Always in my thoughts Teresa. Keep your head up and keep as rested as possible.
Love & Hugs
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Goodness, Teresa...you've sure had your fair share this week, haven't you! I'm so proud of you and your family for fighting for your mom...I'd do the same if it were my mother. Keep your head up, you're doing a great job!!
It sounds like your mom is doing better. Her responses to stimuli (like pain) sound promising...I sure hope this is a sign. You and your family are always in my thoughts...stay rested and make sure you're eating well...(((HUGS)))!!
Thinking of you and your mom and praying for you guys all the time.. keep your head up.
Love ya all! So DH and I went to Costco with my brother and SIL to buy some stuff for dinner. We told Dad that he is going to have dinner with us tonight and he can't say no. So we went over and made dinner. DH cooked and I cleaned up the kitchen. Dad is practically living in the living room. I don't think he sleeps in the bedroom and I don't think that he stays in the office (that's where she went into arrest) unless he is paying bills or doing stuff for the business. The coffee table has mail stacked up on it. He moved his laptop into the living room (it used to only be in the office).
The kids were there too. I know it's hard for Dad to hang out with the kids because they make him think of Mom. She is in love with her grandchildren. They are her and Dad's pride and joy. He is such a great grandpa. He plays all the girly games with the girls and plays with tools and stuff with my 2-year old nephew.
The girls wanted to spend the night and Dad said yes....but I think my brother realized that it is still hard for him. Later on the phone, Dad told me it would have been difficult for him to have them there. I told him it will get easier the more it happens. He opened up a bit to me over the phone tonight. He said that it is so hard for him to sit there and look at all the stuff in the house. Everything reminds him of mom. He will kind of sit in a daze and then snap himself out of it and occupy his mind on something else. I told him I understand. I also told him that he has to get rest and take care of himself. He said it is so hard. I told him that we need for him to be healthy and not end up sick like mom. He said he knows.
I went to visit Mom after we watched a movie together. I was so tired..but I knew that if I didn't go to see her....something would happen and I would regret it. The nurse actually told us that she read that Mom is being a lot more responsive, she's just not following with her eyes. I know she is showing more responsiveness. I was brushing her hair again and she kept wincing as I was working out the knots. I kept telling her that I was so sorry. I told her we are just taking it step by step, but I was so proud of her and the growth she's made. They put her back on the BP meds. Her BP started to drop too low again. Well...hopefully with time. It seems that 48 hours without it is the max her body will let her go without it. I can't seem to help thinking that taking her on and off the meds...must be not good for her body. But what do I know? Thanks again for the well wishes and support...keep praying for her!!!! I don't have a problem with you all replying directly to this journal. I like to have all the prayers and wishes together.
Tell your dad to hang in there! I was touched by how much he loves his wife-- that's an amazing marriage they have!
Still praying for you and thinking of you Teresa!
Your Dad sounds like a wonderful person and obviously is still completely in love with your Mom. I'm so glad you've got eachother - to fight for your Mom and keep eachother going.
I think you need to fight for your Mom's wishes. If it's what she wants then you need to keep going, you're doing a great job so far and something tells me your Dad isn't going to give up.
It's great that she's getting more responsive, I'm praying that she keeps improving and gets off those meds long enough to put the trach in.
Keep us posted and take care of that little bundle of joy!
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Saw mom today. She was in her relaxing state today. Her eyes were open almost the whole time I was there. I brought a book to read...but felt guilty when I wanted to read it because I felt like I should be talking to her...since she was "awake". I'm reading "A Million Little Pieces" it was an Oprah's book choice and there are a lot of cuss words...so I couldn't really read it aloud...I could just imagine the nurse walking in on that!!!
Anyways, the nurse (and later I found out that the doctor told my Dad) said that the doctors are going to have a consultation meeting tomorrow to put a trach in mom and a feeding tube in her stomach. I can't wait. Having those tubes out of her mouth and throat are going to make her feel so much better. I know that other complications may arise...but she's had this in a few weeks too long. Mom is still on BP meds...it's interesting how it was black and white about how she can't be on BP meds and have the trach put in....now it doesn't matter???? I don't get it. So that proves that there is a gray area in medicine.
The "doctor of the week" also told Dad that mom seems a lot more responsive lately. Hmmm. Ya think? If they spent more than 15 minutes in there at a time, they'd see that. I can't believe the doctor actually admitted that to my dad. Especially because she was the one who denied medical treatment in the event of another heart arrest.
So we'll see how it goes. I'll let you know what happens as soon as I hear. Hugs and kisses to your messages of support and prayer....