Thread: Helpful Poems, Prayers, Songs & Such

I am starting this thread for all of us to post poems, prayers, songs etc that have helped us through our sad days.

I am hoping that it will be a place that we can all come to when we need a little uplifting.

If you have something to add, please do so. I want to have as many inspirations as possible. I know that it helps me and others to read touching sentiments.

{{{HUGS}}}
Diane

~*~Mommy Please Don't Cry~*~

Mommy, please don't cry...
A beautiful angel carried me here!
I met Jesus today, Mommy!
He cradled me in His big, strong arms.
He made me feel so happy inside.

Mommy, please don't cry...
Heaven is wonderful!
Did you know the streets are made of gold? Real gold!
I have lots of friends, Mommy.
We run and play, we giggle and laugh.
I can't wait to show you my secret hideouts!

Mommy, please don't cry...
When I fall it doesn't hurt!
There are no tears in Heaven.
I've met a man named Noah. He told me about his big boat, all the animals, and the very first rainbow.
Have you heard of Noah, Mommy?

Mommy, please don't cry...
We have lots of parties here; with streamers and hats, and the best chocolate cake ever!
When it's time to rest, angels tuck us in. I never get scared Mommy, there is no darkness here!
Jesus is the light of Heaven.

Mommy, please don't cry...
The angels are always singing.
I love to sing with the angels!
You'd be proud of me, I have a pretty good voice. I must have gotten it from you.
There is a river, Mommy, in the most beautiful garden you could ever imagine...and a huge tree with yummy fruit.
The angels call it the tree of life.
Mommy, it's so wonderful to be alive in Heaven!

Mommy, please don't cry...
Sometimes I just like to be by myself. That's when I think of you.
Someday, Mommy, we will hold each other tight!
Then you will cradle me in your arms, and stroke my hair...and once again, our hearts will beat together.

Mommy, please don't cry...I'll wait right here for you.

Diane

I'm free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when i heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My lifes been full I savored much,
Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all to brief,
Don't legthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me,
God wanted me now, He set me free.

This was what was written at my ex's funeral, I thought it was beautiful just wanted to share.

For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love
I'll be a witness in the silences
When words are not enough
With every breath I take
I will give thanks to God above
For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love

these are some of the songs, poems, sayings i keep in my journal here to remind me of my angel "Zachary" ...he was stillborn @ 33wks






Artist: Faith Hill

Album: Pearl Harbor Soundtrack

Title: There You'll Be



When I think back on these times

And the dreams we left behind

I'll be glad 'cause I was blessed

To get to have you in my life

When I look back on these days

I'll look and see your face

You were right there for me



In my dreams I'll always see you soar above the sky

In my heart there will always be a place for you

For all my life I'll keep a part of you with me

And everywhere I am, there you'll be



Well you showed me how to feel

Feel the sky was in my reach

And I always will remember all the strength you gave to me



Your love made me make it through

Oh, I owe so much to you

You were right there for me



In my dreams I'll always see you soar above the sky

In my heart there will always be a place for you

For all my life I'll keep a part of you with me

And everywhere I am, there youll be



'Cause I always saw in you my light, my strength

And I want to thank you now

For all the ways you were right there for me

You were right there for me

For always













Artist: Sarah McLachlan

Album: Mirrorball

Title: Angel



Spend all your time waiting

for that second chance

for a break that would make it okay

there's always one reason

to feel not good enough

and it's hard at the end of the day

I need some distraction

oh beautiful release

memory seeps from my veins

let me be empty

and weightless and maybe

I'll find some peace tonight



in the arms of an angel

fly away from here

from this dark cold hotel room

and the endlessness that you fear

you are pulled from the wreckage

of your silent reverie

you're in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort there



so tired of the straight line

and everywhere you turn



there's vultures and thieves at your back

and the storm keeps on twisting

you keep on building the lie

that you make up for all that you lack

it don't make no difference

escaping one last time

it's easier to believe in this sweet madness oh

this glorious sadness that brings me to my knees



in the arms of an angel

fly away from here

from this dark cold hotel room

and the endlessness that you fear

you are pulled from the wreckage

of your silent reverie

you're in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort there

you're in the arms of the angel

may you find some comfort here













Artist: Sarah McLachlan

Album: Mirrorball

Title: I Will Remember You



I will remember you

Will you remember me?

Don't let your life pass you by

Weep not for the memories



Remember the good times that we had?

I let them slip away from us when things got bad

How clearly I first saw you smilin' in the sun

Wanna feel your warmth upon me, I wanna be the one



I will remember you

Will you remember me?

Don't let your life pass you by

Weep not for the memories



I'm so tired but I can't sleep

Standin' on the edge of something much too deep

It's funny how we feel so much but we cannot say a word

We are screaming inside, but we can't be heard



But I will remember you

Will you remember me?

Don't let your life pass you by

Weep not for the memories



I'm so afraid to love you, but more afraid to loose

Clinging to a past that doesn't let me choose

Once there was a darkness, deep and endless night

You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me light



And I will remember you

Will you remember me?

Don't let your life pass you by

Weep not for the memories



And I will remember you

Will you remember me?

Don't let your life pass you by

Weep not for the memories

Weep not for the memories







Artist: GARTH BROOKS

Album: Double Live

Title: The Dance



Looking back on the memory of

The dance we shared

'Neath the stars alone

For a moment all

The world was right

How could I have known

That you'd ever say goodbye?

And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end

The way it all would go

Our lives are better left to chance

I could have missed the pain

But I'd of had to miss the dance



Holding you I held everything

For a moment wasn't I a king



But if I'd only known

How the king would fall

Hey who's to say you know

I might have chanced it all



And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end

The way it all would go

Our lives are better left to chance

I could have missed the pain

But I'd of had to miss the dance



Yes my life is better left to chance

I could have missed the pain but

I'd of had to miss the dance













Artist: Mariah Carey

Album: #1's

Title: One Sweet Day (this is the song His father and I dedicated to him)



[Featuring Boyz II Men]

Sorry I never told you

All I wanted to say

And now it's too late to hold you

'Cause you've flown away

So far away

Never had I imagined

Living without your smile

Feeling and knowing you hear me

It keeps me alive

Alive

And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven

Like so many friends we've lost along the way

And I know eventually we'll be together

One sweet day

Darling, I never showed you

Assumed you'd always be there

I took your presence for granted

But I always cared

And I miss the love we shared

And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven

Like so many friends we've lost along the way



And I know eventually we'll be together

One sweet day

Although the sun will never shine the same

I'll always look to a brighter day

Lord I know when I lay me down to sleep

You will always listen as I pray

And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven

Like so many friends we've lost along the way

And I know eventually we'll be together

One sweet day

And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven

Like so many friends we've lost along the way

And I know eventually we'll be together

One sweet day

Sorry I never told you

All I wanted to say






THE CORD



We are connected,

My child and I, by

An invisible cord

Not seen by the eye.

It's not like the cord

That connects us 'til birth

This cord can't be seen

By any on Earth.

This cord does it's work

Right from the start.

It binds us together

Attached to my heart.

I know that it's there

Though no one can see

The invisible cord

From my child to me.

The strength of this cord

Is hard to describe.

It can't be destroyed

It can't be denied.

It's stronger than any cord

Man could create

It withstands the test

Can hold any weight.

And though you are gone,

Though you're not here with me,

The cord is still there

But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart

I am bruised...I am sore,

But this cord is my lifeline

As never before.

I am thankful that God

Connects us this way

A mother and child

Death can't take it away!

(unknown)







Poem Without a Name





To those who look away when I grow teary-eyed in the baby department, look a little deeper. Surely you have some compassion in your heart.





To those who change the subject when I speak my sons' names, change your way of thinking. It just might change your whole life.





To those who roll their eyes and say that we barely had them at all, how could we miss them so much, in our hearts we have seen them live a thousand times. We have seen their first steps, first day of school,their weddings, and their children. We have had them forever in our minds.





To those who say we can have another, we did. I thank God for her everyday, but even if I have twenty more babies, I will forever have two in the grave, and that is two too many.





To those who say to get on with my life, I have. It is a different life, the life of a grieving mother. One with a tremendous amount to be thankful for, but also one with a lot to mourn the loss of!





Do not judge the bereaved mother. She comes in many forms.





She is breathing, but she is dying.

She may look young, but inside she has become ancient.

She smiles, but her heart sobs.

She walks, she talks, she cooks, she cleans, she works, she IS, but she IS NOT, all at once.

She is here, but part of her is elsewhere for eternity.





Do not dismiss us: we have shaped more than just the future generation.



We have released all the tiny angels who are watching over you.



Open your eyes to US, and you just might see THEM.



~~~ Author Unknown ~~~




I Believe: Diamond Rio.


Every now and then,
Soft as breath upon my skin,
I feel you come back again,
And it's like you haven't been,
Gone a moment from my side.
Like the tears were never cried;
Like the hands of time are holding you and me.

And with all my heart I'm sure,
We're closer than we ever were.
I don't have to hear or see,
I've got all the proof I need.
There are more than angels watching over me:
I believe; Oh, I believe.

That when you die your life goes on:
It doesn't end here when you're gone.
Every soul is filled with light,
It never ends and if I'm right,
Our love can even reach across eternity:
I believe; Oh, I believe.

Forever, you're a part of me.
Forever, in the heart of me.
I will hold you even longer if I can.
Oh, the people who don't see the most,
See that I believe in ghosts.
If that makes me crazy, then I am,
'Cause I believe.

Oh I believe.


There are more than angels watching over me:
I believe; Oh, I believe.

Every now and then,
Soft as breath upon my skin,
I feel you come back again,
And I believe.







Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2003 2:05 pm Post subject:

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[color=red] I have two poems i would like to share......these help me deal w/ Zachary's loss....tomorrow is 8 yrs since i found out he had passed....and Sat is 8 yrs that he was delivered stillborn.




This first one was written by Mike.....i received it in a card Dec of 95:


For Zachary:

The day she conceived was a happy day indeed.
The anticipation was excitable yet apprehensive.
In the womb the fetus brought us close.
The one April day, the news came shattering our dreams.
As our son went to his eternal home.
We felt that he forlorn us forever.
Then that night in a shadowy sembalance.
We saw him in a lusturous light.
He came forth to let us know he is ALWAYS with us.
From the first blush at break of day to the blackness of night.
He keeps a vigilant look upon us.
He annunciate us of evil as he comes the field of vision as a cloudy figure.
Ascertain us of righteousness by the emergence of a radiant light.
The celestial being from the Heaven above.....is with us always as He is our SON, Our Guardian Angel
















This next one is from "Priests of Sacred Heart" ....it is in a Card i recieved from Mother's friend(one who's son died at exact moment i found out Zachary was dead) ....is it a Memorial Gift:



Safely Home

I am home in Heaven, dear ones;
Oh, so happy and so bright!
There is perfect joy and beauty
In this everlasting light.



All the pain is over,
Every restless tossing passed;
I am now at peace forever
Safely home in Heaven at last.



Did you wonder why i so calmly
Trod the valley of the shade?
Oh! but Jesus' love illumined
Every dark and fearful glade



And He came himself to meet me
In that way so hard to tread;
And with Jesus' arm to lean on
Could i have one doubt or dread?



Then you must not grieve so sorely
For i love you dearly still
Try to look beyond earth's shadows
Pray to trust our Father's will.




There is work still waiting for you,
So you must not idly stand;
Do it now, while life remaineth-
You shall rest in Jesus' land.




When that work is all completed,
He will gently call you Home;
Oh, the rapture of that meeting,
Oh!, the joy to see you come!








going to next post......don't want too much in one and not go thru

My mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night
when all others are in bed.

I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand.

But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mom,
who thinks of me each day.


Author: Joanne Cacciatore





No one will ever know...

Many a lonely moment,
Often a silent tear,
But always a beautiful memory
Of one who was so dear.

Their memory is our keepsake
From which we shall never part
God has them in his keeping,
We have them in our hearts.

Friends may think we have forgotten
When at time they see us smile,
Little do they know the heartache
That our smile hides all the while.

We mourn for them in silence,
No one can see us weep
But many tears are shed
While others are asleep.

God gave us strength to fight it
And courage to bear the blow,
But what it means to lose them...

NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW.


Author Unknown







What Makes a Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother
And I know I heard him say.

A Mother has a baby
This we know is true.
But God can you be a Mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can He replied
With confidence in His voice
I give many women babies
When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this, God
I want my baby here
He took a breath and cleared His throat
And then I saw a tear.

I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say...

"We go to earth to learn our lessons
Of love and life and fear.
My Mummy loved me oh so much
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mum
Who had so much love for me
I learned my lesson very quickly
My Mummy set me free.

I miss my Mummy oh so much
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow's where I lay.

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear.
Mummy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I'm here."

So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are ok
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lesson there is through.
And on the day that you come home
They'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.

Through some on earth may not realise
Until their time is done.
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are a special Mum!

written by Jennifer Wasik








Ghost Children


Sometimes in the mornings,
as I'm waking up,
I can hear them playing downstairs -
my little girl, my baby boy.
She's telling him stories from her book,
he's gurgling in delight,
and I am so sleepy happy,
drowsing in the warmth of my children.
But when I get up to join them,
there's no-one there.
The house is empty.
Still.

And on the beach,
lying in the hot summer sun,
my eyes closed against the glare,
I can hear them playing in the shallows.
She's piling his lap with shells and seaweed,
he's splashing his podgy arms up and down.
When they sit next to me
I can smell their warmth
and feel their soft skin and wet hair.
I can see their smiles
but never their faces.
And when I open my eyes,
there is no-one there.
Only emptiness.
Stillness.

Every waking hour I hear them,
always in the next room,
always just beyond,
out of sight and
out of reach.
I search for them
but they can never be found.
The echo of their being dies away
to silence,
stillness.

I'm closest to them in my dreams.
There we can play together.
I can hold them in my arms,
kiss them,
keep them safe from harm,
live out my hopes for them.
My unknown babies,
my still babies,
I will be your mother always
in my dreams.


Helen









Lessons on grief


You asked, "How are you doing?" As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you looked away and quickly began to talk again. All the attention you had given me had drained away.

"How am I doing?" I do better when people listen, though I may shed a tear or two. This pain is indescribable. If you've never known it, you cannot fully understand. Yet I need you. When you look away, I am again alone with it. Your attention means more than you can ever know.

Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know! They're nature's way of helping me to heal. They relieve some of the stress of sadness, . . . but you are wrong. The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me, it's only a thought away. My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not give me the pain, it was already there.

When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, not knowing what to do? You are not helpless, and you don't need to do a thing but be there. When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow, you've helped me. You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need.

Be patient - do not fear. Listening with your heart to "how I am doing" relieves the pain for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter. Talking to you releases what I've wanted to say aloud, clearing space for a touch of joy in my life. I'll cry for a minute or two... and then I'll wipe my eyes and sometimes you'll even find I'm laughing later.

When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight, my chest aches, my stomach knots - because I'm trying to protect YOU from my tears. Then we both hurt ME, because my pain is held inside, a shield against our closeness and YOU, because suddenly we are distant.

So please, take my hand and see me through my tears.


Author Unknown








Pain—has an Element of Blank—
It cannot recollect
When it began—or if there were
A time when it was not—


Emily Dickinson







There is no pain you are receding
A distant ship, smoke on the horizon.
You are only coming through in waves.
Your lips move but I can't hear what you're saying.
When I was a child I had a fever
My hands felt just like two balloons.
Now I've got that feeling once again
I can't explain you would not understand
This is not how I am.
I have become comfortably numb.

Pink Floyd








the pain never truly goes away, it just gets smaller and condensed, tucked away in a corner somewhere in the deep recesses of the heart. There it remains at a constant low level ache, which with time may be overridden. There may be times when a site, a smell, a place, a song, an anniversary or birthday will trigger the old memories and the intensity of the grief and loss will return again. These feelings often arrive without warning and can be just as painful making one feel as though he/she was experiencing the loss anew.
Kirsti A. Dyer, MD, MS









Mourning can go on for years and years.
It doesn't end after a year, that's a false fantasy.
It usually ends when people realize that they can live again,
that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole,
and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.


Elisabeth Kübler-Ross





unto next one

Preston V. Carden

Born: May 21, 1998
Died: January 6, 2003

Inoperable Brain Tumor

"Gods Garden"

God looked around his garden
And saw an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face.
He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best
He knew that you were suffering.
He knew you were in pain
He knew that you would never
get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough,
And the hill's hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids,
And Whispered, Peace Be Thine,
It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you did not go alone,
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.

Please Remember
Artist - LeAnne Rimes
Album - Coyote Ugly Soundtrack

Time, sometimes the time just slips away
And you're left with yesterday
Left with the memories
I, I'll always think of you and smile
And be happy for the time
I had you with me
Though we go our seperate ways
I won't forget so don't forget
the memories we made

Please remember, please remember
I was there for you
and you were there for me
Please remember, our time together
The time was yours and mine
while we were wild and free
Please remember, please remember me

Goodbye, there's just no sadder word to say
And it's sad to walk away
with just the memories
Who's to know what might have been
We'll leave behind a life and time
I'll never know again

Please remember, please remember
I was there for you
and you were there for me
And remember, Please remember me

Please remember, please remember
I was there for you
And you were there for me
Please remember, our time together
The time was yours and mine
While we were wild and free
Then remember, please remember me

And how we laugh and how we smile
And how this heart was yours and mine
and how a dream was out of reach
I stood by you, you stood by me
We took each day and made it shine
We wrote our names across the sky
We ride so fast, we ride so free
And I knew that you had me

Please remember, please remember

I lost my nephew at 5 days old in Oct. 2003 and my best friends baby who was only 2 weeks older than my youngest passed away in march at 6 weeks old. I just wanted to post some poems that our family have all shared.

A Baby’s Secret

I’m just a little baby, who didn’t make it there.
I went straight to be with Jesus and I’m waiting for you here.

Don’t you fret about me Mommy, I’m one of God’s lambs most blessed.
I’d have loved to have stayed there with you, but the shepherd knows what’s best.

Many dwelling here where I live, waited years to enter in.
Struggled through a world of sorrow, and their lives were marred with sin.

So sweet Mommy don’t you sorrow, wipe those tears and chase the gloom.
I went straight to be with Jesus from my lovely mother’s womb.

Thank you for the life you gave me, it was brief but don’t complain.
I have all heaven’s glory, suffered none of earthling’s pain.

Thank you for the name you gave me, I’d love to have brought it fame.
But if I’d lingered in earth’s shadows, I might have brought it shame.

Daddy gave me something for you, it’s our secret Mommy dear.
He pressed it tight against my forehead, whispered in my tiny ear.

I’ll be waiting for you Mommy, you and Daddy; I’ll be with you then forever.
Then I’ll give Daddy’s kiss to you.


Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you.
It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those could have been loving years.
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
And I will always love you from that land way up above,
Will be in touch again soon
P.S. God sends his love

Some People

Some people come into our lives
And quickly go.
Some people stay for awhile,
And give us a deeper understanding
Of what is truly important in life.
They touch our souls.
We gain strength from the
Footprints they have left on our hearts,
And we will never be the same.

George Canyon has a beautiful song called My Name about losing a pregnancy.

It’s cold in here fells like everything’s upside down
I can feel you talking but I can barley make out the sound
I been kicking around these parts, feels like a year
I’m gonna change this world if I ever get out of here
She wants to dress me in pink, paint’s my bedroom blue
And I just laugh to myself, because only I know the truth
This love is my only emotion
Haven’t learned any fear any pain
It’s kind of funny with all this commotion
I guess they’ve got me, to blame
And they don’t even know my name
And they don’t even know my name

Well I’ve never felt so ready, think it’s finally time
Cause that big old world is waiting, and it’s mine all mine
Just then everything got real quiet, it got real bright
And a man took my hand said don’t worry, your mommas gonna be alright
Then he opened the gate, & I followed him in
Said you can wait right, here till it’s your turn again
And his love is the one true emotion
Heaven knows no fear no pain
I never got to set my wheels in motion
But they loved me just the same
And they never even knew name
Didn’t even know my name
You loved me just the same
And you didn’t even know my name