Daniel has Aspergers

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Nell4Him's picture
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Daniel has Aspergers

So.. I've known it for a long time. My son has Autistic tendencies and I was certain he fell into somewhere on the spectrum.

Today, his speech pathologist mentioned Aspergers to me in relation to Daniel.

I'm uber relieved that someone besides me and my mom see it now.

Time to push for diagnosis.

Gotta run.. he's having another meltdown.

fittoac's picture
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Oh wow, Janelle. I'm sorry to hear that but glad you'll be able to move forward on getting an official diagnosis for Daniel. Please keep us posted. :bighug:

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Glad to hear that you are on the way to getting a diagnosis. There is a boy in DD1's school with Aspergers, his mother had him diagnosed pretty young and he is doing quite well. He did a speech in front of the older students ( grades 5-8 ) last year about it.

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I think that he could be a lot worse than he is if I hadn't had giving as much attention to some of his "quirks". I knew he wasn't normal when he was only 1 year old. I just knew it. I'm so super relieved that someone else mentioned it to me. I've been thinking Autism for a LONG time.

He's already in occupational and speech therapy (just started in September) and he's come a long ways since we started. He started off about a full year behind in communication skills, now he's only about 6 months behind and every day he gets better and better.

Just the other day he said a sentence for the first time. At least one that he came up with all on his own and it wasn't something that is more like a memorized phrase. He was in the tub and he said "Mommy, Mommy, come 'ere! Lookit! I swimming!" I was shocked and very happy.

The only thing I'm concerned about is how DH is gonna handle it. He's the kind of guy that doesn't believe in depression and bi-polar and ADD/HD (which is another issue as DS#1 has it and I just set up an evaluation appointment for him to verify), so how's he gonna handle Autism or Aspergers? He already doesn't think that the way I'm trying to work with him is effective. He thinks it's too "soft" and "baby's him". :confused:

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I am sorry to hear this Janelle, I hope the Dr will help you now. Sending hugs and prayers.

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I do believe that things like depression, bi-polar, ADD/HD do exist I also believe all of them are over diagnosed, ADD/HD especially in young boys.

A lot of young boys are hyper and don't have proper outlets for their energy, parents and teachers are too lazy to properly help these children blow off that energy so they resort to drugs, with your older son just be careful, the drugs for ADD/HD aren't always the best solution.

As for Daniel, it sounds very clear that he isn't progressing properly, hopefully you get a diagnosis and you get the best of care for him.

I hope you can also find a way to let your DH know that the situation is real and needs to be dealt with properly.

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I am sos sorry to hear this - but it sounds like the therpy is helping alot! That is amazing...
Good luck -it may take your husband time to accept it but I am sure with help of Dr's diagnosis and over time hopefully we will understand...

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"Muddee" wrote:

A lot of young boys are hyper and don't have proper outlets for their energy, parents and teachers are too lazy to properly help these children blow off that energy so they resort to drugs, with your older son just be careful, the drugs for ADD/HD aren't always the best solution.

I completely agree on this one and medication is going to be an absolute last resort. I'm working on the diagnosis so that he can get the proper assistance in the classroom. He can't get that without it. They can't say "he just needs to do 15 jumping jacks and then yoga breathing before we ask him to write a paragraph on subject x. They have to have it on paper for some stupid reason. This is the only area he's struggling with is thinking. He has a hard time calming his thoughts down enough to be able to process what he's supposed to do and then he can think of a general thought but struggles to form it into a sentence to be able to write it down. It takes him 2 hours to do what most kids in his class take 10 minutes. :confused:

I was diagnosed with ADD in 3rd grade, then they put me on dexidrene and then came zoloft and riddelin and ..... They eventually changed the diagnosis to Bi Polar with high manic frequency. I struggled in my school life from the very beginning and the medication only made me a zombie. My mom says that she saw a positive difference in my cognitive ability and that she doesn't recall me becoming a zombie.

When I was 18 I told my mom to shove it and I've learned as an adult how to combat my various mood issues and ability to concentrate and whatnot. For a few years I self-medicated with Mtn. Dew and Skittles. No joke.

Gotta go, the boys are giving me crap for being on the computer. :angry5:

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Early diagnosis and treatment with behavior modificaiton, therapy, and such will give Daniel the tools that he needs as he gets older. I've had several Autistic/Asbergers kids over the years, and the kids with early intervention tend to do much better. Here in Texas, he would be eligible for Early Childhood Education at 3, through the public school system. Kinda like a pre, pre kindergarten. From the sounds of it, the therapists that he's seeing know how to handle him.

Sounds like your husband needs some factual information to help him understand how the brain works and that these things do exist, as you well know. Perhaps a visit with the peditrician or a family therapist may help. Parents of children with special needs need to be on the same page. Otherwise, it's the child that loses out. I've been on antidepressants for 15 years. My brother, my mom, my aunt, many cousins and on and on. Much of the depression is genetic. We have the alcoholism gene on both sides of the family. Lots of depression. Some bipolar. Lots of ADD. My dad started on ADD meds a few years ago, in his mid 50s. Said he was amazed at the difference it made. He struggled in school because of attention.

Now, here's the teacher in me. Medication for ADD/ADHD is a crutch that many children need to help them develop coping skills to manage their behavior. The goal for many is to come off the meds. Some kids will outgrow it. Some won't. If they are zombified, they are overmedicated. I have discussed this on many occasions with parents because overmedicating is just as bad as not medicating. It doesn't serve its purpose. I've seen the meds do amazing things for kids confidence, performance, and overall attitude. I don't believe that meds should be the first line of defense, but are definately something to consider.

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Sorry to hear about what you're going through! But it sounds like Daniel is really making great progress in his OT & Speech therapies. Having a diagnosis is half the battle. Now with a diagnosis, you know where the focus on treatments can and should be. (That's how I felt when Ava got her CP diagnosis in March). Good luck to your family. You know what's best for him & your DH will come around.

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