Jealous?! Am I the only one??

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Jealous?! Am I the only one??

So I am TOTALLY jealous of the April 12 ladies. I guess b/c it took us so long to get our BFP... and b/c I loved being preggo so much, I am jealous that I can't go back to a year ago and re-live it all over again! I have so many amazing and wonderful memories of that time. We were just giddy about finally expecting our miracle baby!! Don't get me wrong, we LOOOVE having him. We are completely infatuated with him and just spend all our time admiring and loving on him. We are just sure that our parents never doted over us this much Wink But I still miss being pregnant and all the milestones and everything. I have no idea when we'll get to try for #2 or how long that one will take to conceive.... so maybe thats why I'm so jealous of the other ladies.

Well, I just had to vent... Thanks for listening Smile

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aww, first off ((HUGS))- while I don't share the same feelings (I was ready to be done!) I am so amazed at how fast it's going by and that's bumming me out. Maybe because I know she's our last one and I'm busier because of ds and dsd but it's just flying by - she will be 4 months next week! Ack!!! I don't even pretend to know the emotions you have gone through trying to get him here, it's not even a little challenging for us (she was the best oops ever!), but I have some friends who have been trying for 8 years and nothing is working for them. It's hearbreaking really. I think what you're feeling is totally normal too - some people just REALLY like being pregnant! Me, not so much! lol

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You are not the only one! A coworker of mine just had a baby last week and I totally wished it was me! The night before she was going in the hospital I was so excited for her but in the strangest way I was kind of jealous that she was going in to have the baby and not me! And I told my husband it's not that I was ready for ANOTHER one (oh, heck, no), it's more that I wanted to go back and experience all over again the excitement of meeting my baby for the first time, introducing her to friends and family, etc. Just all the fun of a brand new baby. I love watching her grow up but I am sad to see her grow up at the same time. I have no idea if we will have more.

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I could've posted Diana's post pretty much verbatim. Absolutely NOT a fan of pregnancy, but I do keep getting this panicky feeling that Naava is growing up so fast and I"ll never get to do this again. 4 kids are enough for me, though, so I guess I'll just have to wait for grandkids!

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Ditto on Carrie's post! Except I know we're done. DH is having his vasectomy on the 12th. Sad I really don't want more children I just want to be pregnant and have a baby for the first month again. lol I really should be/am grateful for what I have!

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Thanks for the support ladies! I know that what I'm feeling is normal, I just wonder if everyone else feels the same way or not.

On a parallel note, is everyone else still feeling ridiculously hormonal?? I still cry at the drop of a hat! :eek: Not helping with the jealousy feelings! Ha!

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Funny - I'm with Diana and Esti! Pregnancy was NOT my favorite thing... but the end result is sooooo worth it! I know I'm done now (I had that Essure procedure done), but this last birth was such a positive experience that I would do it again in a heartbeat if I knew it would be the same. So I can definitely relate to some of what you're feeling. (And I do think it's totally normal to feel that way! It's because being a mom is the most amazing thing in the world - how can you NOT want to experience the high points again?) Smile

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Caity - I am still like that! I was just watching Delaney in her crib yesterday (she was just smiling and cooing a her mobile buddies) and started crying, commercials on tv - you name it - I'm not boohooing but I tear up over the silliest things! I think the nursing still has the hormones going!

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Awww, Caity, I'm glad you enjoyed pregnancy this time. I don't feel the same, but I guess thats why there are some of us who have 6 kids and some who stop at 1 or 2.

"CaityA83" wrote:

On a parallel note, is everyone else still feeling ridiculously hormonal?? I still cry at the drop of a hat! :eek: Not helping with the jealousy feelings! Ha!

Mine has never stopped... I still tear up easily, when before pregnancy it was a superhuman effort to get me to get misty eyed. I think its a switch that turns on in your body after becoming a mom. My step-mom says it doesn't ever turn off. Wink

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"simer1mh" wrote:

Mine has never stopped... I still tear up easily, when before pregnancy it was a superhuman effort to get me to get misty eyed. I think its a switch that turns on in your body after becoming a mom. My step-mom says it doesn't ever turn off. Wink

I totally agree with this, Martha! Biggrin

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Okay, see, I like being pregnant. Not the terrible m/s, but the rest of it. I don't feel done having kids (crazy though my house is right now). I totally get the jealous feeling. All the time. But, I'm definitely not ready to have another yet. I'd be okay with an oops any time after LO hits 11 months. Pregnancy makes my milk dry up, so I definitely don't want to get pregnant now. I wish I could do both, though.
We're going to try to wait 2-3 years this time. It'll be tough.

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I totally understand that jealousy. I felt that way after DD was born. I'm in a very different place right now. I'm 99% sure that we are done. DH doesn't want to rush making that a permanent decision, so I guess and oops could still happen. I guess I'm strange in that I feel the first month is soooo hard. I mean it's amazing meeting your baby, snuggling, meeting family, but then there is the sleep deprivation, colic, gas. I loved when Nate hit 4 weeks and started smiling and cooing. He is growing up way too fast and I wish I had a pause button.

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"Katie79" wrote:

I totally understand that jealousy. I felt that way after DD was born. I'm in a very different place right now. I'm 99% sure that we are done. DH doesn't want to rush making that a permanent decision, so I guess and oops could still happen. I guess I'm strange in that I feel the first month is soooo hard. I mean it's amazing meeting your baby, snuggling, meeting family, but then there is the sleep deprivation, colic, gas. I loved when Nate hit 4 weeks and started smiling and cooing. He is growing up way too fast and I wish I had a pause button.

I could have written this exact thing except I am the one that doesn't want to make it a permanent decision even though I am almost positive we are done. I feel like we are too young and need to wait a few years. I completely get the jealousy feeling too, but am not feeling it even a little bit right now! In fact, I was just thinking the other day that this is the first time in years that I haven't felt it! It took us a year to get pregnant with Camden and I was so insanely jealous of any pregnant lady I saw, but now if I see someone who is pregnant I just think that I am so glad it is not me!

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Thanks so much ladies for all your input! I am even jealous of the ladies who aren't jealous! haha! I'm quite the mess, eh? If I really think about it then I am glad I'm not pregnant just because Corbin is still so little. I definitely don't want another baby right now. We are definitely in no place to have a second child now either. I just miss going through all of it. I had horrible morning sickness until almost 18 weeks and I don't miss that... but I just miss everything else that went with being pregnant. And I can't wait to get to do it again! Smile

Well thanks for the encouragement and understanding! Dh and I have talked and have no idea how we'll know when we're "done". I can't imagine ever getting to that point of not wanting another child or not wanting to be pregnant again, but I guess everyone gets there one way or another. I'm trying to trust that Smile

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Just wanted to add my two cents. because for me we are done! I knew I was done when I got my girl! Smile but for me I still see and want the pregnant belly and when I see newborns it makes me miss it. I explain to people that I don't want to expierence that with another baby, I just want to go back in time and relive the expierence with the ones I got!!

Enjoy your babies! They do grow fast!!

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I think it really depends on your pregnancy/birth experience. Both of my pregnancies were difficult and fraught with worry and so I really don't want to be pregnant again. But after DD's awesome birth, I totally wanted have another baby and was jealous of women about to go into labor. Now with DS the birth experience was horrible and so I am totally at peace with my family the way that it is. We are definitely done :D.

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Caity, you should get started on trying asap! Wink
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"CaityA83" wrote:

I can't imagine ever getting to that point of not wanting another child or not wanting to be pregnant again,

Me, too. I'm kind of worried that after 3 I still feel that way!

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

Caity, you should get started on trying asap! Wink
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As much as I would love this, DH would kill me. Not ready for Irish twins just yet Smile

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Me, too. I'm kind of worried that after 3 I still feel that way!

So glad I'm not the only one!! Smile

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I get it!! I would love to be able to get pregnant again as soon as I go back to work in April 2012...but...DH thinks we are done. Dh feels he will be too old to have more. I really don't feel finished, but also dont want to feel like Sidney is not my focus. So we are undecided. But it is going by sooo fast! I can honestly say that the second time around it is faster. A friend of mine has 5 children and she said that it goes by faster each time!

It took us 4.5 years to get preggers with Sidney so I figure, we should start trying when he is 2 at the latest...we'll see where we are at that point right?

Stephanie