I'm beginning to regret telling anyone about this. I'm tired of the "do you have any news?" questions from people (not so much online because most of you read this - I'm talking about IRL).
Do people not think that I won't go running to tell them when I hear something? My therapist was asking me about it yesterday and then my best friend asked me last night- the day before someone else brought it up.
Enough already - I'm stressed about it as it is. Seems like as soon as I get it out of my head for any period of time, someone brings it up.
I know they mean well and are here to support me - don't think I don't know and appreciate that, I just wish people would let me talk when I want to talk.
August 31st is the day that I can e-mail the company and ask for a status check. That's a Friday, so I might just wait until the day after Labor Day to make the inquiry. I don't know that I could deal with the stress of knowing I have at least 4 more days before I will hear something. I know that sounds weird since I've been waiting 16 weeks as it is, but that's how I feel about it all.
Thanks for checking in regarding your search. I can see from recent notes from then research department that they have been checking information out in the DC area and have not found a match as of yet and they are working on the naming information. Also please keep a lookout for information to come to you from the State as we are hoping that they will send you non-identifying information that will help in your search.
As I see it your search is moving along quite well and I look forward to speaking with you again upon your next update in 90 days and if you receive any information between now and then please let us know as we will do the same."
Why oh why did I have to be born in DC? The only other place that it's as hard to get records is Boston. Hmm, it's probably political. I'm a Kennedy love-child, I know it haha
I'm going to mark my calendar for 90 days and pay a little better attention to my mail!!
I have been feeling pretty down about this, lately. So, I decided to just contact them and ask a question because I still haven't received any type of info from DC. I asked if they had a phone number I could call to follow up. I got this in response:
Thanks for checking in to let me know about your status. We had requested the non-identifying information from the state since your adoption didn’t take place in an agency. So by sending a request to the state we hope that they have some kind of information about your adoption or at least tell you where your records are.
The down side is that I do not have a phone number to follow up with as we only deal with forms and the majority of the time they do not contain phone numbers. As for a specific date of when it was sent. Well I’d like to be able to give you a date as I can only tell you that whatever information was necessary to send out would have gone as soon as we received your packet here in April.
I’ll be honest with you and let you know that things are moving along quite nicely with your search as I do not see any red flags from the research department. Please remember that when search it can take up to 1 year to gather all of the information. The researchers are in the process of working on your search as we speak. It is usually unlikely that you will hear from a researcher this early out unless they have a question or have located your family."
So, I'll check in some time in December and see if there have been any changes. This is agonizing.
I'm waiting for a 2nd response, but I did get one today. These kinds of cases are 'solved' in spurts, so there's really no update to get. Once they do get some good info, they usually have a result within days.
Just keeping my patience. Hopefully, I'll get a little detail soon