B isn’t doing as well at night since we aren’t wrapping him tight in his blanket but we really need to break this habit sooner rather than later. I think having a pacifier is a good enough habit to have to break down the road, yippee! I had to settle him 3 times before he finally fell asleep, I think he tries to suck on his pacifier and hand at the same time but the hand gets rid of the pacifier and he gets mad. He got me out of bed around 4:00 am twice and it was the same issue with the hand knocking the pacifier out. I know this is only temporary and he’ll adjust soon enough. He was so tired when I picked him up from day care so I fed him 4 oz because I knew he was hungry and he slept for about 30 min then he was up and happy until bed time. He sure was dishing out smiles to DH when he got home; he’s such a joy to watch every day.
I have a huge list of things to do this weekend and I need to first start by cleaning up the house tonight (water plants, put laundry away, file, dust). I also want to buy our tree tonight so I’m not sure how much I’ll actually get done. Tomorrow night we’re utilizing day care being open from 6-11pm and we’re going out to dinner and then a movie, I’m not sure what movie we’ll watch but either way it will be fun. Saturday and Sunday I need to clean the house, decorate the tree & house, wrap a few presents, write thank-yous for B’s dedication, bake my Christmas treats (fudge, choc covered cherries, peanut butter balls, & molasses cookies), bake the treats for work, and start my Christmas letter. DH needs to put the Christmas lights up on the house too but hopefully he won’t need my help until he’s on the roof. It’s going to be a busy weekend.
DH has an appointment with the dermatologist today so I showed him a few moles I want to see removed next, not sure if the Dr. will agree with me but eventually they all will be removed. He’s such a trooper. Since DH will be home early I think he can either pick out a tree or we can go when I get home, I love the smell of pine trees in the house.
The temp was above 0 degrees this morning when I left for work and we may get more snow this weekend. They’re predicting temps above freezing next week and that would be a bummer since the snow would go away but it’s typical of our winters the last 10 years so I won’t be surprised.
It’s a warm balmy day at 23 degrees this morning, good Christmas light hanging weather. DH picked B up from day care last night so they were home when I got home. DH is having 4 moles removed in two weeks, three on his back and one on his leg, that’s going to be a pretty bill! When I got home I played with B for a little while and then we put him down for a nap and dtd. Fell asleep for a quick 15 min nap then got up to get dinner going and B fed. We didn’t get the Christmas tree last night and I did nothing I wanted to do so that just means I have more to do this weekend. B went down easier last night than the previous 2 so that was good but he woke up a lot last night. He had 28 oz of formula yesterday and cereal in the morning but I think we need to get back into giving him cereal at night too. Hopefully that will keep him asleep longer because last night was brutal. DH was holding him while he was on the computer last night and B had his intense concentrating look on his face like he was reading the computer screen with daddy. Two nights ago I sang “Head shoulders knees and toes” to him while doing the motions to the song and he got such a kick out of it, not sure why it was so funny but I kept doing it until I was wore out. It’s amazing how many stupid things I will do for him and not even think twice about it.
DH took today off so we’re planning on leaving for our date around 5:30, if we can drop B off before 6:00. Not sure where we’re going to eat but I think we’re going to see Stranger Than Fiction, should be a fun night. This means we won’t get our tree until tomorrow so I’m a little bummed about that, I prefer to get the tree up the weekend after Thanksgiving so this is a little hard on me. I’m really excited to see how B reacts to the lights; I think he’ll love it.
I have billing and estimates to work on today and I’m just ready for the work week to be over. I also have a pre-construction meeting to attend and hopefully it will be fast and not complicated. Well motivation time.
What a busy weekend, at least it was expected. Friday night was great, we had Mexican and I finally got my seafood enchiladas then we watched Stranger Than Fiction. It was a good show, funny and kind of sad. It was nice just hanging out with DH outside of the house without B but I was really tired when we got home at 9:30pm, I’m so lame. B slept really well Friday night and didn’t wake up until 7:40 so I got to sleep in a bit.
DH had to work Saturday so his alarm went off 20 min after I came back to bed from feeding B but we got a quickie in and then I figured I better get out of bed to start my busy day. I cleaned the house, bought groceries, brought the Christmas gear upstairs, wrapped DH’s presents, made chocolate covered cherries, and made the dough for the molasses cookies. B napped a lot of the day so that was helpful for my productivity. When DH got home we went Christmas tree shopping and it was a clear night and cold so we didn’t dawdle on picking a tree out. We set the tree up when we got home and by morning it had drank a full thing of water and the boughs were coming down.
B slept really well, he didn’t make a peep the whole night but he woke at 5:53 am screaming, he didn’t even ease into it like usual so I’m not sure what was going on. I got up and snuggled him then fed him and went back to bed for about an hour before he was up again. DH put the Christmas lights on the house and since there’s snow on the roof and our ladder isn’t tall enough to reach the top of the house he just outlined the garage door, front door, and B’s window with lights and garland. It looks ok, nothing too fancy that’s for sure. He was happy I suggested he do an easy job since it was cold and he really didn’t want to be out there. I got the double batch of molasses cookies baked; I love my new oven and the convection bake option. I was able to bake three racks of cookies at a time and it really cut down on my time spent in the kitchen. I also frosted and decorated all of the cookies, it was a long day but they taste yummy. I cleaned up the kitchen again, did laundry, put my Christmas decorations up, put the presents under the tree, vacuumed the needles up, put away my storage boxes, paid bills, and balanced the check book. I didn’t crawl into bed until after 10:00 pm so I’m feeling pretty tired today.
DH didn’t put the lights on the tree until about 8:00 pm and at that point I was beat and still had some things to take care of so he did all of the decorating and I didn’t get to put anything on the tree. I was a little miffed about it last night and I think he could tell. Then he went downstairs and played video games, which is what he did most of the day while I had my long to-do list and a baby to take care of, so I’m hauling the Christmas boxes back downstairs to the storage room and on my last trip he finally asks if I need help. A little late now but thanks for pretending to care. I know he misses having the time to play online and he says days off aren’t really days off with a baby. I just wish he would realize I’m in the same boat, I have things to take care of around the house plus B and I don’t get any time “off” either. Last night I mentioned that I hadn’t done one thing for myself this whole weekend and he says sit down, I told him I still have a ton to do I can’t just sit down. I wish he would acknowledge that I work full time and have the house to take care of when I’m home and that I need him to take B some times without me having to ask. At least he does take him when I ask but it would be nice to be able to just get something done without having to check on B while I’m in the middle of it. I’d like to clean the bathroom or bake cookies without having to sing Old McDonald.
B slept really well last night, he fussed a tiny bit after DH put him down but we didn’t have to go in there. He slept the whole night, I sure hope this is a new trend and I’m really glad we broke him from the habit of being wrapped tight, and woke at 5:30 am. I kept trying to get him to take his pacifier and be happy in his crib but as soon as I left he’d yell some more and then smile when I checked on him. So he hung out in the bathroom with me while I finished getting ready then at 6:00 am I fed him. He apparently took too much formula because he spewed a little bit on my shirt and on the couch so I spent some time scrubbing.
My work day started with an e-mail that really torqued my shorts and then I was reminded I have a meeting I’m not looking forward to so I guess it’s just another lovely Monday!
B slept the whole night again without being swaddled (4 nights in a row now), just one little peep and he put himself back to sleep, and he even did the whole night without his pacifier. I’m so happy & proud of him, I tell him every morning I think he’s gearing up to start teething so that may throw a wrench into our sleeping heaven but I’m hoping that he will be an easy teether. He’s been great when he’s been sick so I’m crossing my fingers.
I found out day care is closed the day after Christmas so I’m definitely taking that day off, I was planning to anyways but now it’s a guarantee. It’ll be a good day to put the Christmas decorations away. B’s Christmas play at day care is on the 20th, he’s going to be an angel, so I’m pretty excited. Santa will also be there to give presents so it’ll be fun to see how he handles the big guy. I think we are also going to take him to see Santa at the mall but I need to double check with DH.
Last night I baked the brownies for tomorrow’s bake sale and I’m going to frost and decorate them tonight. I also finished my laundry, just need to fold it and put it away tonight, and cleaned the house up a bit. I was excited because I received Babywise II and the Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. I started Babywise II last night and hopefully can be through it in a week then start the Baby Whisperer. I’ve really enjoyed the Flex Scheduling board; it’s nice to talk with other parents that are following the same parenting style as us.
Last night when I got B home I mixed up 3 T of cereal, put him in his high chair and he starts to cry/yell. Up to this point he hadn’t shown he was hungry but apparently he was about ready to waste away. I couldn’t fee him fast enough, he was trying to suck/chew the food before it was in his mouth and as soon as it was gone he’d cry again. He cleaned out that bowl in under 5 min and was still hungry so I gave him 4 oz of formula and then he was happy. We had some tummy time and he actually seemed to enjoy it for once. He kept bringing his knees up and would try to kick him self forward and at one point he had his lower body halfway over but didn’t get the upper body going with it We gave him another 4 oz right before bed so of course at 4:30 he woke up and was ready to start the day. I did get him to settle down with the pacifier, he kept kicking and flailing his arms so it wasn’t conducive to getting him to calmly fall asleep again, but at 6:00 he was awake, hungry, and angry. I was scolded by him on my way to the fridge to get the bottle then to the couch and until I got the bottle in his mouth. Little stinker! After that he was pretty happy and I had him giggling before I left for work.
As I was on the interstate driving to work I was almost hit by an a-hole in an Audi with dealer plates and though I’ve been really good at keeping my cool and controlling my temper I didn’t do so well this morning. What ever happened to people looking behind them before they change lanes and/or using their blinker to let others know what their plans are? It’s the whole “I’m the center of the universe” mentality and it just ticks me off. So I had a lapse and those will happen but all in all I’ve been doing really good and there also hasn’t been much going on to get me riled either.
I’m going to start using sign language with B, I want him to be able to communicate with us before he can talk and I think this will be a really good way to do it. The signs I’m going to start him with are bottle, milk, eat, all done, yes, no, thank you, please, play, toys, mommy, daddy, love you, grandma, and grandpa. At this point my plan is to start signing when I say the words and hopefully in 3-4 months he will start to copy me. Once he gets these down we can expand our signing but this should be a good start.
I have a construction meeting in a ½ hour then I have to prepare for the bake sale and help with the selling. Hopefully we can get some funds earned so we don’t leave the benefit organization broke after the winter party. I’m actually looking forward to being done with the organization; it’ll just be nice not having to worry about the extra things and having to put in extra time to prepare things. I’ll be done after the winter party and I’ll be happy about it!
I just can’t seem to get myself to concentrate on work this week. I’m not sure if I’m physically tired or just tired of work. I need a swift kick in the butt.
We made a little over $150 at the bake sale so we’re happy about that. There were some really tasty treats there. I have my Christmas letter mostly done, DH will need to read over it and then I have to find some pictures to put in it. I may have to shorten my letter when the pictures are added and that’s fine by me. I want to get them sent out the beginning of next week and I’ll mail off the candy packages I have then too. That will make me officially done with my Christmas to-do list, yeah!
Well I’m going to tackle some renovation plans and the estimate for our work maybe that will get my brain focused. I think I need to go to bed at 8:00 tonight, that can’t hurt.
Day care called me yesterday at 2:30 saying B had cried all day and had diarrhea. This is so unlike him so she asked if I had any ideas how to calm him and she had tried all of them so I left work to get my little guy. He’s decided to start teething and was sleeping when I got there and was fine until I got home. I did pick up some teething tablets and gel and the tablets calmed him with lots of snuggles when he was hurting again. I’m not sure I’m ready for this. He did sleep well last night, woke once at 4:00 am and I gave him a tablet and held his hand until he settled down, he seemed happy this morning and I hope today goes better for him and day care. I think with the tablets and his vibrating bee he should be ok. He also has some major diaper rash going so we’ll have to do some naked time tonight when we get home.
DH came home early too but he didn’t help me at all, just played games and said he was working. We ordered pizza since I wasn’t going to make anything and he wasn’t helpful, that was fine by me. He did put B down but that’s because my best friend from high school called.
My SIL W, niece, & nephew were rear ended by a drunk driver last night, they’re ok but the van is totaled. This is her 3rd rear ending in 5 years and she’s tired of it, sometimes it seems it just never ends. Of course the guy will receive a little slap on the hand and be sent out to drive drunk again and maybe even kill someone. I have no sympathy for these jerks and I’m tired of the state just rolling over, maybe I need to get involved with a group to raise holy hell over drunk driving.
Well since I missed an hour of work yesterday I better get to it.
DH just informed me that MIL and FIL are coming up tonight and staying with us because they're driving to Msla for the game tomorrow night. So I have to make sure the bathrooms are clean and get some hamburgers and salad ready for dinner. At least they won't be here until around 7:00 so that gives me some time. Now I just need to be a good girl and not get into any "discussions" with them, I also need do my best to not take things personally. They are good people I just have had my feelings hurt in the past year so I'm more sensitive about comments than I normally would be. I don't feel like they respect me or our decisions and it upsets me. FIL made a comment last time they were up comparing a guy to DH. He said something like, "So&so has a usable degree like David but he's decided to do something that doesn't use his degree." Now this bothered me because DH has a degree in Creative Writing, he's a poet, and that doesn't bring money in to pay bills though there's nothing wrong with that degree. So after he graduated he started working at a computer store and he did so well he and his boss partnered up and opened up a second store where we now live. FIL made a comment (in front of my dad and it made him feel like FIL doesn't support DH's decisions) when we were planning this move that made it seem like he thought DH should be doing something in his major and it made me feel like they didn't support our decision to open up a store. The store has been very successful and I'm very proud of my DH with the hard work he's put into it and I just wish FIL would see how successful he is and stop comments like the one he made last time they were up. But this is just an example of things he says that bothers me. The other main two recently have been about giving B food he's not ready for and how horrible it is that we've decided to put him in day care so I can keep working. So I need to work on not obsessing about these comments and just letting them slide off my back, it's not easy when I feel like someone is putting down my husband and my mothering.
I called day care and B is doing a lot better today, I'm interested to see if he was crabby, how he ate, and if they had to give him teething pills. Hopefully he's not too crabby so I can get ready for the IL's. I'm not sure how I'm going to get some naked time (for B of course) in while I'm prepping for them but I'll find a way.
Well it's 1:12 am and I'm awake and not happy about it. I was sleeping until DH came to bed and was loud enough to wake me up. I couldn't fall back asleep and after laying there for an hour I figured screw it, I'll get up and do some things around the house. I'm really happy he didn't even bother to apologize for waking me up. Oh that's right, I don't need sleep.
When I got home I was rushing around getting the bathrooms cleaned up and dishes/recycling put away. DH said MIL and FIL were going to be here around 7:00 pm, well 5:32 pm and they're here. Thank God I got the necessary things done in time. I made hamburgers, beans, and a pasta salad but guess what, I didn't get a thank you from any of them. I'm not happy that DH can't seem to help around the house either. On Wed, trash day, I took the garbage to the can and the can to the street. I pulled a trash bag out and put it near the garbage thinking DH would put it in the garbage. I get home that night and he's put garbage in the bag but sure hasn't put the bag in the garbage. I was not happy and after this whirl wind of 20 min to prepare for his parents staying the night I'm really not happy. He's going to hear my little ***** fest tomorrow whether he likes it or not.
He's leaving work early tomorrow (today) and is going to pick B up. I think I'm going to stop by Target on my way home and get a few things we need, he's just going to leave as soon as I get home to go sit at a bar and watch the game tomorrow night so why rush home? I'm just tired of him having all this time to do what he wants and I'm left to take care of the house and B with no thank you's or what can I do to let you enjoy some free time. Why are these men so spoiled and feel that they're entitled to it?
I'm just tired and cranky and I can't believe I'm still awake, blah!
I am so flipping tired today, I’m pumping the coffee in and I’m going to see how I’m doing at 2:30 to see if I want to leave early. MIL did thank me for everything this morning, so now DH just needs to be appreciative and maybe I’ll be happy. The one good thing is I unloaded my dishwasher last night/early this morning and I started adding pictures to my Christmas letter. I have one picture of B on Halloween and if the pictures with Santa turn out this weekend I’m going to put that on the letter also. I haven’t told DH I’m taking him to see Santa Sunday and I really don’t care at this point if he comes along or not, he can do whatever the hell he wants he always does anyways.
I talked briefly with my mom last night and the accident from the drunk driver was more severe than I thought and by the grace of God no one was hurt. My SIL W saw him coming so she stepped on the gas a little hoping he’d see her in time and not slam into the back of the van, of course he was drunk and just kept going. His vehicle smashed the back of the van so bad that it came within an inch of taking out the back seat which my nephew was sitting in. If she hadn’t gone forward my nephew may have died. They towed the van directly to a junk yard and my brother picked up their personal effects the next day and the guy at the salvage yard told him they were lucky she wasn’t in a car or they wouldn’t have made it. The guy had received a DUI prior to this and big surprise he was out of jail the next morning. W did chew his butt and I don’t think she held back on the language, good girl! It makes me so angry that people are so damn inconsiderate for the lives of others and especially children just so they can get drunk. Of all the drugs out there I truly believe alcohol is the worst and I’m tired of our country idolizing it. I can’t even imagine losing L, he’s the most precious child and it makes me sick to my stomach to even think about it, what the hell is wrong with people? I think the guy at least has insurance so hopefully she can skip the hell I went through when I was hit by an uninsured motorist.
On the rant of alcohol (I do have a beer here or there but I don’t get drunk anymore, I’ve out grown that desire and I’m sure I will cut it out all together when B gets older because I don’t want him thinking it’s a staple at gatherings) FIL always brings some Wild Turkey where ever he goes and sets up a little bar, heaven forbid we go a night without alcohol. Well MIL was feeding B his cereal last night and he’s saying she should have a beer while she feeds him so he can get a picture of her drinking and feeding him at the same time. What the hell? If that’s not the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard then I’m not sure what is. And then they were talking about how my BIL J was flying back from the east coast today and if it’s foggy like it was yesterday he’ll have to fly into Hlna and he has some friends that have stated they will get a 12 pack and go pick him up. Let’s all be good examples for our children. That comment ticked me off so I shared with them that a drunk driver had hit W and the kids just to shut him up. DH’s family sees nothing wrong with drinking a few and getting behind the wheel (even in front of their children) and I will never allow my child/children to get in a car with them even if they’ve only had one, we have to teach them at a young age that this behavior is not ok.
On a bright note it’s Friday and all I can think about is sleeping tonight. Tomorrow I’ll make the fudge and peanut butter balls and work on my Christmas letter some more. I’ll probably do a quick cleaning and I need to organize my Good Will donations so I can get those out of the house. The garage also needs to be tackled and I think it’ll be warm enough to do some work out there, so my weekend should be plenty busy. Well I have to count some inventory and go over more construction plans, yippee!