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    OK, well thought I'd start a journal regarding my new career as a Doula. It wasn't really a decision I took lightly. Since the age of 9 I had always planned to become a Midwife, infact I even applied for university a couple of times to follow that dream. But each time I cancelled because it just didn't "feel" right. I have loved the whole pregnancy and birth process since I helped my Mum through a difficult and very emotional pregnancy and labour and that love was intensified when I experienced my own, very spiritual (in their own ways) birth.

    About a year ago I found out about the work Doula's do... And it just seemed perfect. To be able to empower women to have a more natural, fulfilling birth experience then they may otherwise have had, seemed like the perfect career.

    I applied for a course, read book after book on the subject and finally decided to take a training course on the matter. I completed my training course yesterday. It was fantastic! I know feel confident, capable and able in myself to be able to help women have the type of enjoyable birth that I have had with my three son's.

    I must admit many women probably won't enjoy reading this journal. It saddens me to see women pumping themselves full of unnecessary drugs and hormones, begging the "professionals" for "pain relief" because they've been programmed not to believe in their own bodies and their own capabilities as women and mothers. I am a firm believer in women. Probably more so then many mothers-to-be are in themselves. I believe that women are capable of giving birth well (so long as there is no obvious threatening condition) if they are given the opportunity to believe in themselves and believe in their bodies and their babies. The larger percentage of medical interventions are not needed these days and yet women are brainwashed into believing they are.

    Look at the jab you have around the time of birth to help expel the placenta. That's not necessary. Not in the slightest. If you and your body have worked to give birth to a baby with no complications, then why do the larger percentage of women not believe they can give birth, naturally, to the placenta? It's one of the easier parts of the birthing process!!!

    Having said that I am a HUGE advocate for choice. If a woman says she wants an elective c-section then that's fine with me too! I just want women to be informed and have choice.

    I believe in women.

    Anyway, there will be a lot of my ranting going on here... I am currently looking for my first 4 clients (who I will care for, for free) but it seems to be an uphill battle trying to find women who actually know what a Doula is.... Plus I am just starting my marketing stuff now... And I still have some coursework to complete! Argh!!!

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    Sarah-Jean

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    Sigh, I hate it when people piss about with you. I have just spent 45minutes talking to a friend of mine about a lady who is by the sounds of it being rail-roaded into a c-section. I'm not sure if I believe it to be honest... It all sounds a bit far out there....

    And the information given was all a bit too sketchy and made out to sound life threatening when what they were saying was in no way dangerous.

    Unfortunately she is too far away for me to look after, although I would if she really needed it. She is supposedly in her late 30s, of which I have no doubt. With two previous c-sections. She is 20-odd weeks pregnant and has apparently been told that if she goes into labour she/baby will die. She has a supposed history of going into premature labour and having c-sections. Her labours have according to this friend been "silent" (ie she hasn't known about it)... She has now been told she contracts too hard (huh I thought they were "silent") which causes foetal distress and will kill her/her baby if it happens again (?!)... She has been booked in for her third c-section at 39weeks... However, according to her history she goes into labour in the early around 33-35weeks....

    I dunno... I would of course, be more then willing to help her in whatever way I could, but I'm not sure I'm believing this story as most of my questions were fobbed off rather then answered, the person telling it (a friend of ours) seemed to know very little about it (even to the point of not knowing where she lives!) and actually got a bit arsey with me and started talking down to me "ie ending each sentance with ",Sarah.")...

    The conversation ended with something along the lines of "I'll try and pass your details on"....

    I feel so frustrated. IF this story is true then this woman is either being lied to or the person telling it has their facts wrong, or both... And if it isn't I'm angry because I have effectively wasted 45minutes of my working day and got very emotional trying to figure out how I can help her....

    I am currently attempting to do my homework and design my leaflets etc to start distributing out in the next week or so...

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    Sarah-Jean

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    Why are people so damn judgemental?! I was in the pub last night for our monthly paranormal chat night and was talking to a lady who wanted my number so she could give it to a friends daughter (or something like that). Apparently this girl is 18years old and pregnant, due in July. They think because she had a kitten at one point that she gave up after 2 months she's going to be an awful mum. Also she apparently is in denial about her pregnancy and drinks and smokes. They want to push her into giving the baby up for Adoption as it's the "right thing to do"... But she's adamant that the baby is hers and she's keeping it...

    So I gave this lady my number so this girl can give me a call should she need too at any point. She lives less then 5 minutes drive from me, so I really hope she takes the opportunity to get in touch. I don't think she needs a birth doula, but it may be good just to help her out and give her info she may need during the rest of her pregnancy, and maybe visit her as a postnatal doula if she needs the support.

    I've got all my fingers and toes crossed that she does get in touch, cos I could really do with a client soon!

    Sigh... Just finishing my coursework this weekend... It's taking me ages!!!

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    Sarah-Jean

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