I am heading towards the best thing I could possibly do to help a friend of mine. He and his wife have been trying to have a baby for years. Every time she's gotten pregnant, it has ended in horrible miscarriages.
The first time I heard about this, I listened and offered sympathy. As time went on, I thought about surrogacy. I had yet to become pregnant with my own child. I wasn't even sure I was going to have children, but I wasn't afraid of being pregnant. I thought it would be really great to be able to help someone achieve the ultimate goal in life. So I offered myself as a surrogate.
Turns out, he never told his wife because he didn't want to get her hopes up - or his, for that matter. Becoming parents just meant so much to them - still does. Then I got pregnant, and as each day passed, I was more and more willing to do it for them. My pregnancy was perfect. I pushed my daughter out between jokes and said "I could do that a few more times."
So fast-forward to a few weeks back, and he posts something on his blog about the in-depth conversation he and his wife had the night before. They're talking about adoption, but they still have embryoes left, and what to do, what to do... Adoption isn't a bad option, but they still want their own baby. I can't blame them.
So I throw my name back into the ring, say Hey, I told ya, you got embryoes, I got a womb. But this time, it really clicks, you know? It becomes a real possibility. He tells his wife (finally), and she has questions...but then is really excited. He let her read the emails back and forth, and she realizes this is a true possibility.
Sooo...long story short (TOO LATE, I know), they are coming up to Philly to see me this Saturday. Couldn't have picked a better day for it - it'll be beautiful! We're going to go over points of concern, stuff like that. And believe it or not - we are going to meet each other for the very first time. Yup...this is an online friendship, going on years now.
I have already decided that I am more than happy to sign and agree to whatever concerns they have, but I will not have a lawyer. We can agree on what we need to. And basically, it is their baby. I would never want anything to harm that baby, and I know they will never ask me to do anything that will bring harm to myself.
I am so excited. I'm going to try to keep this updated.