My life is usually fairly uneventful but its how I like it and how I want it. DH and I have been married for 4.5 years and just had B 3.5 months ago. We're happy most of the time and motherhood has come pretty easily to me. I thought it would be less sleep and more stress but so far so good. He’s such a good natured baby and he sleeps from 8:30 to 6:00 with maybe 1 waking to get his sucky or be rewrapped. I was impressed yesterday when the day care center said he ate 9 oz in one sitting, his norm is 7 oz and they couldn’t even believe he took that much on a regular basis. He’s making up for being so tiny when he was born (4 lb 11.5 oz), I guess the only way to gain over .5 lb a week is to eat, eat, eat!
We both work full time and B has been doing really well in daycare. He seems to do better each day so it's made it easier on me. MIL and FIL are totally against us doing daycare, I’ve received the “a woman shouldn’t work full time and have children” speech a few times but they don’t pay our bills so it’s really none of their business. I’m not cut out to stay home everyday, I need the release of getting out of the house and having my own time and my own thing plus I provide our health insurance and that’s a necessity with kids. I’ve tried to explain reason to them but they think that because it worked for them it’s the only way to raise a family. Why can’t people acknowledge that each family is different and what works for one may not work for another?
My parents are coming up this weekend and I’m really looking forward to seeing them, it’s been too long since they’ve had one on one time with B. Mom’s great about taking B for the morning feeding so I can sleep, oh it will be nice! I love that my parents are so supportive of us and that my mom gets excited about the little things. I hope I’m as good of a mother for my kids.
Other than the visit I’m hoping to get the Halloween decorations up, some pictures framed and hung, and my garden cleaned out for the winter. The carrots should be nice and sweet since it’s been freezing at night. I can smell winter in the air and I’m so excited for our first snow, better not get too anxious since it’s going to be in the 60’s this weekend.
Well this is enough for my first entry I'm not sure why I've decided to start this and I don't know if I'll do very well at keeping it up but it's worth a try.
Last edited by lifeisgood; 09-14-2007 at 12:19 PM.
We had a great weekend with my parents; I always have so much fun with them even though we don’t really do much. B gave them lots of smiles, stories, & giggles and gave mom what she needed to de-stress from work, it was nice seeing both of them so happy with him. B decided he’s going to start sleeping 11 hours at night, no complaints here, so I had to up his bed time so I can have him up at 6:00 and ready to go in the mornings. It worked out well today and I think we have the feedings planned so he won’t lose out on any calories. It’s just a constant adjustment, I’m worried he won’t see as much of his daddy since DH works until 6:00 and isn’t home until 6:30 at the earliest but this won’t last forever.
After mom & dad left B and I played then took a nap as DH ran to the store to get a project going – downfalls of owning your own business. I cleaned up the house, did laundry, and started packing for our vacation on Thursday. I can’t wait to get out of town for a few days and visit M & R, let’s just hope all of the flights are on time and B does well on planes. I’m doing B’s laundry tonight and then he’ll be packed, I’ll do the rest of our laundry Tuesday and we’ll be packed and then we’re off! The one thing I didn’t get to was putting the Halloween decorations up and vacuuming so that’s my goal for tonight, should be easy enough.
I’m so happy our car insurance issues have finally worked out. Insurance companies try to make you feel like you’ve done something wrong when you’re the innocent party and I won’t tolerate it. After weeks of calling and complaining I finally got them to agree to reimburse us for the out of pocket loss we took when we were side swiped in a rental car. Insurance companies say they won’t pay the administration and loss of use fees we were charged by Hertz but if you call them enough and keep stating your side (like I can’t refuse to pay this because it will go against my credit) they’ll eventually get sick of you and give in. We also finally are getting the full amount we’ve requested from being rear ended and that was no easy feat either. It’s not like we’re being unreasonable or trying to rip anyone off, we just want to be compensated for our loss. This is a huge weight off my mind and I’m really happy with the results. Guess we need to start car shopping soon but I just don’t have the motivation yet and I’m not too excited to drop a ton of money on a car, not that I won’t enjoy driving it. Now I’m just waiting for the replacement part to fix the dent in my new oven and we need to get an electrician to put the new lights in the kitchen and my “headache” list will be empty. Oh the fun!
Well I didn’t get my Halloween decorations up, maybe tonight. DH worked late trying to get things done before we leave so B and I spent most of the night playing and giggling. Nothing does a heart good like hearing your baby giggle. B is mostly packed except for things we’re still using and he almost takes up one big suitcase on his own, oh well just more crap to lug around with us.
We finally got snow and I’m so happy to see the clean crispness of white on the ground. The roads weren’t even too bad so that was a nice surprise this morning. Some how I managed to avoid the morons that think icy roads don’t require one to slow down so that was a great start to the day. I slept horribly last night, I couldn’t get comfortable or stay asleep and that’s not typical of me. B also decided to keep waking up (10 times!) from about 2:00am through 5:00am, this is so abnormal for him when his average is once or twice a night. It was DH’s night to get up and get him the sucky but I felt bad and got up twice for him. Needless to say none of us are well rested today. I just hope this isn’t a new trend for B, he was doing so well.
We’re back from our vacation and the sad thing is the main descriptive word for it was stressful! It’s not good when you come back to work to de-stress. First off one of our flights was cancelled on Wed so we were informed we weren’t leaving until later and only had 1 layover, the good news was we got to sleep in the bad news was we wouldn’t be there until after 10:00 pm. We check in at the airport and are “randomly” selected to go through extra security screening so for B’s baby book I get to enter in his first pat-down, let me tell you it’s not too fun watching your baby go through that. We get to our layover stop and decide to check and make sure our bags will be arriving at our destination. Low and behold the morons at the ticket counter tagged our bags under someone else’s name and were sending them to San Antonio (this was not where we were going). A side note, if they’re so strict on security isn’t it a major security risk to mark luggage under the wrong name and wrong destination? Anyways, we run to the counter going to San Antonio and the woman there gets the information entered into the computer to correct the name and location and guarantees us the bags will be removed from the plane but didn’t know for sure if it would reach our destination that night. Of course the bags aren’t there when we arrive so we get the baggage claim number to check on the status the next day.
Friday comes and all I hear is “still pending”, not very promising words and I’m pretty sure they’re the nice way to say “still lost”. So we go spend $103 on the bare necessities and I keep calling. I stumbled upon finding out I could ask for customer service at about 8:00 pm so I talk to the helpful woman there and she lets me know the bags did go to San Antonio, so much for my guarantee at the airport, and she leaves a message saying they need to send us our bags ASAP. I’m not sure what they were doing with them all day Friday and I’m not pleased they didn’t check on them. On Saturday morning I call and get a really helpful woman again, thank God for these helpful people, and she can’t even find where the luggage is but she gave me some flight times to look for if the luggage was sent from San Antonio. A few hours later I call to try and find out if the bags were sent to us and I got 3 of the rudest women and the supervisor hung up on me after I told her their customer services and security were pretty poor. At this point I’m livid and was getting ready to drive to the airport to talk to someone face to face and try to find out where my luggage was when the airport calls and say they finally received our bags. I was so shocked and so happy it was unbelievable.
The stress does not end there, first we’re informed that our bag weight 53 pounds and we can only have 50 pounds or we’re charged $25. I explain to them that the reason the bag weighs too much is because they lost our luggage for 2 days and we had to buy extra things. That doesn’t sway them at all so I have to remove the diapers, formula, and wipes we bought to bring us down 3 pounds. I wasn’t happy throwing those in the garbage because they cost so much but I sure wasn’t paying $25 to keep them. We then are again “randomly” chosen for extra security screening and I really believe it’s because we were traveling with an infant. Not too pleased with profiling right now and anyone that goes through it repeatedly I really feel for them because it’s a total crock. We knew we had a 33 min layover at our first stop and did some running/fast walking with DH carrying B and his car seat and me carrying our 2 bags, quite the workout there. We made it to the gate and thought we were in the clear since we had a 60 min layover at our second stop. Well that’s when our plane has something wrong with an air hose (or something like that) and it took 40 min for them to fix it. Of course we arrive 40 min late (they never make up time like they say they will- well at least not when you really need them to) and we have 20 min to run/speed walk to our gate which isn’t close by. DH finds one of those carts and the guy agrees to give us a ride to our gate so we lucked out and made it on time, I don’t think we would have otherwise. We arrived got our luggage and stopped by the ticket counter that caused our luggage issues in the first place and I explained what went on and gave them the receipt for the items we had to buy (they refunded all $103 so that was a relief) and do you think we get an apology for our inconvenience? Of course not! I would have been much happier with a little I’m sorry but apparently manners aren’t exercised in this country anymore. They first say we have to mail the receipt to our original destination because they’re suppose to fix the problem, I informed them they said we could go to any NW ticket counter to receive our reimbursement. She then says they’re just passing the buck and not fixing their problem, and I informed her they weren’t the ones that caused the problem her ticket counter was. So at least we walked away with a check and our luggage.
On the happy parts, we did have a good time seeing M & R and DH was able to have some fun with his buddy. I got two holes in one at miniature golf with B sleeping in the baby Bjorn so I thought that was pretty talented. I also got the high score at bowling and that never happens. B did really well flying and it was cute seeing his eyes get really big the first time the plane took off and landed, wish I could have taken a picture. He didn’t cry a lot and when he did fuss it was because he was tired and just wanted to sleep in peace. His sleep patterns were really thrown off but I think he’ll get back to our routine easily. I was also very proud of my boy when he rolled onto his side. Considering he likes to just kick and punch his arms when he’s lying down getting him to even try to roll over was exciting. I have to remind myself that I’m not going to be able to force him to do anything so I’ll take every milestone I can and try to be patient.
After we got back from the airport we set up our new CD/DVD cabinet, took naps, ordered pizza, and watched Click. At least the end to our vacation was relaxing. Well this is much too long so until next time.
B was happy to be back at daycare yesterday, he finally giggled for them and he wouldn’t let anyone but A feed him. If daycare is so bad for kids then why are they happy there? I’m glad he likes being there because it tells me they take care of him and his needs are being met, and really that’s all I ask. When I was putting B to bed last night he started fussing when I tried to read to him and then when I tried to say our prayers. So I put him in his crib and a big smile pops up on his face so apparently it was just time to go to bed. He must take after me on loving being in bed; thank God it’s his own bed that he loves to be in! I’m trying to get rid of his cradle cap and I hope the tea tree oil works, I thought it looked better today but that could have been wishful thinking. He sure loved getting his hair washed this morning. He kept slowly moving his head from side to side in the water, he’s too precious.
I’m excited for Halloween and I hope we get a good turn out of trick or treaters. It’s supposed to be relatively warm so we should see quite a few. Since B is too little to go out we’ll just have to enjoy the kids that stop by, but I’m still dressing him up for the day. I can’t decide between the pumpkin outfit or the chili pepper outfit, I guess which ever one fits best. Last year a guy came by with his little girl and he was drunk, it was so sad to see and she was too young to understand but what the heck’s wrong with people? Put the bottle down for a night for your kids, it won’t kill you. Oh well, he was more appreciative than the kid that complained he only got one piece of candy. We’re carving pumpkins this weekend so I need to pick a couple up before all of the good ones are gone, hopefully I can get to it tonight along with my other shopping.
Still haven’t bought the pumpkins because B had a stinky diaper on the way home so it was straight home we went. DH was really cute, he stopped by the store to pick up a few things on his way home and he bought a Superman costume for B. He’s adorable in it and DH was so excited that I figured we’ll survive without using the pumpkin or chili pepper costumes we have, they were hand me downs anyways so it’s not like we lost out on money. B is pretty much back to his routine so that’s been fast and easy. He’s been talking a lot lately and has really expanded his sounds in just the last week. His hair is also coming back in really thick and I don’t think it’s going to be blond like we originally expected. It’s more brown than blond so we’ll see if he keeps his blue eyes or if he goes to green like mine. It’s funny looking at pictures of him a few weeks ago and seeing such a thick head of hair, I didn’t realize how much he lost. Well I best get back to the grind.
B got his first pumpkin from Daycare; they went to the pumpkin patch last Friday and picked one up for him. I let him pick from the two little ones so we’ll have to carve something special into it for him. DH took the day off so they’ll have a boy’s day together. I put B back into his crib after I fed him this morning and I hope he fell asleep so his daddy can sleep in a little today, he seemed content so I’m sure he crashed quickly.
FIL called last night and said they miss B and wanted to see us soon, I just hope they don’t want to come up this weekend because I’m looking forward to having a couple quiet days at home to clean, carve pumpkins, roast pumpkin seeds, harvest my carrots, recycle, file, and sleep. If they do come up it will be fine but it would be better to try for next weekend when we’re back into the swing of things and have been able to rest a little. I wouldn’t even mind going to see them at the cabin next weekend if they’d prefer, all I ask is for a weekend off.
I want to get into the habit of prepping meals for the coming week on the weekend so I don’t have to spend my evenings cooking. Then I will have more time to spend with B and to exercise after he goes to bed. I have the Winsor Pilates DVD’s and I really enjoy them I just need to stop being lazy by sitting on my butt instead of working it off. I also need to try to be in bed by 9:30 at the latest so I can get at least 7.5 hours each night, 8 would be preferred by there’s just not enough time to get to bed by 9:00. I need to get rid of these 10 pounds from the pregnancy and then lose another 30. I want to first get into the habit of exercising daily (pilates/walking/yoga) and then I’ll start working on my eating habits. I hope if I do this in steps rather than a drastic change that they’ll actually stick for once. So my goal is to track my progress here on exercising daily through November and then in December I’ll start working on making changes to my diet. Great month to start with all the Christmas treats, at least last year I had morning sickness so bad none of the sweets looked go to me.
We had a good weekend overall. I of course didn’t get everything I wanted done but I got to most of it. We went to pick up our new TV stand and it was damaged during shipping so now we have to wait another month for a replacement to come from the factory. I don’t know what it is lately but our luck on buying things has been really poor. I sometimes wonder if it’s God testing me on my main weakness and the one thing I really want to change about myself, but it’s also one of the hardest. I have to work on keeping my cool and not blowing up over things, big and little. I refuse to let people take advantage of me but I need to just calm down before I react and I know I need to stop obsessing about these things to the point where my blood pressure goes up. When I’m annoyed about something I start talking about it but then I feel like I’m not being listened to (mostly by DH) I start talking louder and just keep egging myself on. I don’t want B to think this is how to handle situations and this runs in the family so I hope I can be the one to stop this generational continuum. I need to try writing down what’s bothering me and what I can say to the people the problem’s associated with and then in a calm voice I can discuss my concerns. I also need to stop yelling at the morons on the road and just not care about their poor decisions. This is such a hard thing for me to change because I’ve always reacted like this and I really do hate myself when I’m out of control. I wish I could magically correct this behavior but instead it’s going to take a lot of hard work and I’m not quite sure how to fix myself.
Anyways, B has a major stuffy nose and he’s developing a cough now that I don’t like the sound of. His 4 month check up is on Thursday and I hope he doesn’t get worse and require a doctor’s visit before Thursday, I guess if he does he does. He did roll from his tummy to his side on Saturday, I was very proud, now he just needs to figure out he can keep going! We carved the pumpkins yesterday and I carved a baby ghost face in B’s little pumpkin, it’s really cute. I did laundry, cleaned the house, and even got on my hands and knees and scrubbed the floors (rather than my usual swiffer job), they really needed it. DH brought the books from the store home so I spent 2 hours trying to get everything balanced last night and I still have about 2 hours of work to do tonight. At least it’ll be done for awhile now. I stayed up later than I wanted last night because DH wanted me to play a video game with him. This is not something we’ve done before but I don’t feel like we’re as close as we use to be and I’ve been missing him so I need to work on getting us back to where we were before B. We played for about an hour; mostly he was just helping me get use to controlling the guy and figuring things out. It was nice doing something with him and I know he enjoyed it so now if I can just get him to be physical with me I’d be happy. I know he’s stressed, he always is, but sex is a stress reliever, right? I hate bringing this up because then he feels bad and that doesn’t help the situation so I’m going to try to implement some things for us to do together that will de-stress him and hopefully get him in the mood. Before I got pregnant we took dance and Qigong classes but we don’t really have the time or a babysitter so I’ll have to find something we can do at home or with B in tow. Boy do I have a lot of things to work on!
Well I’ve been working on not getting annoyed with people while I drive, road rage isn’t attractive for anyone, and I’ve done well the last day. It’s a start at least. I worked through lunch yesterday and went home an hour early because my stomach was killing me; I feel better today but I’m not sure how long I’ll last. At least I can get a few things done and make it through my meetings. DH woke up with a stomach ache this morning so he’s going to take the day off after the auditors leave. B woke up at 5:00 am screaming and his pacifier wouldn’t calm him down so I held him until he fell asleep and let him sleep until 6:00 when he wanted to eat. At least I was able to get ready while he slept that last 45 min. His nose is still stuffy but not quite as bad, I think the Vicks vaporizer is helping, but his cough is worse. He at least smiles after he coughs so it can’t be painful.
We received a pleasant surprise yesterday, another TV stand arrived so they delivered it and we now don’t have to wait another month. Yippee! It doesn’t have any damage and it looks really nice. I can’t wait to get everything set up but I’m not sure when we’ll have the time to unhook and move everything.
It is a cold one today, 3 degrees this morning but it didn’t feel that cold on my way to work. Hopefully it won’t discourage the kiddies tonight but I’m sure it will make some parents cut it short. I’m really excited for winter this year and hope we get tons of snow; we’re due for it at least. Maybe it will run off some of the warm bloods that have invaded us, I can always dream. I still need to break in my snow shoes, it didn’t happen last year with me being pregnant but we can bundle B up and go for a hike. Hopefully my bum won’t be too heavy for them. I better kick that diet into gear!
I left work after lunch yesterday and am home sick today. The further in the day I get the worse I feel so hopefully rest today will take care of this. B woke up at 6:15 for his morning feeding and we stayed up until DH went to work then we slept from 8:00-10:00, it was nice and hopefully just what I needed. I'll try to sleep when B takes his afternoon nap but that's no guarantee.
We had a good turn out of trick or treaters and were giving 3 pieces of candy to each kid because I bought way too much, darned that Costo. One little boy kept asking me for an orange one, took me awhile to figure out he wanted a peanut butter cup too, so he got 4 pieces. We got the T.V. stand set up last night and the darned thing wasn't deep enough to hold the media center, surround sound system, or CD/DVD player so we had to remove the back panel. We didn't even think of checking on that measurement. It was a pain digging the staples out but it still looks good from the front, good thing the back is meant to be against a wall!
I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to start my daily exercise routine today, I'm going to try to do my walking DVD and just take it easier than I usually do. If it wasn't so cold out I'd take B for a walk but thus is life. Well back to laying on the couch.