long till their bed time. He is so sweet. Sunday he cooked lunch for us. He also did the dishes. Now that is one good guy. I think the best guy ever!!
As for me, I am still sick. Infact, I wasn't going to get on but thought I should. I do want to get behind. That seems what always happens. I start a journal then slowly get behind then to where I forget all about it. So I guess you could say my goal is to keep this going. I enjoy writing. I use to make my own poetry and books. It was so much fun. If I thought I could do it now, I might think of writing a childrens book. Paul read some of my earlier writings and loved them. Said I should write more often. Let me tell you, I would if I could. But with two small children, a house and a husband..it is next to impossible. Maybe I can put some poetry and stuff in here. Oh I don't know. We will see. Need to go lay down now before they decide to get up.
Not a good day today!!! I was up from 1:30am to 5:30am with Thomas. He decided to get up and not sleep and he woke Jonathan up to! I was so mad and I couldn't get him to go back down. So I guess you could say I am NOT in a good mood today.
Thomas is not in a good mood either, hum, I wonder why?? Maybe cuz he didn't sleep all night!!! Concidering he is not doing that bad I guess. But he better take a nap. I already had to go in there and get on to him to lay down. Tonight is church and if he don't sleep he is not bariable. And that is when he gets a full nights sleep. I can't imagine what he will be like tonight if he don't get a nap. He is doing great with the potty today. He would have made it with no accidents except he told me he had to go potty and I was in the middle of putting clean sheets on his bed and told him to wait one second. Well, just a little hint. You can't tell a toddler just one second when it comes to the potty, when they say potty it means now. So that was my falt not his. I will be right back, he is playing in the blinds again, he has already messed them up once today. Back for a second any way. I hope I put the fear of God in him and he will lay down and go to sleep. He is so cute, he repeats after us and I can get him to say almost anything. Last night at the table I had him repeat "may I have more please" and "may I please get down" and "please help me" He still needs help with his fork. But hey that is pretty good I think.
Little one is doing good, amazingly he is still healthy!!! I am very glad about that. no more crawling, just that tiny bit yesterday. Oh well, I guess with time he will start crawling more. He loves to be held and cuddled all the time. He is so tired too, Big one kept him up too. So he has been whinny. I tried to get him to take a morning nap but Big one kept opening the door and yelling "boppers, boppers" So he didn't get much sleep then either. Tring to get him to go down now, but big one is not helping.
Paul had to work again last night, he got home around 6 and ate, then worked from home till 11pm or so and it still wasn't fixed. I just hope he gets to come home before church tonight. Although I don't know if the boys and I will be going. Mom has to watch them cuz they are not allowed in the nursery (dr. orders, RSV season) so I might just let her deal with them. I don't know. Guess it would be a good break for me that I need real bad. I am suppose to help Karen Smith with the set for the childrens choir. So I really do need to be there. Well, he is up again and destroying the blinds so I better go put him back to bed. 1..2..3..4..5..6..7..8..9..10, ok, I can do this now. Sometimes I have to count to keep myself from going off on him. When I am as tired as I am now, it is very hard not to lose it. Got to go, maybe able to get back on if they would take a nap. But then again, I need a nap too.